Can a woman tell if you're a virgin?

[Green Mile]

Can a woman tell this about a man just by looking at them? I'm a virgin, do we give off some sort of aura that makes people realise we're a virgin? I've always been curious if there's a way you could tell...

[jengh]

Hahaha, no. Definitely not just by looking at a guy. If a girl sleeps with a guy, then probably.

[Green Mile]

That's another thing, do you think a woman would fall for it if you pretended you weren't a virgin and just said it had been a long time since you'd last slept with someone?

[Momake]

lol - nope. People will make assumptions based on how you carry yourself (confidence-wise around the fairer sex), the things you say (sexually related), and perhaps your overall past (number of girlfriends...).

 

However, any number of factors could be misleading... you could call them guesstimates at best.

[Momake]

That's another thing, do you think a woman would fall for it if you pretended you weren't a virgin and just said it had been a long time since you'd last slept with someone?

 

Sure, why not? So long as you don't fumble around like a doofus down there.

 

She would know you're inexperienced though - and might wonder if maybe the last time you did have sex was 10 years ago and lasted maybe 2 minutes - at that point... why not just state you're a virgin?

[jengh]

That's another thing, do you think a woman would fall for it if you pretended you weren't a virgin and just said it had been a long time since you'd last slept with someone?

 

Sure, she might buy it... but why lie? Are you looking to lose it just with any old barfly you come accross or do you want it to be more meaningful? A decent, respectable girl will appreciate the honesty.

[Cognitive_Canine]

No, they can't tell.

 

I'd be angered if someone lied about their past. I only have sex with people I trust and who respect me. Lying conveys neither of those things.

[MD Geist]

Yes They can. Well some of them at least.

 

The ones who has had plenty of experience can sense inexperience from a mile away. Especially when your younger and shes older.

 

I know many people are going to object to this but I've had few girls point out that I'm a virgin or at least catch on and say something like "You haven't gone to far with a girl haven't you?"

[jonny15]

I doubt they can just by looking at you.

 

But i'm sure a good bit could tell if your inexperienced by your physical actions with them from sexual standpoint.

[jonny15]

Yes They can. Well some of them at least.

 

The ones who has had plenty of experience can sense inexperience from a mile away. Especially when your younger and shes older.

 

I know many people are going to object to this but I've had few girls point out that I'm a virgin or at least catch on and say something like "You haven't gone to far with a girl haven't you?"

 

If you act uncomfortable when people are talking about having sex, or something like that because your scared they're gonna ask you, it might be a tipoff that your inexperienced.

 

I just get all nervous and try to either leave or stay as quiet as possible when the subject is brought up.

[Clarity]

No, they can't tell.

 

I'd be angered if someone lied about their past. I only have sex with people I trust and who respect me. Lying conveys neither of those things.

 

I agree, but that being said, just as a question: is virginity something a person has to be up front about? I mean, if it didn't come up because you never thought to ask, but you found out after the act that the guy was a virgin, how would you feel?

[dragon lady]

lol - nope. People will make assumptions based on how you carry yourself (confidence-wise around the fairer sex), the things you say (sexually related), and perhaps your overall past (number of girlfriends...).

 

However, any number of factors could be misleading... you could call them guesstimates at best.

 

I'll go with this.

[Green Mile]

Cool, good responses. I feel that I do carry myself quite confidently and have no problem talking about sex cos although I've never done it I watch a lot of porn so I have a fair (if unrealistic) idea of how it works!

 

I guess I'd probably stay quiet unless the girl brought it up and then determine if I like her enough to be honest.

[Cognitive_Canine]

I agree, but that being said, just as a question: is virginity something a person has to be up front about? I mean, if it didn't come up because you never thought to ask, but you found out after the act that the guy was a virgin, how would you feel?

 

I think that they should just tell me when we start talking about sex. When we get to that stage, tell me. If any woman gets angered over it, then they have some serious issues.

[MD Geist]

No, they can't tell.

 

I'd be angered if someone lied about their past. I only have sex with people I trust and who respect me. Lying conveys neither of those things.

 

If they are a virgin they have no past.

