Attracted to a shy guy possibly? [advice]

[Jake]

This is so true, and I have gone over that as well. I thought "maybe I am making him feel terrible. I say hi to him, he is happy, and then the next time I see him, I expect him to come up to me," and when I don't "crap, maybe she doesn't like me. ah i have to leave. no but i must look at her once more" HAHAHA!

 

I don't know, i consider even talking to him as flirting with him since I am attracted to him..

 

But i will take what you just said into heavy consideration..

 

 

Yeah I wouldn't do that, talking to him and then not even saying "hi" or ignoring him the next time will make him feel like utter crap. Just say "hi" if you're passing by him and smile if you can. I can guaranteeeee you he'll be skipping all the way home in the rain all happy.

 

 

To the bolded part: Yeah I feel the same way but didn't want to say so as that's alittle ( for me to admit. It's even worse when the girl asks how old I am...that's pretty obvious and then I just blush hard lol!

[aurevoir]

Yeah I wouldn't do that, talking to him and then not even saying "hi" or ignoring him the next time will make him feel like utter crap. Just say "hi" if your passing by him and smile if you can. I can garunteeeeee you he'll be skipping all the way home in the rain all happy.

 

 

To the bolded part: Yeah I feel the same way but didn't want to say so as that's alittle ( for me to admit. It's even worse when the girl asks how old I am...that's pretty obvious and then I just blush hard lol!

 

I am so sorry but damn even muttering a hi is so difficult.

He intimidates me because he is so good looking LOL i still have to stare in admiration. It takes me.. a few minutes to relax and do something. Sometimes even ten minutes! eeek.

 

Oh my god, I probably made him feel TERRIBLE when I said hi, and opened up and then didn't day anything but stare the next day.

[aurevoir]

What if i jokingly say "Wow you really hate me don't you? " > since he acts so strangely around me.

Do you think that'll scare him off...?

[Valentine]

Well geez at least he talks to you lOL

 

lol...yes..at least he does. Sucks if you have it worse. I can't imagine always having to be the one to approach him lately he's been a lot less shy than before. But I seem to have a problem where when we talk I always have to lead the conversation. He listens to me but it's more like he's watching me speak. Don't know if that makes sense? then when there's a silence of more than 5 seconds he makes an excuse to leave instead of trying to continue the conversation.

[aurevoir]

lol...yes..at least he does. Sucks if you have it worse. I can't imagine always having to be the one to approach him lately he's been a lot less shy than before. But I seem to have a problem where when we talk I always have to lead the conversation. He listens to me but it's more like he's watching me speak. Don't know if that makes sense? then when there's a silence of more than 5 seconds he makes an excuse to leave instead of trying to continue the conversation.

 

He is hanging onto your every word Thats why!

He likes you..

[Valentine]

He is hanging onto your every word Thats why!

He likes you..

 

If only he could tell me...but i just wish the conversation would flow better that he would talk more. I want to get to know him better but I don't want to ask him a bunch of personal stuff and creep him out. and he doesn't talk much about himself. I mention things about myself but then when he doesn't say anything about himself...I think, am i oversharing?

[aurevoir]

If only he could tell me...but i just wish the conversation would flow better that he would talk more. I want to get to know him better but I don't want to ask him a bunch of personal stuff and creep him out. and he doesn't talk much about himself. I mention things about myself but then when he doesn't say anything about himself...I think, am i oversharing?

 

Do you ask him about himself though?

ask him like "where are you from" "what do you want to do in life"

[Valentine]

well i know those things because i've asked. But for example i don't know anything about his family or how old he is or and i just feel that in the middle of a conversation i ask..so how old are you? i feel like it would like i planned to ask him. I'm just very bad at transitioning into more personal conversations without making it look deliberate.

[lucky_charm]

Well all I can say is if he's truly a very shy person he's going to be testing your patience because shy guys only have two actions. Slow motion and dead stop.

 

I disagree with this. There's slow motion and then I've been thinking so much about you that now I just have to know if you think the same thing. It happens, sometimes.

 

Every guy that I have ever liked, I have asked. I have no regrets. There's been alot of rejections. That just means alot of practice.

[lucky_charm]

What if i jokingly say "Wow you really hate me don't you? " > since he acts so strangely around me.

Do you think that'll scare him off...?

 

Yes.

 

Maybe, you could ask him what he's up to this weekend and if he's seen the newest flick (I'm not sure what's popular, right now).

 

You definitely need to talk to him.

[aurevoir]

Yes.

 

Maybe, you could ask him what he's up to this weekend and if he's seen the newest flick (I'm not sure what's popular, right now).

 

You definitely need to talk to him.

 

Alright sounds cool!

[Green Mile]

ex-boyfriend!

Not according to this?!

 

He is a nice guy. You are going to essentially reject him because of his looks?

Okay i know it can be a little bothersome... but my boyfriend when we first met, he was not the guy I expected to date - on a physical level - but then as time grew, I really got to know him and he is such a wonderful person lol! To think how I could ever let looks get in the way of finding someone special. He changed too, he wasn't quite the looker back then but wow, now he is HOT. Yes he is, and now he has a lot more woman trying to go out with him then before. But of course he's faithful to me and only me. And it's a good thing because I stayed with him and changed him and helped him grow as a person and he can't thank me enough. It's a huge reward. So stop being shallow and give it a chance. Im tired of females being way too demanding.

 

Hmm I just saw your replies earlier in the thread and I don't understand how you can say you have an "ex" when this post says in black and white that you currently in a relationship. I feel bad for trying to help you now as it seems you're lying about something.

[givinggirl]

If only he could tell me...but i just wish the conversation would flow better that he would talk more. I want to get to know him better but I don't want to ask him a bunch of personal stuff and creep him out. and he doesn't talk much about himself. I mention things about myself but then when he doesn't say anything about himself...I think, am i oversharing?

 

I know this all too well. I do most of the talking and when you are trying to keep conversations going you talk about whatever pops into your head. I wish too that he would talk about himself, even if just a little.

[Valentine]

I know this all too well. I do most of the talking and when you are trying to keep conversations going you talk about whatever pops into your head. I wish too that he would talk about himself, even if just a little.

 

Exactly!!!!

[aurevoir]

Exactly!!!!

 

Maybe he thinks if he talks about himself you'll get annoyed and lose interest in him. That is always a possibility.. I have had friends that told me that..

I dont think you should be too worried. If it bugs you, ask him "how come you don't like to talk about yourself! I'd love to know more about you"