RockyRaccoon Posted March 25, 2010 Share Posted March 25, 2010 I've been posting on here for a while, you can find my other thread if you want. My best friend, who i thought would never do anything like this, came clean today. He's been seeing my ex girlfriend for a couple weeks now. We dated for a year and 2 months. It's been less than three months now, and i'm feeling completely betrayed. I will never talk to her again, and depending on if he stops this or not, i may never talk to him again. I was doing so well healing and now i'm back to square one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lavender25 Posted March 25, 2010 Share Posted March 25, 2010 I am so sorry, Rocky. I know exactly how you feel. You can go back and read my past threads, but long story short: I dated my ex on/off for 7 years and we broke up in June 2009. A new girl transferred to our store in late summer 2008 (I think?) and we became friends. Then things between him and I get bad and he breaks up with me and I cry on her shoulder and tell her how much I love him and want him back. About 4 months later they are in a relationship. Once again I'm so sorry. I honestly don't think anything hurts worse than what you're feeling right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RockyRaccoon Posted March 26, 2010 Author Share Posted March 26, 2010 I can promise you nothing hurts worse than this. When i was 14, my brother died. It hurt, but it was nothing like this. There's a gaping hole where my heart was right now. I have no idea what i'm going to do about anything. We're best friends so we have the same circle of friends. We live in the same apartment. I don't know what's going to happen, but i can't be friends with him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lavender25 Posted March 28, 2010 Share Posted March 28, 2010 I'm still trying to heal. Not only do I have to get over the fact that we aren't together anymore, but now I have to get over the fact that he's with someone new and it's someone that I know and someone that I trusted. Not only that, she's not very good relationship material. I try not to think about it too much and live the life that I had to create from scratch after they shattered it. But sometimes there isn't anything I can do but mope and have one of my TRUE friends listen to me cry and try to lift my spirits again. I fantasize about the day when they break up and realize what they've done: He's lost the best gf he's ever had and she won't have anyone there for her because I was her only friend. I loved him so much and I know I always will. We had a very deep relationship and shared many years and memories together. But there's no going back from this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms Darcy Posted March 28, 2010 Share Posted March 28, 2010 I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Why would you potentially talk to him again and yet not talk to her again? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lavender25 Posted March 28, 2010 Share Posted March 28, 2010 I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Why would you potentially talk to him again and yet not talk to her again? That's what I would like to know. In my situation, I feel like I would be able to speak to my ex again and not speak to my "friend" EVER again. Seems like his feelings are reversed. Maybe he was friends for longer than he was in the relationship? Or I wonder if maybe it's a gender thing. I sometimes wonder if women act differently in these situations and wouldn't forgive a female friend like a male would forgive a male friend. Just speculation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RockyRaccoon Posted March 28, 2010 Author Share Posted March 28, 2010 I actually made another thread explaining this a lot better. At this point, i'll never talk to either of them again. They're both out of my life for good. I'm going to move at the beginning of the summer to live with some different friends of mine. My thinking at the time was that if he saw how much it hurt me that he was doing this, and cared enough to stop, then i could have been his friend, but there's no chance now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brownstone322 Posted March 28, 2010 Share Posted March 28, 2010 When i was 14, my brother died. It hurt, but it was nothing like this. With time, you will completely, utterly reverse your view on this point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1guygirl Posted March 28, 2010 Share Posted March 28, 2010 friends with our exes...its jus one of those unspoken rules that you just DONT and with good reason, its an ultimate betrayal friends like them...who needs enemies indeed RR hugs to ya xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RockyRaccoon Posted March 29, 2010 Author Share Posted March 29, 2010 With time, you will completely, utterly reverse your view on this point. Well, see, it's kind of complicated. I would say that the immediate effects of what has just happened to me is worse than the pain i felt all those years ago. The difference is, i'm going to get over this within the next year. I'll never get over the loss of my brother and it's definitely had an impact on how i interact with people and how i look at things. By this time next year, i'm sure what happened won't even phase me. But by this time next year, i'll still be getting sad about not having a brother to share family get togethers with, and have nieces and nephews in my family, or for my (future)kids to get to meet their father's brother. The searing pain that i felt was certainly worse than when my brother died, but you never get over something like that. I grew up with him, he was my best friend for the longest time and looked out for me (even if it was just because he wanted to be the only kid to beat me up, I'll miss him forever, but it's not the same kind of pain. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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