Rate my date

[Yates33]

So tonight I met a girl I met online. We walked around and talked for about an hour or so. I had already told her that my car was in the shop, and it is why we were just doing a quick meeting. And automatically, she said, "well yeah...next time blah blah blah". She was really nice, and laughed alot...seemed to be really enjoying herself. I was teasing her NON-STOP...which is something that has brought me alot of sucess and she was loving it, laughing it up and saying I was funny and trying to comeback with jokes of her own.

 

There was also some touching and when I touched her, she didn't seem to mind. At certain, rare moments, she did seem to daze out for a bit though.

 

The only thing was that her brother kept texing her. I teased her that she was rude and she laughed and apoligized and explained that her brother had asked her to pick something up along the way, and kept pestering her about the time and place. Another thing I didnt like, was that at the beginning, we got into birthdays...then traveling stories...and that led her into telling me a story about her ex. Afterwards she was like, "oh..you think I am crazy right?" and I just brushed it off and told her I rather not talk about exes and stuff and of coursed teased her about that too.

 

We took the train and and when it was her stop, she kissed me on the cheek goodbye and told me to call her...then she quickly added, "if you want."

 

Well........rate away!!!

[guynextdoor]

She told you to call her, I rate that as a success my friend.

[sidehop]

Yes a success!

[Yates33]

I agree! but I post to see if anyone could have picked up anything different from what I wrote. I've had experiences where the girl is all fine and "call me" during the date, and afterwards...it was all a front. =/

[sophie274]

Definitely a success!

I don't think the ex story is a bad sign. I'm not one to believe there should be a ban on talking about exes if they come up in the context of a story. It's not like she went on a rant about her jerk of an ex or something!

 

I agree the texting was rude. Unfortunately seems to be common nowadays.

 

That being said, silly to overanalyze based on the one date. She sounds like she liked you, you liked her, success!

[jul-els]

So far so good. Call her up and take it from there.

[Yates33]

when we took the train, she was heading to pick up something for her brother...into a neighborhood that is not horrible...but its not so safe. I told her, "text me when you get home" just to make sure shes okay before she left the train and she said okay. I didnt hear from her, so two hours later I texted her asking if she was ok and I never heard back from her. Its 5AM and nothing, this was 5 hours ago.

 

I am protective of everyone, and this worries me.

[sophie274]

when we took the train, she was heading to pick up something for her brother...into a neighborhood that is not horrible...but its not so safe. I told her, "text me when you get home" just to make sure shes okay before she left the train and she said okay. I didnt hear from her, so two hours later I texted her asking if she was ok and I never heard back from her. Its 5AM and nothing, this was 5 hours ago.

 

I am protective of everyone, and this worries me.

 

I don't think you should worry too much. It's highly highly unlikely that anything bad happened to her, and at any rate if something had happened she has a lot of friends and family looking out for her. I used to worry whenever I didn't hear from my boyfriend when I expected to, and he was always fine. It's far more likely that she didn't get your text or just didn't reply for whatever reason than that anything happened to her. I would not text her again about it.

[Yates33]

I don't think you should worry too much. It's highly highly unlikely that anything bad happened to her, and at any rate if something had happened she has a lot of friends and family looking out for her. I used to worry whenever I didn't hear from my boyfriend when I expected to, and he was always fine. It's far more likely that she didn't get your text or just didn't reply for whatever reason than that anything happened to her. I would not text her again about it.

 

I agree and i am not going to text her again. However, I am truly worried..not because its a girl I took out on a date, or because I like her...it could be a strange person and if I met them, I would still worry. It's just the kind of person I am. On top of that, the area she was going to, like I said before...is not a nice place. Lots of drug dealers and slimy guys. It is 12pm the next day and no text...

 

I guess I'll call her tomorrow to follow up on the date and hopefully she's okay.

[Miss Firecracker]

One a 1-5 scale, I would rate this date a 0.

 

She had plenty of time for her brother on your date, but she had no time for you afterward. Didn't even have the courtesy to let you know she is ok. Bad date, bad girl.

[sophie274]

I agree and i am not going to text her again. However, I am truly worried..not because its a girl I took out on a date, or because I like her...it could be a strange person and if I met them, I would still worry. It's just the kind of person I am. On top of that, the area she was going to, like I said before...is not a nice place. Lots of drug dealers and slimy guys. It is 12pm the next day and no text...

 

I guess I'll call her tomorrow to follow up on the date and hopefully she's okay.

 

I understand. I wouldn't call myself protective, but I'm a very anxious person, so my mind can very easily take me to the worse case scenario. You just have to listen to that logical side of you that should know that: no matter how bad the area, the odds of any one person getting attacked are very very slim, and that she has other people looking out for her I'm sure (the brother for one, etc). Just try not to think about it too much.

[sophie274]

One a 1-5 scale, I would rate this date a 0.

 

She had plenty of time for her brother on your date, but she had no time for you afterward. Didn't even have the courtesy to let you know she is ok. Bad date, bad girl.

 

About the not texting back thing ... this did surprise me, given that she seemed pretty into Yates on the date, in my opinion ... but I wouldn't write her off given that there might be a reasonable explanation.

[Yates33]

About the not texting back thing ... this did surprise me, given that she seemed pretty into Yates on the date, in my opinion ... but I wouldn't write her off given that there might be a reasonable explanation.

 

It surprised me too.

 

You know, think back on it...I ended the date. And when I ended it, she was like..."well...what are you going to do now?" and i told her I was going home. I think she was trying to insinuate for me to go with her. The date was only about or under an hour. I should have gone, do think that looked bad on me? I totally did not pick up on it until last night when it dawned at me thats why she probably asked.

