I could really use a support buddy

[sweeth tooth cadet]

I hate that I have to admit to my self that I am not strong enough to handle all of this pain, but it has gotten overwhelming and quite stressful. I feel so alone and without access to friends and family right now i feel like I could use help from anyone here. I feel awful for even posting this but I dont know what else to do

[JackPotential]

What are you reacting too specifically?

[sweeth tooth cadet]

i am reacting the fact that I just discovered I was cheated on and I my ex i snow move don in days with a new person. My close friends are not close to me or i can call them I dont have a lot and my family well I cant tell them that I was seeing this person cause it would create too much drama to bear. Im really feeling low and feel what a shame I am since i have to come and ask strangers for help not proud of my self right now

[JackPotential]

Well that sucks. But if she is your ex...she's already in the past.

 

The relationship was only shameful if you don't learn from it in the future. At the end of the day she is toxic and will be in for a rough ride in life...

[quirky]

Don't feel bad asking for help, gotta do what you gotta do ya know? Maybe your friends can get Skype that costs nothing and just flat out tell them that you're finding this difficult. Or even family..are you sure it's out of the question or are you burning your bridges? Don't feel shame that your ex cheated, it's happened to many.

 

How old are you, how long has it been since you've split up? It's overwhelming for most at the beginning but I promise it gets better.

[sweeth tooth cadet]

i am 29 almost 30 but its been a week and a few days since it ended. And the reason why i cant go to family is cause this was a forbidden person from another family. They will spend the next few weeks not liking me as they will see is as an act of betrayal and for may friends, well they are not computer or tech people and the idea of skype to them woudl be like * * * is this shhh. I really hate that i am here for this reason but I really feel like i cant deal with this so isolated and alone its just all too much and I really thought I was gonna be ok. Boy was I wrong

[JackPotential]

You know this is basically Romeo and Juliet in a nutshell.

 

You have to live for yourself...isolation/ostricization is a way of them making you walk their line...

 

...a few weeks? Try being isolated for months/years...take a deep breath friend...time to graduate from cadet to captain. Find/trust yourself and you'll find relationships.

[quirky]

Start an online Journal here, post in the No Contact thread, the Post here instead of contacting your ex thread and drop the embarassment. Honestly, people feel so awfull for a good 2 months. At the beginning of the breakup I thought the world had come to an end literally. Couldn't eat, sleep, the lot. Have you been doing things? Like going for a walk, pursuing a hobby..You can't be ok yet, you have to accept your feelings and give it some time. Try expressing your feelings more, read a book about personal growth, post on threads. There's a few people that were more isolated as you said because they moved back home after the breakup or had lost their job a bit before the breakup. Also many don't even want to leave the house for a good 4 weeks. You're not a loser for feeling down and there's others that right now or in the past have been where you are. Hang in there.