wickedbutsweet Posted March 25, 2010 Share Posted March 25, 2010 I've been married for two years now and I just feel as though my husband doesn't want to be in the marriage any longer. He has a lot of single friends and it seems as though he enjoys hanging out with them more than he likes spending time with me. I just feel like he would rather be single again. I've tried very hard to over look this and just think that maybe he'll grow out of it. But I really think that that will never happen. I feel like I'm being selfish by asking him to stay married to me. So I'm thinking it's time to just let him have what he wants and ask for a divorce. Should I just ask for the divorce and let him go on with his life or should I just wait and see if things will be different? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Taikero Posted March 25, 2010 Share Posted March 25, 2010 What are you doing to try to fix things? Are you just passively waiting for him to change? Maybe he doesn't realize he's hurting you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shessofly Posted March 25, 2010 Share Posted March 25, 2010 maybe try talking to him about his new habits first? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scuba-dude Posted March 25, 2010 Share Posted March 25, 2010 I would tell him he is hurting you. Let him know that I want to fix this and make it work. If you get no response from him, and still want to save it. I would move out, make yourself happy, and take time and space away from each other. If he is serious about you he will come to you. When he does come to you make it continue, and work very slowly. Make him prove himself to you for an extended period of time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shortpants Posted March 25, 2010 Share Posted March 25, 2010 First off, welcome to ENA! I will say it again... I just said it in another thread a couple days ago... "I've tried nothing and nothing works!!" Just overlooking things that bother you does not do anything to fix the issue. You need to talk to your husband and see how he feels before drawing conclusions. You are not a mind reader, nor is he. You need to open the lines of communication and get to the root of what is going on before jumping on the divorce bandwagon. Marriage is alot of work, it's not just a ring on the finger and **poof** happily ever after. There are going to be ups and downs and times that you hurt one another. But being mature enough to discuss it openly and honestly will only strengthen the bond. Please try to talk with him before running out and doing something rash. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hexaemeron Posted March 25, 2010 Share Posted March 25, 2010 Hmm. OP, how often does your husband go out with his friends? Is this an every night thing, or does he have guys night out sometimes? Those are very different things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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