Well, I don't think the exclusivity talk is going to happen.

[babymichiru]

I have not seen him since Friday and I have red flags since then. First, this [thread]333239[/thread]. Its not a red flag by itself but...with everything else, it is.

 

This was my last post about him. [thread]333663[/thread]

 

And while he texted me Sunday to have a good night at work, he hasn't really asked me out again, which he usually does. I asked him today playfully, "when are you giving me a massage again? He replied "I will be out of town tomorrow hopefully so it will have to wait til next week, peaches."

 

I can understand him being out of town but he didn't try to see me tonight when he usually would. Usually he doesn't want to go a week without seeing me. And its not a business trip. He is going after work tomorrow to visit his family til Sunday. I know it's easter but he can't leave the next day instead?

 

PLUS its my birthday Friday. My friends are taking me out but no talk about taking me out to dinner some other day.

[hexaemeron]

Er... I think you're reaching here. You're coming accross as a bit... needy, BM. I think you need to take a 'lude and see what he does when he's back from travelling. When I have to travel for work, I'm a madman for at least two days before.

[sophie274]

I think you may be overreacting a bit. After only 6 dates, I think it's still relatively soon to be expecting exclusivity, so the fact that he hasn't brought it up isn't a red flag. He just sounds like a busy guy to me. He knows you want to see him - just wait and see if he gets in touch after his week-end away. Don't expect the worst already.

[babymichiru]

Er... I think you're reaching here. You're coming accross as a bit... needy, BM. I think you need to take a 'lude and see what he does when he's back from travelling. When I have to travel for work, I'm a madman for at least two days before.

 

He's not going on a business trip.

 

Anyway, Im having major PMS right now. LOL. I definitely feel very very needy... PLUS I'm depressed about my birthday coming up.

[babymichiru]

I think you may be overreacting a bit. After only 6 dates, I think it's still relatively soon to be expecting exclusivity, so the fact that he hasn't brought it up isn't a red flag. He just sounds like a busy guy to me. He knows you want to see him - just wait and see if he gets in touch after his week-end away. Don't expect the worst already.

 

I definitely maybe overreacting but I guess I just feel like he went from overeager to see me to very lukewarm.

[hexaemeron]

I definitely maybe overreacting but I guess I just feel like he went from overeager to see me to very lukewarm.

 

Of course he did. You're overanalyzing all of his behavior and conversation and everything! I'd be surprised if you hadn't "found" something with that kind of mindset.

[Speranza]

Your behaviour could very well be making him run for the hills, BM. Especially if he knows you are depressed about your birthday (WHY do people feel this way?!)

 

Try being upbeat around him, someone he can chill with... ???

[babymichiru]

Your behaviour could very well be making him run for the hills, BM. Especially if he knows you are depressed about your birthday (WHY do people feel this way?!)

 

Try being upbeat around him, someone he can chill with... ???

 

He doesn't know I'm depressed about my birthday. My friends do know though.

[orchidrose]

These are not red flags. You guys are not committed and exclusive, so you have no reason to be seeing each other so often and no reason to be so upset at the fact that you're not. I would tread very lightly; this is the kind of behavior that could start pushing him away very quickly.

[Clarity]

Relax, enjoy the ride! Don't sabotage things with insecurity!