shelbygirl Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 How do you know for sure that your LD SO does not have someone else from home or even another LDR person? I have trust issues. My SO is great but sometimes I wonder and worry. I have not seen him since Sept. We have not had the chance to hook up again due to busy schedules. I don't like to worry over things like this. Not sure how to stop? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the headhoncho Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 if you have issues with him, ask him outright if he has someone else as well as you. if you simply have a bad feeling then it could be down to other insecurities about the relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shelbygirl Posted March 24, 2010 Author Share Posted March 24, 2010 If I ask him then he might get mad. I don't want to make him mad. He has been very good to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ToF Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 If he's been very good to you, then you should not worry about it. Easier said than done though! Some people are made for LDRs, and some just aren't. You may want to re-consider this, and decide if you belong in the latter category. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shelbygirl Posted March 24, 2010 Author Share Posted March 24, 2010 If he's been very good to you, then you should not worry about it. Easier said than done though! Some people are made for LDRs, and some just aren't. You may want to re-consider this, and decide if you belong in the latter category. How do you know if your made for an LDR? Also, another thing I don't like is the fact that no plans are set as to who is moving to who? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 For me it was simple. I didn't worry because I trusted him. I knew I couldn't have a healthy relationship without trust, so if I didn't trust him that would have been a dealbreaker or a sign that I needed to work on general trust issues. Even if someone lives down the block from you how would you know where he is when he's not with you? Same with an LDR - it had nothing to do with how often we saw each other (in our case we made sure that was every 10 days or so) but whether we trusted each other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ToF Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 How do you know if your made for an LDR? Also, another thing I don't like is the fact that no plans are set as to who is moving to who? Well, I suggested that you MIGHT not be made for an LDR, because of your trust issues. You are obviously having problems, even though he's done nothing. LDRs take two strong, self-assured, secure people, or else I just can't see how it would work. You do not seem to be a secure person by nature (which is very normal!), so I am led to think that you may not be cut out for this kind of relationship. Do you see what I mean? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shelbygirl Posted March 24, 2010 Author Share Posted March 24, 2010 Well, I suggested that you MIGHT not be made for an LDR, because of your trust issues. You are obviously having problems, even though he's done nothing. LDRs take two strong, self-assured, secure people, or else I just can't see how it would work. You do not seem to be a secure person by nature (which is very normal!), so I am led to think that you may not be cut out for this kind of relationship. Do you see what I mean? Yes I do see what you mean. I have not been real insecure in all of my past relationships. It's seems to be with the LDR. It may be that the distance is far to great. I'm not sure. Guess I'll have to wait and see. Only in this like 9 months. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CaptainNapalm Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 You never know. That's why it's essential to work on one's security issues with trust rather than try to work on methods of figuring out if he's loyal or not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joshb Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 ive had trust issues in the past, however being in a LDR surprisingly i have 0 trust issues and its long distance! I know she isnt seeing anyone else, as i am not. Talking everyday and often throughout the day helps with this, as well as the frequent visits. We both dont go out drinking, partying lot neither, helps. Distance should be over sooner then later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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