Psinic Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 Hi, So I am making some progress. I am eating better, still not the same but better, and I am sleeping a little better in that I only wake up about2 or 3 times a night now. Thing is I just can't sleep in my bed. My family and friends all say I should, and that I will sleep better there - but i can't . Thing is the whole room reminds me of her, not just the bed. And if I try to go to sleep i just end of thinking about her and us. So instead i sleep on the sofa, where i can watch t.v. until I fall asleep, and then can watch something when I wake up till I fall asleep again. This isn't healthy is it - but I just can't seem to make the change to the bedroom. anyone else suffering this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doityourself Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 Can you try rearranging your furniture or changing bedding? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blahsquared Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 I do the exact same thing, which has totally thrown my shoulders out of whack. So, sleep in your bed to prevent injury. Move your TV into your bedroom, do some more furniture reorganization. Breaking up's really just a pain in the neck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JonasWaingaro Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 Yep, I slept on the sofa for a long time. I couldn't handle the bed. Eventually I decided enough is enough and moved back to the bed. One big help was getting new sheets. I bought some really nice 800 thread count sheets. Very comfy. Change your bedroom around some. I also bought a new bed, again helped. One day you'll get tired of the sofa and make yourself go back to your bed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karvala Posted March 23, 2010 Share Posted March 23, 2010 This behaviour is entirely normal. It's actually the combination of two different things: one is to avoid a scenario that strongly reminds you of your ex, and the other is to avoid reality and loneliness by medicating with an ongoing treat and company: lying on the sofa in front of the TV. It's avoidance behaviour, but you know what? It's okay. At this stage, do what you need to hold it together, to remain functional. In time, you'll tire of it and find the strength to go back and confront the bedroom, but don't beat yourself up. At the moment you just need to find a way through each day, and do whatever it takes to help you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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