Tonight he texted me by mistake

[jammed]

 

Don't think I can trust him anymore. He texted me 3 texts tonight:

1. Muahhhh

2. Whatever

3. I will...muahhh

 

None of these was part of a converstaion I was having with him. So, I texted back "You will what?"

He replied "What"

I said "You texted me "I will...muahh"

He responded, "Oh my da#$ phone, it must have sent you an old message."

 

I just have not been able to bring myself to respond. He has texted several more times asking what I am doing and sending me kisses. I have been stoic..just can't respond.

 

First of all we have been dating a little over 2 months. We are not exclusive but are having safe sex.

 

I understand that he will talk to other women, but this is sloppy.

 

I am feeling like I need to cut him loose. Any thoughts?

Also, I am feeling like giving up on ever finding a man who will be worthy of my love and devotion. I am so sad and jaded. Just depressed.

[iBroken]

Id drop him like its hot

 

Even if its not serious, you are right - that is too sloppy.

 

Id respond by letting him know to loose your number so he doesnt make these mistakes anymore........

 

And dont get down on dating - love usually comes to us when we arent looking for it

 

Good Luck

[eggplant47]

Wait... does Muahh mean something I'm not aware of? Because if not, these text messages seem pretty innocent to me... I mean, who has not been the victim of a random misplaced text message from the Twilight Zone?

 

I know I have several times accidentally sent the wrong message to the wrong friend... I have also been butt texted by friends in the middle of the night.

 

Has he done anything prior to make you suspicious of him? If he's got a clean record so far, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt on this one.

[Brittney2008]

^ It's like a kiss I believe.

[eggplant47]

^ It's like a kiss I believe.

 

Ooooo. I get it! Maybe that is shady then....

 

Thanks Brittney!

[jammed]

Wait... does Muahh mean something I'm not aware of? Because if not, these text messages seem pretty innocent to me... I mean, who has not been the victim of a random misplaced text message from the Twilight Zone?

 

I know I have several times accidentally sent the wrong message to the wrong friend... I have also been butt texted by friends in the middle of the night.

 

Has he done anything prior to make you suspicious of him? If he's got a clean record so far, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt on this one.

 

Yeah, "muah" is a kiss.

[jammed]

Part of me wants to lay into him and tell him off. The other half thinks it would be best to just walk away and never give him the luxury of ever hearing from me again.

 

But then a third part thinks..well he was honest from the start that he wants to date and not get into a relationship right now. So i knew we would not be exclusive.

 

I think the problem is:

1. It is damaging my sense of self respect to look the other way.

2. I do want a LTR and I need more than he is capable/ willing to give.

[Unity]

If that's the case jammed then it sounds like you're just not compatible .. if he's not looking for a relationship I mean ..

 

I mean it sucks that he did that and you had to "see" it but honestly if he was super super into you, he would drop his "I don't want a relationship" thing and would be with YOU and only you. Right now it sounds like he's just enjoying being single and unattached, which is fine, but ultimately not what YOU want, so you're better off moving on now and trying to find someone who wants what you do too.

 

Ultimately I don't think he did anything wrong other than do something careless, so if you do break up with him, realize it's only because you want different things right now.

[jammed]

Yeah, Unity, I agree. It stings none the less to have it thrown in my face that he is seeing someone else. It is one thing to know it is am option and another to know it is happening.

He has been super attentive texting me several times a day to keep in touch. Only one day since January has there been no contact at all. I am going to think about it some more. Sleep on it. And decide what I want to do.

[Unity]

Sounds good to me jammed. You don't have to make any hasty decisions. But keep in mind that if he's keeping his options open, for now it can't hurt to do the same thing too. It sounds like he does care about you but definitely I can see how that would have hurt/stung you to have it right in your face like that ..

 

I'm sorry hun in your corner.

[eggplant47]

Yeah, Unity, I agree. It stings none the less to have it thrown in my face that he is seeing someone else. It is one thing to know it is am option and another to know it is happening.

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I mean.... I agree now that I understand the full meaning of the texts that they're questionable.... but isn't it possible that what he said about it being some fluke where the phone poofed out a few old texts is true?

 

Really, what it comes down to I think, is whether you can be content with what he's offering or whether you need more.

 

Good luck. I know it's a hard decision to make.

[anggrace]

I had a bf send me a text that said "goodmorning beautiful". My phone also informed me that it was a duplicate, meaning he had sent it before and was resending. It was the first and only time I had seen a text like that. I later found out he was "talking" to other girls from dating and sex sites... so, there you go.

 

Id see it as a red flag, but that's just me.

[jammed]

anggrace, it is definitely not a duplicate text. His previous phone did that and he bought a brand new phone. It just arrived two days ago. The problem is,now he has a touchscreen and he has been having trouble getting used to it.

 

I am sure he is hating it by now.

 

I have never stopped keeping my options open. I am just in a bad place right now. There is a guy I knew in college who I may go out with. We both have been online dating and shared horror stories yesterday.

[jammed]

Oh and after some thought I will keep talkng to him but I can not sleep with him anymore. I just can't.

[BriarRose]

Oh and after some thought I will keep talkng to him but I can not sleep with him anymore. I just can't.

After 2 months, I don't blame you. That is enough time for exclusivity (more than enough time in my book).

[jammed]

Wish some guys would weigh in on this.

[bebeblondie]

Oh and after some thought I will keep talkng to him but I can not sleep with him anymore. I just can't.

 

I'm guessing if you stop sleeping with him, you two won't last much longer. It's pretty hard to start sleeping with someone and then all of a sudden stop, it sucks but thats the way it is. That being said, I think you need to break off your relationship with him altogether because it seems like he's not giving you what you want and it doesn't seem like he ever will.

 

If you continue seeing him your feelings will probably grow for him and you'll want a relationship from him, which he's already said he does not want.

[candykisses]

Lol forget about him, unless you like someone who sounds like he's perpetually stoned. I knew a guy like that, who would send wrong texts of a random nature. One day out of the blue I just sent him a super random text that said "IMA SLAP YOUR A$$ ONE DAY!!!"

 

He got the message. lol

[IKnowTheFeelin]

Wish some guys would weigh in on this.

 

I'm not sure a guy perspective in this case will be much different from what you've already been told, but here's my take.

 

You've already made your decision, you want a relationship, he doesn't want a relationship. He seems like a loser who doesn't know what he wants or have his priorities straight.

 

He's more than likely just wanting sex because you didn't really give his reasoning for not wanting a relationship, and two months is more than enough time to have figured out if you want exclusivity or not. When you drop sex, the relationship will probably end.

 

The question in my mind is whether or not you'll be strong enough to stick to your guns and stay strong enough to say no and look for what you want, because it sounds as though you're not good at being single, just from what I'm interpreting from this.

 

My advice is get away from that guy, it's not what you want obviously and STAY STRONG. There are good guys out there, just keep trying. It hurts and it's hard, but without the sour, we wouldn't know what sweet tastes like!

 

Good luck

[jammed]

Thanks everyone! I am going to dinner with a new guy tonight. He seems very nice and is on the same page as me about what he is looking for....or at least that is what he is saying now! LOL!

 

The "text challenged" guy is still texting me..and trying really hard to keep my interest. I guess he can sense me pulling away. Interesting.