 

I know I just have to remain calm. I mean, maybe she never did receive the text...but man, if she received it and couldnt even say shes fine...thats a huge red flag in my book. I just hope shes okay.

[Miss Firecracker]

I can believe she may have "forgotten" to text you. If so, you didn't make a very strong impression on her mind, right?

 

I can believe someone would turn a phone off, but not this girl. She doesn't turn it off for any reason, not even a first date with a man.

 

Hope you let this one go, sounds like lots of drama if you pursue it.

[jul-els]

I wouldn't worry about her not calling you back. Just wait a reasonable amount of time before you call her so you don't give the impression of smothering. Then call her and say hey.

[Yates33]

So she just texted me back. Except it wasn't as a reply to that, "are you alright?" text...it was a pic of her ID. I kept joking with her that she looked way too young and that I wanted to see ID. She insisted she was the age she said she was, and told me she was going to send a pic of her ID to me to prove it.

 

Well, she just sent it.

 

Now I am thinking its possible she never even received the text last night. In anycase, I am going to let her wait a bit and just give her a call tomorrow to follow up on the date.

 

Thanks for the feedback guys!

[Yates33]

I can believe she may have "forgotten" to text you. If so, you didn't make a very strong impression on her mind, right?

 

I can believe someone would turn a phone off, but not this girl. She doesn't turn it off for any reason, not even a first date with a man.

 

Hope you let this one go, sounds like lots of drama if you pursue it.

 

Agreed, however...just to play devil's advocate...she did constantly apoligized and explained the situation with her brother. She also seemed a bit ditzy...and not on purpose. I mean, she seemed like a smart girl the way she articulated herself, but she was very giggly and kind of "dazed out" sometimes...it could be part of her personality, not necessarily making her a girl not worth pursuing.

[sophie274]

So she just texted me back. Except it wasn't as a reply to that, "are you alright?" text...it was a pic of her ID. I kept joking with her that she looked way too young and that I wanted to see ID. She insisted she was the age she said she was, and told me she was going to send a pic of her ID to me to prove it.

 

Well, she just sent it.

 

Now I am thinking its possible she never even received the text last night. In anycase, I am going to let her wait a bit and just give her a call tomorrow to follow up on the date.

 

Thanks for the feedback guys!

 

Hmm yeah, sounds like maybe she didn't get it, or you didn't get her reply, or she totally spaced out and thinks she replied even though she didn't. I mean, if she were trying to avoid you, she wouldn't have sent the pic!

 

Keep us updated. I love hearing how these things turn out.

[Shudder]

I mean, she seemed like a smart girl the way she articulated herself, but she was very giggly and kind of "dazed out" sometimes...it could be part of her personality, not necessarily making her a girl not worth pursuing.

 

maybe she was on drugs

[Miss Firecracker]

Agreed, however...just to play devil's advocate...she did constantly apoligized and explained the situation with her brother. She also seemed a bit ditzy...and not on purpose. I mean, she seemed like a smart girl the way she articulated herself, but she was very giggly and kind of "dazed out" sometimes...it could be part of her personality, not necessarily making her a girl not worth pursuing.

 

Well, I'm happy to hear she may like you. Just guessing from what you said, she seemed to be flaking on you.

[Miss Firecracker]

maybe she was on drugs

 

That's a possibility...sounds like the marijuana giggles. lol

[G-Snap]

My only feedback - it wasn't her brother texting her. I just really doubt that. It was either a g/f and she was rating you just like you are rating her, and talking about everything you guys were doing, or it was a guy friend.

 

It wasn't her brother.

 

Also, the others might be onto something about the marijuana giggles.

[Yates33]

My only feedback - it wasn't her brother texting her. I just really doubt that. It was either a g/f and she was rating you just like you are rating her, and talking about everything you guys were doing, or it was a guy friend.

 

It wasn't her brother.

 

Also, the others might be onto something about the marijuana giggles.

 

TRUST ME, when I tell you I know when someone is on drugs. She was NOT on any type of drugs, that I can guarantee with 100% accuracy.

 

And IT WAS her brother, because at one point, he called her and she put him on speaker phone and he was asking for the same thing she told me he was asking over text. He had broken up with his ex, and wanted some stuff back. Since he found out she was going around the area to meet with me, he told her that if he picked up the stuff from his GF she wouldn;'t have to pay some money she owed him. He kept texting her changing the location etc.

[BriarRose]

It surprised me too.

 

You know, think back on it...I ended the date. And when I ended it, she was like..."well...what are you going to do now?" and i told her I was going home. I think she was trying to insinuate for me to go with her. The date was only about or under an hour. I should have gone, do think that looked bad on me? I totally did not pick up on it until last night when it dawned at me thats why she probably asked.

 

I know I just have to remain calm. I mean, maybe she never did receive the text...but man, if she received it and couldnt even say shes fine...thats a huge red flag in my book. I just hope shes okay.

Yes, it would be a red flag in mine, too. I think all in all, the date sounded like it went well, but I don't like that she ignored your text when she got home. And, to play Devil's Advocate and say she never got the text (which I don't think is the case), you still asked if she would let you know she got home okay, and she didn't.

 

I wouldn't write her off just yet, but don't ignore that flag.

[Shudder]

just see how everything goes. ask her out again and see how she responds, and if you do go on another date see how that goes.

 

i was actually kidding about the drugs for those who didnt get it lol