What should I do with this info?

[mermaid44]

Wow. Unexpected...What should I do with this info?

 

A mutual friend of an exfriend/co-worker just recently secretly told me a few days ago, that my ex-friend recently told him that he would like to start talking to me again, after years of silence. (We had had a falling out 3 years ago.) but that he doesn't know how to initiate it. (My ex-friend/co-worker and I work in the same area at a themepark, and so we see eachother most days, but we're both just kindof made ourselves "invisible" to eachother...not in a negative or bitter way...more like in a 2-ships-passing-in-the-night way.) It's like we're there to eachother but not really "there" at the same time. No real eye contact or talking, even in group settings. This probably sounds strange to people reading this, but this method has kindof just worked for us, in dealing with our friendship ending while our work relationship stayed. Working where we do makes this easier than it would be at other places. There are no hard feelings anymore though...

 

(note: This is not the guy I had feelings for, in case some of the people who read my very old posts are reading.)

 

The wounds with my exfriend are very old and pretty non-relevant at this point and can probably just be forgotten. We haven't talked to eachother/eye contact in years, even though we are at close proximity to eachother at work all the time. This is mostly my doing, and him just pretty much following suit. He's a very quiet person anyway, so it's not a huge stretch. All this has just seemed to be the best way to make our co-existence at work easy...even if it does sound kinda unconventional...

 

My question is, how do I go about making it easy for us to start talking again, (besides, obviously, starting with eye contact. lol.) now that my mutual friend has told me my exfriend would like to start? I want to go about it gradually and smoothly so as not to mess the opportunity up. Is there anything I should initiate? (This exfriend is not one to easily/likely initiate anything.) I'm not looking to start a full-fledged friendship like it used to be, right off the bat, but how do I at least start the ball rolling again?

 

Any ideas? Advice?

 

 

We used to be very good friends, and it would be a shame to not do anything with the info I was given...

[JackPotential]

Make eye contact and say "hi, friend(insert his name here)." And keep moving.

 

The rest will flow naturally.

 

Just be warned...past friendships can be like Van Halen and David Lee Roth...sure things would be great if we could be friends again...but after 1 hour of being together you realize it ended for a reason.

[mermaid44]

Make eye contact and say "hi, friend(insert his name here)." And keep moving.

 

The rest will flow naturally.

 

Just be warned...past friendships can be like Van Halen and David Lee Roth...sure things would be great if we could be friends again...but after 1 hour of being together you realize it ended for a reason.

 

 

Thankyou.

Yeah, I'm treading carefully and don't plan to let myself become quite as close friends with him as before. I just want to at least start up talking again...