Vince99 Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 There's a girl who comes in to shop at my store about once a week. Do you think it would be weird or in any way not a good idea to ask her out for a drink or coffee or something? Link to comment
PoopyBear Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 What sort of shop? Do you chat with her when she comes in? Link to comment
jul-els Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 As long as you don't mind the possibility of her saying no, I don't think it would be a problem. I wouldn't let your superiors know you're doing this though. They may very well frown on it. Link to comment
Vince99 Posted April 3, 2010 Author Share Posted April 3, 2010 It's the wine store I own. She always gives me a big smile when she she's I'm here, and yes, she stops and talks with me more than she has to. Last time she was in she made sure to get my name. (I already knew hers from her checks). Link to comment
Vince99 Posted April 3, 2010 Author Share Posted April 3, 2010 As long as you don't mind the possibility of her saying no, I don't think it would be a problem. I wouldn't let your superiors know you're doing this though. They may very well frown on it. I don't have any superiors! Link to comment
G-Snap Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 Agree with Ju-les. Some companies/businesses might have a rule against that. Main reason is because if they allowed this and the customer isn't interested, it might make them feel uncomfortable coming back. I wouldn't suggest it really. If it were the other way around and you were the customer, and having friendly chats with her being the one on the other side of the counter, then its ok. Being the employee, there is a small chance the customer could feel alienated or uncomfortable and not want to come back. I've had that happen to me. A guy at the convenience store near where I work - I'd go in everyday after work. He was constantly chatting me up in ways that made me feel uncomfortable. I was too nice to say anything but when he started saying things like "i wonder if a girl like you would ever go out with me" i stopped going there and went out of my way to go to another store as I was beginning to feel creeped out. Not saying at all that YOU will creep her out, but you never really know how it will make her feel if the feelings are not reciprocated by her. See I was very nice to the guy in this store because I am very friendly everywhere I go. He MISTOOK that as interest I guess, and it ended up making me feel very uncomfortable. Uncomfortable enough to stop going there. EDITED to add I just saw that you are the owner, but everything I said holds true. As the business owner you wouldn't want to make her feel uncomfortable shopping at your place. Link to comment
G-Snap Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 4157458]I don't have any superiors! We ALL work for somebody. In your case its your customers as if you didn't serve them, you wouldn't have a wine shop! Link to comment
In the Dark Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 Ohhhhh the amount of times I had wanted to ask out a customer..... My boss knows I am single and expects me to go and talk to them if he sees a young woman who he thinks is hot. I have come close but I am usually thinking about my work at the time as well so I know I may come off as straight forward at to the point with a fake smile as I am still in customer service mode. If there is someone who is around his age and he think is is hot he will go up there, place one leg on a chair and start chatting them up while serving them. Link to comment
Vince99 Posted April 3, 2010 Author Share Posted April 3, 2010 Hmm. Well, hopefully "would you like to get coffee sometime" won't freak her out. If it does, I'll survive if she stops coming in. Link to comment
LBP Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 Hmm. Well, hopefully "would you like to get coffee sometime" won't freak her out. If it does, I'll survive if she stops coming in. Well shoot, I think that circumstances indicate that you ask her to join you in sampling a particular favorite bottle over the course of some quiet event. Link to comment
annie24 Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 Well shoot, I think that circumstances indicate that you ask her to join you in sampling a particular favorite bottle over the course of some quiet event. lol, i agree!!!! what's up with coffee when you own a liquor store? have a bottle of wine!!!! or a nice microbrew. Link to comment
Stella Sleepwalks Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 Personally, I have never said yes to a coffee date. Coffee dates to me say, "I don't want to commit to an evening with you." Why not pick out a wine that YOU like the next time she comes in, and recommend it to her. Strike up a conversation before you take the plunge, and see if she's single too! If she is, ask her out for a drink in a nice wine bar so that there is also a possibility it could lead to dinner..... Good luck! Link to comment
G-Snap Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 Hmm. Well, hopefully "would you like to get coffee sometime" won't freak her out. If it does, I'll survive if she stops coming in. I was just sharing my story.....take it or leave it, just giving you a perspective from a customer Your situation might end up totally different. My main point was is she just being friendly like I was and it is misintepreted, or do you think there is some attraction? If you do proceed, good luck and hope she agrees! Link to comment
sidehop Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 Personally I would not, if she's really interested she can ask you. You may be putting your job in jeopardy and the company itself. But of course it wouldn't hurt to give her subtle hints that you're interested Link to comment
Samedy Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 My Grandmother met my grandfather at a bank when he was a teller.... Link to comment
Maya_A Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 I don't see what the big deal at all is, to ask her out for a coffee. Not sure if I'd do the alcohol as that is a more evening thing. It really depends on just how much the two of you have chatted & how long it's been going on. If you barely know one another, I'd stick to a chat over coffee firstly. Everyone is different (as another said they don't like coffee first dates) but I am put off by something too intimate sounding when I barely know a person. I don't necessarily want to spend the entire evening with them. I'd rather have a coffee meeting to see if we hit it off first, and if so, then plan a longer date. Anyway - I can't see the "harm" if done tastefully & also if you are prepared to act no differently whatsoever if she were to say no... Life is short so if there is a potential interest I say check it out... Good luck if you do... Link to comment
G-Snap Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 Anyway - I can't see the "harm" if done tastefully & also if you are prepared to act no differently whatsoever if she were to say no... I think this is the most important thing really. If she says no just try to shrug it off and not act any differently (not saying you wouldn't, but I have no idea as I don't know you, so just reiterating the suggestion). Link to comment
annie24 Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 My Grandmother met my grandfather at a bank when he was a teller.... that's how my friend met his gf. she was a teller, he asked her out. Link to comment
Vince99 Posted April 3, 2010 Author Share Posted April 3, 2010 Personally, I have never said yes to a coffee date. Coffee dates to me say, "I don't want to commit to an evening with you." Why not pick out a wine that YOU like the next time she comes in, and recommend it to her. Strike up a conversation before you take the plunge, and see if she's single too! If she is, ask her out for a drink in a nice wine bar so that there is also a possibility it could lead to dinner..... Good luck! I already know she's single! Thanks, Stalkbook, er, I mean facebook. Link to comment
Stella Sleepwalks Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 I already know she's single! Thanks, Stalkbook, er, I mean facebook. LOL! Then just go for it! Link to comment
Applewhite Posted April 3, 2010 Share Posted April 3, 2010 Personally, I have never said yes to a coffee date. Coffee dates to me say, "I don't want to commit to an evening with you." Why not pick out a wine that YOU like the next time she comes in, and recommend it to her. Strike up a conversation before you take the plunge, and see if she's single too! If she is, ask her out for a drink in a nice wine bar so that there is also a possibility it could lead to dinner..... Good luck! I like the wine idea the others give. But there is NOTHING wrong with a coffee date, and that is not how I see it. Link to comment
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