am i a loser?

[biddo]

ok lately im feeling a tiny bit of depression.

 

heres my question: am I a loser?

 

about me : I'm 27, I haven't had a real relationship since 2006. ( ive had relationships since 2006 the most they've lasted was about 2 months).

 

I am un employed been so since 16th january 2010.

I am studying a course. ( most of which are kids age 18 - 20)

I havent had sex since the 24 of january this year.

 

and I live at home with my parents.

 

am I a loser?

[Tony01]

honestly m8 i dont think you are

 

yove maybe had it rought the past few months with unenployment (recission) and realtionships (when are relationships easy)

 

i really think all you need to do is find a job for now to get money go out and enjoy yourself

[agent1607307371]

No.

 

But the fact you dwell on them edges you closer.

 

(With the exception of the job thing, of course. Unemployment is a serious bummer and I hope you find something soon.)

[Naru]

no u r not a loser, its not possible in frankly im rather upset that u think that bout urself n you u have it way better than me, im not gonna get into detail but ur life sounds complete, n look at this ur suffering from wat u say? the recession jobs are harder to get n these times ur more likely to see alot of crazy * * * * n wat i mean bout that is women girls babes the works they want money nowadays money is everythng but its no fair cause money is like classic jordans yeah there rare n u barely c them unless ur rich friend lets u n his house, dnt trip man ur not a loser......oh n living with ur parents isnt bad at all more money if dnt pay rent n less * * * * to worry so u can focus on wat u need to do to further improve ur life, its all very simple.

[Cognitive_Canine]

No, you are not. Do not compare yourself to other people. And, even if you do compare yourself to other people, you'll see that a lot of people are out of work and hard on money.

 

However, what we tell you will not make you feel better about yourself. I'd make a list of things that you want to do. Separate it into future goals and things you can begin to work on now.

[LightbulbSun]

No, you're not a loser. You've done more than me, if you're a loser, I'm a loser, too.

 

But the fact is, everyone moves at their own pace. Some move faster than others, some move slower. The only thing that matters is how YOU feel about YOURSELF.

[tso]

You're only a loser if you think you're a loser. To be a loser you have to have lost at something, so what have you lost?

[GarnetRed]

I'm about your age, haven't had a relationship since 2006, or sex since that relationship ended, and haven't had so much as a date since either. If you're a loser I might as well be dead. Be pleased you can at least see interest in other people- no one has interested me in forever.

[biddo]

You're only a loser if you think you're a loser. To be a loser you have to have lost at something, so what have you lost?

time maybe... since i left school i had several jobs the longest one being at american express.

 

I have travelled .... a bit. been to europe , pacific islands etc.

 

But I have definitely not lose in life. I am still young.

[annie24]

i don't think you are a loser. depends on how you define that. why do you think you are loser?

 

you are in school trying to better yourself. it's not a big deal to live with your parents and not have a job when you are taking classes, that is typical. and just because you haven't had many relationships doesn't make you a loser either. just picky.

[glegend]

You're not a loser.

 

A good definition of a loser is this guy. People here seem to know him, his name is GLegend.

[offplanet]

I don't think you should allow that word 'loser' into your vocabulary, especially in relation to yourself. After all, it's a meaningless concept, since it cannot be objectively determined whether one is a loser or not, or who is and who isn't. It's purely subjective, so seeing as you have the choice to call yourself a loser or a winner or something neutral, why not choose the better option? Like most people, you probably do well in some areas, and not so well in others, but so what? Don't even think about 'loser/not loser'. Be kind to yourself, and always be striving to overcome your difficulties. Keep your outlook positive and always hopeful. Be strong.

[biddo]

I don't think you should allow that word 'loser' into your vocabulary, especially in relation to yourself. After all, it's a meaningless concept, since it cannot be objectively determined whether one is a loser or not, or who is and who isn't. It's purely subjective, so seeing as you have the choice to call yourself a loser or a winner or something neutral, why not choose the better option? Like most people, you probably do well in some areas, and not so well in others, but so what? Don't even think about 'loser/not loser'. Be kind to yourself, and always be striving to overcome your difficulties. Keep your outlook positive and always hopeful. Be strong.

thanks I will do it!

 

Buddy you no loser, you come accross as young professional which field you are in? Don't ever let others to dictate who you are. Many folks are in the same boat as you are, shoot me a PM if you need a friend, Cheers bud, Riggy

thanks currently i'm studying marketing.

 

You're not a loser.

 

A good definition of a loser is this guy. People here seem to know him, his name is GLegend.

 

hey man why do u think this glegend(if thats not yourself you're referring to) guy is a loser?