Going to break up with my girlfriend after work today

[Billy587]

It just hurts so bad. We've been dating over a year (we're both 27), I just can't take it anymore. I have done everything in the world for her, but she continues to lie, blow me off when we have plans, and just generally treat me like crap. She has a huge drinking problem which had really hurt our relationship, and she also has an eating disorder. I've expressed several times the things she has done to damage our relationship and have tried endlessly to work it out. It will take me every ounce of courage to go through this though. I can't imagine being alone after this, and the worst part is, no matter how bad she has treated me, going through this breakup still makes me want to throw up. I'm addicted to the feeling of her snuggling up and cuddling with me and pressing my head up against hers. I know this sounds pathetic, but it just hurts so much and as much as this breakup needs to happen, I still don't know if I can go through with it. Anyways, just needed to vent. Thanks for reading.

[DontGetStung]

Billy, it's not pathetic, it's normal to feel this way once you've gotten so used to someone. Good luck, sounds like you've done all you can, time to let go.

[livelarge]

I think it's hard to leave an alcoholic/person with an eating disorder because you know they are sick. But if you read enough, you realize that sometimes leaving them is the best thing you can do for them. They won't seek help until they hit rock bottom. And often we prop them up just enough so they don't think they are at rock bottom.

 

I know I felt a lot of guilt leaving behind my alcoholic friend. But he's in treatment now and getting better, so it was worth it.

 

And truly, you need to take care of yourself because she's not going to.

[aporia14]

I am sorry to hear that you are going through a break-up. I have been contemplating a break-up with my husband but he is not detrimental to my well-being the way your gf is to you. It sounds like your girlfriend is disrespectful to you. This should be a source of strength for you. To know that you are doing what you need to do in order to be an emotionally healthy person. Realistically you cannot spend your life helping someone that clearly is not interested in helping herself. I think you are making a great decision in ending things. A long time ago I ended an 8 year relationship that was bad for me. I got through it because I kept telling myself that it was best for me, and I had to cut-off all communication with him. I hope you are able to go through with it and stay strong. Good Luck.

[DN]

I hope this goes reasonably well for you but it does seem that you made the right decision.

[Irish Jax]

Sorry to hear you are going through that. I know it must be hard to make a decision like this and perform it. It sounds like you have really thought about it and have come to the right decision that is best for you.

[deecbee]

Good luck. Remember that you are doing her a favor, no matter how much she kicks and screams. In fact, in this situation, I'd even be prepared for suicide threats or acting out in a major way. Don't let it weaken your resolve. You have yourself to take care of- she will be okay in the end.