How do I stop caring?

[the_pole]

I recently (about 2 months ago) broke up with my ex girlfriend of 1.5 years. She was my second girlfriend who I dated very shortly after my first who I went out with for 2 years. Essentially I've been in a relationship almost constantly for about 4 years and this is the first time I'm single by my own choice (im 22 years old by the way). It was my decision, and I do not regret it at all. I simply stopped loving her and being attracted to her and felt it was better for both of us if I ended it.

 

I feel like I am over her, we are good friends, and even seeing her flirting with other guys and mentioning who she likes doesn't worry me at all. What I am not over though is having somebody to love. I don't miss her in particular, but I very often feel lonely and wish I had her, or anybody to cuddle with and kiss and spend time with.

 

I'm not totally alone, my flat-mates and friends and family are around, I spend lots of time with them all and am keeping relatively active, but I just feel that I can't be happy without a girl by my side. Nothing seems worth doing unless I have a girlfriend or a girl to pursue. I spent the last week or so texting a girl I was interested in and it felt great, I felt like I was actually doing something worthwhile, until I was told by her friend that she doesn't really like me in that way. When I was told this all the feelings of loneliness and hopelessness came flooding back and i feel like crap again.

 

I know that I have far more success with girls if I'm not actively looking and when I stop actually caring about finding somebody. I know the solution is to occupy myself with hobbies and sports and other activities and somebody will come along, and I have been trying to do that, but everything is just boring to me. I can't focus on anything, I have a short attention span and I waste all day doing practically nothing, sleeping, meandering aimlessly on the internet, and I'm worried that this sort of behaviour might lead to depression.

 

So the question is, how do I stop caring about finding a new girl? I know I'm essentially wanting to do this in order to find a new girl, but I just don't know what to do. I hate being single, but I know that unless I embrace being single, I will remain single for a long time. What do i do? Has anybody else been in a situation like this before?

[aurevoir]

How to stop caring?

Take the time to be angry.

Let your emotions out seriously.

Then engulf yourself into numerous activities and hobbies..

you'll forget soon. Or just go and meet new people!