Question for guys (or girls) in law school

[Billy587]

My girlfriend of one year this fall will be going to law school 4 hours away and we'll probably only be able to see each other every other weekend. I know every girl is different and I cannot take the answers I get here on and assume my girlfriend will act the same, however, here is my question. From your experience at law school, the girls there who have boyfriends and are in an LDR, are they faithful for the most part? Does it seem common for girls to go out and make out with other guys and hook up without their boyfriend being there? Lastly, do guys at law school who know a girl is in an LDR not pursued, or will they not care and still make attempts to get with her? Thanks for any input.

[Aviatormy]

You sound VERY insecure!

 

You need to just stop asking these questions and make sure you do not make your GF feel smothered and or controlled.

 

All of your questions are spoken out of insecurities. Her being in law school has nothing to do with how she will react in a situation when another man hits on her. She could be going to school to be a teacher and still have people hit on her. It will happen EVERYWHERE. Not just in Law School.

 

How old are you? Why are you so insecure? Has she given you a reason to not trust her??

[MrNiceGuy2010]

I graduated from law school last May:

 

Here's the deal: It all depends on your girl.

 

If your girl makes it clear that she's in a serious, committed relationship guys won't pursue her. When you come up, go to the law school parties, play ball with the law school guys, make friends with her classmates. The more visible you are when you're up there as your girlfriend's boyfriend, the better off you'll be. And if you're cool, dudes will look out for you.

 

Just about all the girls I know who were in long distance relationships were EXTREMELY faithful to their boyfriends. Most of them were in long term relationships that were progressing towards marriage or were engaged, but they were almost all faithful.

 

A few couples broke up, but the girl didn't cheat on them. The distance just eventually took its toll.

[Day_Walker]

I dont think that you can lump all of the girls together in law school and say definitively that they cheat or are faithful. With that being said I do not know what type of girl your gf is but law school can be very stressful especially in your first year when you have to immerse yourself in a massive amount of reading and briefing cases.

 

People have to find a way of relieving that stress, some people go out and drink, some people wanna relax and watch tv. It will all depend on the person. It seems to me that if you are asking these questions then you obviously do not trust your gf. If you dont trust her then your fears will drive her away.

[faithful14]

okay, I didn't go to law school but my boyfriend did- and I did have many opportunities over the course of his schooling to go out with him and his friends and here's what I can tell you:

 

Girls: The ones that were single in the first year were kind of wild and had random hookups but eventually stopped doing so. The girls in a relationship did remain faithful to their boyfriends and some broke up (not because of cheating)and a few actually ended up getting engaged by the time graduation rolled around. Law school students do like to drink and have fun going the bars but a majority of their time has to be given to studying . My boyfriend went out once a week to the bars with his law buddies but he was mainly spending most of his time at home or in the library studying or write papers. But like MrNiceguy said, it all depends on the girl. I hope this helps.

[Aviatormy]

To the OP...

 

I apologize if my calling you "Insecure" offended you. I was just going off of what I read. I really think you just need to calm down and let nature take its course.

 

The only advice that I have for you is...

 

When in a relationship, you have to stick out from all other guys. When you feel like she is getting distant from you, you need to assure her of your feelings towards her and make her love you all over again. You have to make sure that you are being the guy that you need to be for her so she will never be tempted to see if the grass is "greener".

 

As long as you are confident that you are the most understanding, protecting, loving, understanding and best friend to her, you should be confident that she will not be looking for love in other places.

 

So with that said, Good luck to you and I really hope she remains faithful to you. You have done all that you can at this point, the future of your relationship is in the hands of the two of you and how you chose to treat each other from here on out.

 

Sorry again. I didn't mean any harm by calling/implying that you are insecure. That is a very unattractive characteristic to women and it causes more break ups than you think. I had two women cheat on me because "I" tried way too hard to hold on to them. I had a death grip on them due to my insecurities and although cheating is never ok to do to someone, I can see how I pushed them away. I would rather them just break up with me than cheat and have me find out but that is the way they chose to end it.... not me.

 

I was a very great guy to these women. I just pushed them away because I was so smothering. One of them broke down a year after I broke up with her when we went out for a few drinks. She wanted to rekindle a relationship with me as she could see the changes that I made and I paid her little attention. She wishes she never did that to me but she admitted that she could not take my smothering anymore and she apologized.

 

Good luck to you. I hope my failures and experiences have helped you out. They sure helped me a lot. My current GF feels free as a bird and I am confident that she will never cheat on me because I give her all the freedom she wants.