Text her happy birthday?

[Eric8384]

Hi everyone, I posted on this forum last fall and this forum helped tremendously! Thanks to everyone who helped me. I've been doing okay but my ex (who has been engaged since last fall) has been texting me and sometimes calling me just to see how I'm doing. And me, being dumb respond to her texts. When I respond or call her back, she never responds back and that really irritates me because it makes me feel like she "won" or she was just seeing if I still have interest in talking to her. Anyways, we've had Limited Contact since last fall, but she did text me happy birthday a few months ago, her birthday is next month. Would you guys just ignore her birthday or acknowlege it? Thanks in advance

[fLuiD]

Ignore it.

[HeartGoesOn]

Since she's engaged, what is the point of any contact? What will wishing her a "Happy Birthday" do?

[DontGetStung]

Agreed, ignore it.

[jimmajam]

Given the way she has been handling the communication and that she's engaged, I'd say ignore it. Too bad for her.

[squirl]

Do a forum search for "birthday text" and then see if you still want to.

 

I think she will find it pathetic and her fiance will find it annoying.

[AutumnBorn]

I think it's unanimous. Ignore.

[adamt]

your ex is engaged to someone else, you are not over her, she is messing with your head.. the best solution is to change your number.

[No1]

Even tho I know you would want to do it, acknowlege that you still think of her, it wouldnt do anyone any good. There is no purpose for it. I agree with everyone. Just let the day pass as if it was like any other day.

[Ding]

I would ignore it and dont text her.

 

I remember I got a 'Happy new year' text from an ex once, and it made me completely hit the roof. I was shaking whilst reading it, just thinking 'my GOD! you don't contact me for weekss and the only time you do is to send me some generic greeting that everyone else in the world gets at this time, with no personal touch - just like some cheap hallmark card, and you're telling me to be HAPPY?!?!?! after all the BS I have gone through with you!!!'

 

I think if you're not at a stage where you want to talk to her about anything else, then dont send her a happy birthday text.

[squirl]

She left me yesterday. It's her birthday tomorrow. I'm in hell. What should I do?

 

If you're going through hell keep going.

 

And hells to the no, don't text her happy birthday. She broke up with you yesterday because she wanted to be single for her birthday. So let her be single.

 

It's pretty common for breakups to happen right around the ex's or dumpee's birthday. I think they want the attention/drama.

[jbrooklyn]

She is ingaged? IGNORE. Pointless for real

[Live-N-Learn]

Yeah, my X broke up with me a little before her birthday and then went and got breast implants on her bday and wanted me to text her happy bday and see how her surgery went! LOL

[squirl]

Get some sleep if you can. Yes it sucks but I promise you it will get better. We are here for you.

[Eric8384]

thanks for the input guys....she actually texted me last night. Keep in mind she's engaged...she asked me if I was "going downtown?". I said no...and she said: "damn, I really want to see you...you know I would really like that". She's a piece of work, she's engaged and verbally cheating already; what a shame.