Cheeks18 Posted April 5, 2010 Share Posted April 5, 2010 So last week I went on vacation, had a great time with my family that lives where I visited....and I have been feeling better then ever with the whole break up which happened about 10 months ago now...with nc for about 4-5 months.... So my ex is friends with some of my friends, we both met this group when we where dating....But there all 21 and up so I havent really hung out with them lately, and she turned 21 about a month ago, so obviously she has met up with them at the bars and such with her new bf(Rebound).....My best friends older brother who Im good friends with was talking to her I guess and she told him to tell me and my best friend to leave her alone, that she never wants to hear or see from either of us again...which confused me because Ive left her be....but I know my best friend will text her randomly, which I can care less about.... So when my best friend heres about this, he texts her and he gets a reply about 2 weeks later.....And they kinda come to the agreement that we are going to run into each other and it would be best if things were civil... Im just so confused on why all this came about....Ive left her alone completely, NO CONTACT whatsoever... Is she just worrying that shes going to run in to me and have feelings? Dont get it.... Any advice or thoughts would be great....THANKS Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kahdeksan Posted April 5, 2010 Share Posted April 5, 2010 Hrm... going by the post, I think I smell a dooky. What if your best friend is interested in her and saw it fit to use you - as a topic of discussion to disguise his ulterior motives - by anchoring himself into her good books? That is the one plausible scenario I can think of in which your name has been dragged through the mud. To which I might add that I have seen this happen, and have indeed experienced it too. The other is that she wants to come off as this guy magnet... However, that's counter balanced by the above notion though as it makes no sense at all. Unless she thought your best mates brother wouldn't go spilling the beans, so she sought to lie about it, or blow it out of proportion. Crazy! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheeks18 Posted April 5, 2010 Author Share Posted April 5, 2010 Lol, thanks for the reply..... This is my best friend for life type of friend that just tends to put himself in tight spots...theres no attraction what so ever on either side of the equation...I can promise that.... I guess the guy magnet thing would be a possibility but shes that without having to give of the sense that she is.....Shes gorgeous, but her personality isnt the greatest....So she gets a lot of attention, as it is and her friends and my friends know this.... Any other ideas?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fLuiD Posted April 5, 2010 Share Posted April 5, 2010 She somehow seems to pop back into the picture, huh? I think she really is trying to cover herself before things get too sticky...Kind of giving you a heads up and reminder that you should stay away from her. Did you guys have a somewhat nasty breakup? I remember you posting before about her playing softball with your mom. I would tell you to snap back at her with 'Well if you want to stay away from me, then don't play softball with my mom' but this might just lead to drama and a whole back and forth of pointless discussions. I think she might be trying to stir things up and get someone (you) worked up to a point where you might just pop. Could be because she misses arguing with you (Weird, but I miss arguing with my ex sometimes) and needs some kind of interaction with you. This could be intentional, or it could be completely unintentional. Be the bigger man here, and let her 'win' on this one by not saying much about her comment. I sense a bit of a desperate move on her part to stir up emotions. Kinda sucks to let her continue running her mouth about how she never wants to see you again without any real basis for it since you havent contacted her, but I think its best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheeks18 Posted April 5, 2010 Author Share Posted April 5, 2010 Yea thats more or less what I was leaning towards.....Im gonna stay strong and just not say anything at all...to anyone. I just wish the game playing would stop, its gonna be so weird when we run into each other....every time we did only 2 times since the break up...she ends up leaving upset and crying....if she over me and with this guy and in love like she says she is, she needs to stop this BS....Im fine being alone Ive learned to love it actually...idk... Thanks Fluid....pretty much what I needed to hear!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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