Have you ever taken someones virginity?

[MD Geist]

The title is the question and no you cannot say you did yourself!.

 

I'm talking about have you ever taken someone's virginity, they lost it to you.

 

What was your age? and their age? experience? birth control method? and how was the relationship? are you still with the person today?

 

How was the feeling knowing that you where their first?.

[Theblueman123]

Virginity is defined differently by everyone...and I'm curious. Are you asking for advice or merely taking a statistics poll?

[Crazyaboutdogs]

You really shouldn't place that much emphasis on "taking someone's virginity". Nobody "takes" someone's virginity. Two people have sex..one might have experience one might not, end of story. There are firsts for everything in life and nobody places that much importance on the first time they did X, Y or Z...so why place that much importance on the first time someone has sex.

[annie24]

not that i know of. and if i did, i'm not with them anymore, i'm single. as blueman points out - there are so many different definitions of virginity - oral sex, hand jobs, etc...

[I_Speak_Jive]

I have --but I always gave it back in perfect condition.

[MD Geist]

Virginity is defined differently by everyone...and I'm curious. Are you asking for advice or merely taking a statistics poll?

 

No.

 

Its simple question of have you ever been with anyone who was a virgin.

 

not that i know of. and if i did, i'm not with them anymore, i'm single. as blueman points out - there are so many different definitions of virginity - oral sex, hand jobs, etc...

 

I never thought those would count.

[pinkelephant]

No, but I really want to. I think it's hot. LOL

[G-Snap]

Question: What did you do with their virginity after you took it?

[JonasWaingaro]

Question: What did you do with their virginity after you took it?

 

I have --but I always gave it back in perfect condition.

 

^^^You give it back of course!

 

And pinkelephant, I'm free on Tuesday.

[Fudgie]

Nope, I haven't. I've only been with 2 men (including my current boyfriend) and they were both much older than me and had already had sex. My bf now has been married in the past! So that's a no.

 

Neither of them had many sexual partners though.

 

I gave my virginity to the first guy. I was 18 and he was 34. He hadn't had sex in 8 years and had previously got tested and was clean and I was on BC so we didn't use condoms. We were in a monogamous relationship too. It was great. We aren't together anymore but we are still friends and I don't regret it.

[babii doll]

yes, once in my early 20s. it wasnt serious for me, it was for him. just dating for a little while. used condoms. we're not together. it was more of a feeling like i wouldnt meet his expectations of what he thought sex would be like.

 

that he may be dissapointed. but it was also a bit of an ego thing knowing he wouldnt forget me, even after im gone.

[Cognitive_Canine]

I'm talking about have you ever taken someone's virginity, they lost it to you. I didn't take it nor give it. We both had sex. I didn't feel like a virgin when I had sex either. We'd been messing around for more than a year and a half at that point. I felt like I slowly lost my virginity during that time.

 

What was your age? 19 and their age? 19 experience? It took him forever to finish and it hurt the entire time he got it in. However, once it was in all the way, it was great. He was a wonderful partner. Very caring. We probably wouldn't have continued if I wouldn't have told him to, he was so concerned about it hurting me. birth control method? The pill. and how was the relationship? Great. are you still with the person today? Yes, And it's better than ever.

 

How was the feeling knowing that you where their first? apathy. I didn't care that he was a virgin. It was nice not worrying about STD/s at all and going through my first time with someone else who was also going through their first time. It was romantic, in a way.

[Organs]

I haven't, but I can understand how this can be an interesting question.

 

There's the emotions involved. There's the approach. And there's the method. How do you break the ice? How do you ease someone into it? How do you minimize the awkwardness for the other person?

 

And then, for the guys, there's how hard you should do it. There's the gentleness factor.

[MD Geist]

Question: What did you do with their virginity after you took it?

 

I don't know! I've never taken or given it out.

[greywolf]

Let's see... My ex had never slept with a girl before, so I took her lesbian virginity??

 

We were both 20 and it was my first time having sex. Birth control was unnecessary lol, and we're not together anymore.

 

I didn't feel any different and neither did she, although at the time I was pretty disgusted that I had slept with a girl.