 

They want to cover up where they are starting.

 

How would you feel if he didn't want to share his virginity status with you?. He would dance around the issue when it was brought up. In the end he never told you or wanted to tell you.

[Clarity]

I think that they should just tell me when we start talking about sex. When we get to that stage, tell me. If any woman gets angered over it, then they have some serious issues.

 

I think it varies from woman to woman. I am a virgin, although not sexually inexperienced, if that makes sense. I was in a long-term relationship where we were "waiting for marriage" and did everything *but* have intercourse. Unless I'm extremely gullible, all of the girls I've been intimate with seemed to be pretty happy with the fun we had.

 

Anyway, one girl I briefly dated was very into me, all over me in fact, until she found out that I was a virgin, after which she dropped me like a heavy rock. In her words she was looking for someone with more "experience".

 

However, she was in the minority. Many of the other girls I've dated were virgins as well, which is odd that we'd find each other, given the rarity of virgins in their mid to late 20s these days, and they were of course more than fine with the idea.

 

I think women are probably in general shocked to find a guy who doesn't want to have sex with every woman who is willing and in fact puts some emotional value into the act.

[Cognitive_Canine]

If they are a virgin they have no past.

 

They want to cover up where they are starting.

 

How would you feel if he didn't want to share his virginity status with you?. He would dance around the issue when it was brought up. In the end he never told you or wanted to tell you.

 

I wouldn't have sex with him, that's for sure. I'd assume he was hiding something. I don't have sex with men I'm not comfortable with. You won't talk about your past (or lack of) yet you expect me to make myself vulnerable? Not happening. I don't need to hear his life story. But a simple 'this is my first time' or 'I'm not all that experienced' would suffice.

[MakestheBest]

Women can't tell if a man is a virgin or not. There is no way to hide inexperience tho. I don't care how many stuffed animals you dry humped before hand. The real deal is different . Just tell the truth. Why not?

[MD Geist]

Women can't tell if a man is a virgin or not. There is no way to hide inexperience tho. I don't care how many stuffed animals you dry humped before hand. The real deal is different . Just tell the truth. Why not?

 

She might be turned off by a 20 something year old virgin. She might want someone who knows what he's doing rather than having to teach him how to please her.

[abitbroken]

I think if you want to state a fact that you are a virgin because you want to remain that way until marriage, you do have the obligation to tell the person that at a certain point not from a sexual history standpoint but a compatibility issue.

 

You can't "tell" if a guy is a virgin unless you ask questions. There is a lot of truth to things "happening naturally". Many guys who are virgins have some experience whether its kissing, making out, etc. But really - when you trust eacother, that lovestruck feeling is going to make up for things. And most of the time, a first time with eachother (whether anyone is a virgin or not) is going to involve some "figuring out" and fumbling around.

[orchidrose]

I'm gonna agree with a few others here that this isn't something you should lie about. It's better to take the risk of a girl dropping you because you're a virgin than to lie to her and have her drop you later because you did so.

 

I was a virgin until my early twenties, and I didn't tell anyone until we got far enough that it appeared sex was actually going to happen.

[abitbroken]

She might be turned off by a 20 something year old virgin. She might want someone who knows what he's doing rather than having to teach him how to please her.

 

I disagree. When you first start sleeping together, there is a learning curve between two people. If a guy is attentive to a woman, he is a fast learner. Sometimes when a man can't please a woman its due to communication issues. she thinks he should read her mind and he cannot. I have been infinitely happier with a man with little experience who is crazy about me and I him than my ex who studied a lot of "techniques" and knew all the moves and terms.

[Organs]

As you can probably tell by this site, there's a LOT of people who are still virgins in their 20s and older. Some are virgins in their 30s, 40s, even 50s!

 

I think if a girl can't comprehend that and shrug it off, time to move on. Believe it or not, there are women who can shrug it off. And in spite of what you see on TV, they're not that far in the minority.

[thathoopla]

Well, there is only a 50/50 chance. The odds of being right are pretty good.

[Cognitive_Canine]

Well, there is only a 50/50 chance. The odds of being right are pretty good.

 

50/50 chance? How do you figure?