What do you guys think success rates are?

[GenoGeno]

What would you say are the success rates for getting back with an ex.

Is it even a common thing or is it very rare? From what you've heard and experienced through other people or yourselves in the past.

[Ms Darcy]

People will tell you different things, but it's all so dependent upon the situation.

 

For you, you need to work on yourself and get some space for her. Then, in the future, the possibility may be there.

[JackPotential]

I'll say 20%.

[Live-N-Learn]

I don't think it is very good my friend. My X and I broke up 8 weeks ago and I have tried many different tactics to get her back, but to be honest, none of them work unless she is ready to come back. I was able to influence her and get her to come around some because she still cares for me. But at the end of the day. I need to move on and let her go. I need to work on myself and heal. This has been really hard on me.

[Theblueman123]

Like the same as getting pregnant I guess. It depends on what is done during

[Keyman]

I'll say 20%.

 

I'd agree. 20% chance of getting back together, and about 2% chance of it actually lasting.

[JackPotential]

I think its closer to 3% of it actually lasting but i'm not looking for a fight Keyman.

[AutumnBorn]

I'm thinking it's less than 20...more like 5%. Those making it to death do us part, maybe 1%, probably less.

 

GenoGeno, if you're wanting to get back together, maybe you should be posting in the Getting Back Together forum. People there are more likely to have a more positive outlook regarding reconciliation. We've all tried and given up - some of us numerous times. If you still have hope, you need to surround yourself with people with a more positive outlook in that regard.

 

We're hopeless here.

[GenoGeno]

Really you guys actually think when you get back there is only a 3 or 2 percent chance of it lasting? I'd say more than that, because you'd be determined.

and to autumnborn...its always good to have positivity.

[AutumnBorn]

Yeah, I think the chances are near zero. We're here because it's over and we accept it. We are trying to emotionally let go and move forward alone.

 

Geno, if you still have hope, you really should go to the other forum. We'll bring you down. You'll get better support there.

 

See when I joined? I'm still hurting, it's still over, still hopeless. Save yourself. We're brutal here. Vicious dream killers, one and all.

 

My positive thoughts are all about not hurting and nothing about getting back together.

[GenoGeno]

Well at the same time I kind of think this is what i need.

[JackPotential]

I'm thinking it's less than 20...more like 5%. Those making it to death do us part, maybe 1%, probably less.

 

GenoGeno, if you're wanting to get back together, maybe you should be posting in the Getting Back Together forum. People there are more likely to have a more positive outlook regarding reconciliation. We've all tried and given up - some of us numerous times. If you still have hope, you need to surround yourself with people with a more positive outlook in that regard.

 

We're hopeless here.

 

Don't forget a standard deviation of +/-3%.

[GenoGeno]

You know...the strangest thing happened tonight. I was on facebook and i just made a subgroup and put my ex in there and set it too offline so i never have to see her online when I'm on and that way i don't have to delete her.

 

but while i was on the facebook chat, a box popped up from my ex before this ex.....and what's weird is she hadn't talked to me in almost a year...we chatted for a bit and we got into relationships...and she said she was about to end it with the guy shes with now and said it was hard so i guess we kind of connected cause we were going through similar things but it ended with a nice talk to you later type of thing....and i know it's probably nothing...but i just found it really weird how it's been a year and the day after i decide to not break no contact with my current ex. she pops up haha.

[easyguy]

What would you say are the success rates for getting back with an ex.

Is it even a common thing or is it very rare? From what you've heard and experienced through other people or yourselves in the past.

 

It's 0% if you are both mature, knowing that moving on is the best thing to do.

[Ascending]

I'd say 5% chance of getting back together. Less than 1% chance of it lasting forever.

[Rob1000]

About 4 years ago I got back with my ex but eventually the same issues raised their head and it was as easy for her to walk away the second time as it was the first time. I should have never taken her back the first time because the second time she walked away, she kept on walking.

 

I also agree with Autumn Born, this thread should be in the Getting Back Together Forum.

[DazB]

Ahh statistics.

 

It's a very tough one to call because many many people who do have a successful attempt at recconciling don't post about it on this site. Many people break up and don't feel the need to seek support from a forum.

 

There are billions of people and so putting a percentage figure on this is an almost impossible and meaningless task.

 

What does '1 in 10 men are bald' mean to a bald man?

 

Getting someone back isn't quite as simple as flipping a coin. Making the decision to pursue someone is though. Flip a coin, heads I will, tails I won't. Good luck.

[bravebird]

My ex wanted to try again after he broke up with me for almost 7 months. We lasted about 2.5 months before we fell into our old unhealthy patterns. We did really want it to work and wanted to try....but I tell ya, it just didn't.