[greywolf]

No, but I really want to. I think it's hot. LOL

 

Yeah me too...

[G-Snap]

Let's see... My ex had never slept with a girl before, so I took her lesbian virginity??

 

We were both 20 and it was my first time having sex. Birth control was unnecessary lol, and we're not together anymore.

 

I didn't feel any different and neither did she, although at the time I was pretty disgusted that I had slept with a girl.

 

Grey, out of curiosity why were you disgusted? Had you not discovered your attraction to females yet?

 

You bring up a good point by asking did you take away her lesbian virginity - what is really the definition of virginity? do people who have only had gay sex 'technically' remain a virgin?

 

I think once we are regularly sexually active we are no longer virgins even if no penetration. Far too many young girls will do everything dirty under the sun except penetration and brag about being a virgin.

[greywolf]

Grey, out of curiosity why were you disgusted? Had you not discovered your attraction to females yet?

 

I hadn't. I found girls physically attractive and I watched lesbian porn once in awhile, but straight girls do that too, so I didn't know lol. Also, I grew up in a very conservative christian family.

 

You bring up a good point by asking did you take away her lesbian virginity - what is really the definition of virginity? do people who have only had gay sex 'technically' remain a virgin?

 

I think once we are regularly sexually active we are no longer virgins even if no penetration. Far too many young girls will do everything dirty under the sun except penetration and brag about being a virgin.

 

Well, she had had sex with men in the past, so she wasn't really a virgin. It was my first time having sex though. I didn't consider myself a virgin after that although many people would think otherwise.

[G-Snap]

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Well, she had had sex with men in the past, so she wasn't really a virgin. It was my first time having sex though. I didn't consider myself a virgin after that although many people would think otherwise.

 

Yea, I just wondered how 'straight' people define virginity in a gay person who never has had mainstream sex, but HAS had gay sex. Just one of those wondering outloud questions...wondering if they consider the gay person a virgin since they never had 'mainstream penetration"?

 

That's why I think its silly for people to ONLY equate virginity to penetration and not jsut being sexually active in general.

[greywolf]

Yea, I just wondered how 'straight' people define virginity in a gay person who never has had mainstream sex, but HAS had gay sex. Just one of those wondering outloud questions...wondering if they consider the gay person a virgin since they never had 'mainstream penetration"?

 

That's why I think its silly for people to ONLY equate virginity to penetration and not jsut being sexually active in general.

 

A lot of people think of virginity as vaginal penetration by a penis. I was told many times that I was still a virgin, even by a lot of people here on ENA. Although most people don't consider gay guys as virgins. There's just a cultural belief that a penis needs to be involved for sex to occur.

[OptomisticGirl]

The title is the question and no you cannot say you did yourself!.

 

I'm talking about have you ever taken someone's virginity, they lost it to you.

 

What was your age? and their age? experience? birth control method? and how was the relationship? are you still with the person today?

 

How was the feeling knowing that you where their first?.

 

Yes, I have.

 

Uh 17 I believe. They were 17 as well. Not much experience on both ends at that point... pill and condom was used... relationship was just starting, 4th or 5th date after 2 or so months together I believe. No, I am not with this person anymore thank God.

[Jpo]

Nope, not that I know of.

 

I don't think I would like taking someone's virginity because I am just not really willing to participate in a serious relationship at this time in my life. As I understand it, most people become very attached to the first person they have sex with.

[civilservant]

Yes. Their 16th birthday, me also 16. Used a condom.

 

Relationship at the time was good, turned into an engagment. Ended in disaster. For me at least.

[Belgian girl]

Yes and it felt way more special than when I gave my viginity away (happened more early, with someone else). But there I have my doubts about if he cheated it feels less special now.

[Belgian girl]

Nope, not that I know of.

 

I don't think I would like taking someone's virginity because I am just not really willing to participate in a serious relationship at this time in my life. As I understand it, most people become very attached to the first person they have sex with.

 

 

Also if it are men, you think ? I hope, I hope. It's about a very sensitive kind of men btw.