how to stop feeling this way?

[tintin_K]

I am a 33 year old married woman with a great husband and lovely son. I have a very successful career. But the problem with me is that almost everybody at my work place (except very senior management) are younger than me. I try my best to hide the fact that this bothers me and even joke about it. However I feel extremely sad / angry when they say anything about me being older. This has gotten to the point where I resent everything about them - particularly another married lady who is 6 years younger than me and who joined last July. We share the same office. She seems so cool and collected and happy. She has never been anyting but nice to me.There is a guy who is her age and used to be my best buddy. He is now very friendly with her and I feel an intense jealousy about that. I try to find out if they did anything without me and constantly compare how he is with her and how he is with me. Basically I feel like he likes her more than he likes me these days. I don't show it, but I am constantly seeking his validation, admiration. This lady doesn't have kids yet - so she has more flexibility in terms of hanging out after work etc. I feel so resentful of that.

 

I am very much into exercise and look their age. A lot of people told me that and I do get a lot of attention too. However that never seems to be enough.

 

I have another major problem. I am very outgoing and funny. I keep thinking that people would think that I am very loud and dont have style. This comes very naturally to me. However at the end of the day, I always wish I hadn't said something, laughed less or kept my mouth shut. Is it very unattractive to be extremely extrovert? How do I change myself?

[lovexo]

Why would you ever want to change yourself? Especially to fit what other people may "like" Im sure there a plenty of people wishing they could be more like you...outgoing,funny, etc. How bout the shy people that never know what to say,so they dont say anything ..etc And also the wisdome you may have over these people because you are older...and god..your only 33 thats so young..i know maybe not to you, because of the people around you, but it is If people dont like you they way you are, who you are, then you dont need these people in your life, and who cares what they think. The people that matter are the ones that love you for who you are. You will never be happy trying to change who you are to "fit" what you think should be. Be happy being you, because im sure there are a lot of people that love who you are..and theres only one you!! You will feel a lot lot worse it you are pretending to be someone your not.