Eye Contact....??

[SportsGirl4]

How do you know if a guy is looking at you because he is interested or just because you looked at him?

 

I was in class the other day, seated accross the room but facing this guy, who I think kept glancing at me, so I did the same to him. I was having a conversation with my group members and he was doing the same with his group members but I would look at him and he would be looking at me....then I would do the whole look away quickly thing. I don't think that I looked at him first every time but would he keep glancing at me if he wasn't interested at all?

 

Ha....and I'm pretty sure I had nothing unusual on my face

[JackPotential]

Eye contact is a potent form of communication.

 

He is interested. To see if he is worthy don't look away and see if he breaks eye contact.

[aurevoir]

"To see if he is worthy don't look away and see if he breaks eye contact."

 

Haha interesting.

 

But yea to the OP. There are guys who just look and never look back, then there are guys that look and continue to look do that look away thing and look again. They are shy

[Keyman]

Go talk to him, say Hi, as it does sound like he likes you.

[Green Mile]

Eye contact is brilliant, it says more than a lot of words can!

[JackPotential]

Eye contact is brilliant, it says more than a lot of words can!

 

Yes, "nondiscursive communication" > words anyday.

 

Thats why poetry is the highest form of writing. The structure matters as much if not more than the content.

[Keyman]

So now we all know that eye contact is a potent form of communication, and have established that he is doing it because he has seen something attractive (i.e. you) So, what are you going to do about it?

[Resolute]

To Keyman's point, act on it.

[aurevoir]

He has got it right [keyman]

[SportsGirl4]

It's not easy for someone as shy as me...which is a whole other problem in itself... I did try talking to him one day a few weeks ago in another one of my classes, but we only talked for a couple minutes...basically I just asked him about our test (so not really a great conversation starter) and we haven't talked since....

 

And his friends in the other class make him more intimidating to talk to.....

 

So what am I going to do about it?? Hmm....sit in class and wait until he does something?? Just kidding....Kind of

[aurevoir]

You are going to do the following

- stop thinking about it.

when you see him, just go for it. fake it if you have to.

"hey!" and smile. That is all you have to do. if he responds/ reacts there you go,

ask him "how was your weekend" and that's that!

[Keyman]

It's not easy for someone as shy as me...which is a whole other problem in itself... I did try talking to him one day a few weeks ago in another one of my classes, but we only talked for a couple minutes...basically I just asked him about our test (so not really a great conversation starter) and we haven't talked since....

 

And his friends in the other class make him more intimidating to talk to.....

 

So what am I going to do about it?? Hmm....sit in class and wait until he does something?? Just kidding....Kind of

 

Ah, so, the great dilemma, You are going, "I'm shy and hope he'll comes to talk to me" and he is going, "I'm shy and hope she'll come talk to me."

 

this = stalemate and will leave you both thinking "ah well, she/he obviously wasn't interested"

 

One of you has to break the stalemate...

 

Try something different. Sit next to him one day, smile and say...."Hi!" Then make a statement about the class. It's okay to start with something boring as it's a start. Perhaps when he feels a little more confortable around you he might start initiating.

 

Or maybe, you should just ignore him and stop making eye contact with him

[andromeda99]

How do you know if a guy is looking at you because he is interested or just because you looked at him?

 

 

It depends on the way he is looking at you.

[annie24]

go up to him and ask him a question before class. or ask if you can borrow a pen. say you and a study group are meeting and invite him along.

[EQIQ]

go up to him and ask him a question before class. or ask if you can borrow a pen. say you and a study group are meeting and invite him along.

 

Lol... a girl did this to me once. Asking me to come study with her and her study group... she looked quite good too lol. But I was in a relationship at the time... wish this would happen now lol

 

But yeh OP, just smile and go say hi to the guy, if he looks down and shy and stuff, odds are he likes you, and is just shy lol. If on th eother hand things go well, then they go well And if they don't, then it's ok, at least you won't be worrying about it anymore right?

[SportsGirl4]

You are all great for helping me out But I just don't know...he doesn't seem all that shy around his friends (ha I know, these are his friends so he isn't going to be shy around them)...

 

Basically I always just make up excuses as to why I shouldn't talk to him. For example, today in class he walked past me without making eye contact at all so I just say to myself: The eye contact the other day was just my imagination.

 

Ha I think I need all of you to sit in my class with me...and maybe push me into him or something

[annie24]

you know, nothing wrong with just asking him a question before class, or ask to borrow a pen. that's not 'over the top.' it's not like you're going up to him like, 'hi - wanna be the father of my children??' my friend asked a guy for a pen in class one day and they wound up dating for 4 years.

[aurevoir]

do it!!!!!!!!!!111

[ghost69]

do you like the guy? find out why he was looking at you. start up a conversation and see if you get more signals.

[GoneCrazy]

ghost69 - I thought you left the forum ?

 

"To see if he is worthy don't look away and see if he breaks eye contact."

 

Haha interesting.

 

But yea to the OP. There are guys who just look and never look back, then there are guys that look and continue to look do that look away thing and look again. They are shy

 

I always thought that would give off a creep vibe cause of the stairing.

[chelsea13]

It depends on the way he is looking at you.

 

elaborate??

[aurevoir]

elaborate??

 

From my experience. Guys look at you yes,

but if he is always looking at you, looking away...

his eyes linger on you for more then 3 seconds, you look at him he looks away, and you catch him from the corner of your eye him looking back

he's interested!!!!!!

[ghost69]

From my experience. Guys look at you yes,

but if he is always looking at you, looking away...

his eyes linger on you for more then 3 seconds, you look at him he looks away, and you catch him from the corner of your eye him looking back

he's interested!!!!!!

 

i wouldn't go by any rules like this.

 

start a conversation with him.

[chelsea13]

It's hard to distinguish whether a guy is looking at your because he's interested or because you're simply looking at him

[SportsGirl4]

So I hate myself now...I've become more self conscious about this whole eye contact thing and it's become even more difficult than it was before. I've convinced myself that he thinks I'm creepy or something (I don't know why he would, but I'm paranoid). Today we got put into groups in class and we ended up in the same one..He kind of looked at me when we got put into the same group....when we were getting into groups, his friend turned around and smiled at him (it was a huge smile, but I don't know if it was a "haha sucker that one girl is in your group" smile or for some other reason). He listened to me and nodded when I talked. He had to give a presentation the other day in front of the class and he sometimes would look at me and I'd be looking back but he would look away at someone else quickly when we made eye contact. Ugh...I'm so paranoid because I think he hates me or something. I don't know why he would...