Isn't Bisexuality selfish?

[bingedrinking]

I know some women who have this attitude - I want to be in a relationship with a guy, at the same time I want to "explore" and the guy should not be a part of that.

 

So the guy should just step back, let her have her fun and then still hang around in order to dote on his girlfriend - unreasonable? I think so.

 

And what about women who think their bfs should not be with anybody else while they are "exploring"? I know this woman who claims that what she is doing is not the same as her bf sleeping with other women.

[Cognitive_Canine]

Bisexuality isn't selfish.

 

But, telling your partner you need to "explore" and not let them date is very much selfish and cheating.

 

In my opinion, if you are with someone you love and are satisfied, you don't need to explore.

[Lucius]

Bisexuality isn't selfish. An overblown sense of entitlement is selfish - and that's not a thing unique to any orientation, race, or gender.

[agent1607307371]

Err, you need to back up and find out what bisexuality is before you start on it.

 

Bisexuality is an orientation. It's your gf who is selfish.

[vertigoxo]

I have seen many so called "bisexuals" who think they are entitled to flaunt and "explore" as you said, but would freak out at the thought of their partners being either bisexuals themselves or explore other members of the opposite sex.

 

Fake bisexuals won't admit to themselves that other people are too, bisexual. They won't get the special attention if millions of others are bisexuals as well. Real ones don't care who is bisexual or whose not.

[Cognitive_Canine]

You're kind of generalizing bisexuals there. Not all of them are like that. In fact, most aren't.

[dragon lady]

No, but cheating is.

 

There is no reason to call a single bisexual selfish.

[kenshinkitten]

Yeah...as everyone had already said before me.

 

Bisexuality I believe is different from curiosity. I find some women very attractive and maybe I'd make out with them just to try it out if given the opportunity. But I seriously do not consider myself Bisexual in any way.

 

I think a lot of girls that claim they're bisexual are just doing it for attention, like guys would like it or be more interested if they knew they also make out with chicks.

 

Bisexuality in it of itself is being attracted to both men and women sexually, and I think also seeing a potential for a meaning full life with either party.

That's just me thinking...

[KG]

I only know one bi person. She's been happily married for 13 years. She will sometimes go off for a "girls weekend", which is Ok for all involved. So I see no selfishness.

[Day_Walker]

I dont think that bisexuality in and of itself is selfish but if a person has a partner and wants to step outside of their relationship to explore their bisexuality and does not want to allow their partner to step out as well is acting selfishly.

[mandyc]

the attitude is what is selfish, the bisexuality has nothing to do with it.

[akazie]

Bisexuality is selfish, we are born to couple up, we can see that by the way humans fall in love. We are born with a perfect partner when we find the person, we know instintively. We instintively know to search for our sole mate when we are 5 years old, that is why you want to explore because you want to find your perfect mate.

[agent1607307371]

Bisexuality is selfish, we are born to couple up, we can see that by the way humans fall in love. We are born with a perfect partner when we find the person, we know instintively. We instintively know to search for our sole mate when we are 5 years old, that is why you want to explore because you want to find your perfect mate.

 

What about bisexuality prevents you from "coupling up"? Bisexuality isn't poly, it isn't open relationships, it isn't non-monogamy. It definitely isn't cheating.

 

It just means you might be attracted to someone of the same sex or the opposite sex.

 

And tbh, the way humans fall in love tells me that while we may couple up, it may not be forever. That seems to depend very strongly on personality, not sexuality.

[Brownstone322]

We are born with a perfect partner when we find the person, we know instintively [sic]. We instintively [sic] know to search for our sole mate [sic] when we are 5 years old, that is why you want to explore because you want to find your perfect mate.

Where do you get all this? And what would it have to do with bisexuality anyway?

[mandyc]

Bisexuality is selfish, we are born to couple up, we can see that by the way humans fall in love. We are born with a perfect partner when we find the person, we know instintively. We instintively know to search for our sole mate when we are 5 years old, that is why you want to explore because you want to find your perfect mate.

 

This is actually completely and utterly false. From a biological perspective (I am a bio major and am taking a class in Human Behavior and Mate Choice right now) we are instinctively polygynous. Just like most other mamals we are "programed" to want to mate with different partners in order to get our genes into the next gene pool. Under 10% of mamals are naturally monogamous, and of those that are they are usually only that way for one breeding season, not a life time.

 

Now does culture and social norms value monogamy? Absolutely. But it is in no way what is natural to us as human beings, it is actually something we have to fight pretty hard for to maintain.

[lavenderdove]

The situation you are describing has nothing to do with sexuality... it is about a decision to be monogamous or not, so it is a fidelity/infidelity issue.

 

A heterosexual guy may find lots of other women he is attracted to, but makes a commitment to stay faithful to his partner. The other difference with a bi-sexual women, is that she can be attracted to either male or female, but there is no reason for her to 'have both' anymore than there is for a guy to 'have both' if he is attracted to two women.

 

Someone who is still experimenting with sexuality and doesn't want to be faithful should only date casually with no expectation of monogamy involved, or date in an open relationship. But is unrealistic to expect to be 'allowed' to be unfaithful with a bi-sexuality 'out' clause. A guy could use the same logic and say i am attracted to both brunettes and blondes, so i should be able to date them both at the same time. It's just irrelevant when the issue is monogamy/fidelity, not sexuality.