Attracted to a shy guy possibly? [advice]

[aurevoir]

Yeah I am in a pickle.

I dont mean to be rude, but I do not understand shy guys in particular.

The most hardest to decode.

I met this guy awhile ago, and right off the bat i liked him. Maybe it was a crush i don't know. We looked at each other all the time, he always tried to be around me but not too close kind of thing.

 

Did things to get my attention, he was obvious about it. I caught him looking at me from time to time, and when I did he'd just look away. Maybe my beauty scares him? It is like now he is purposely coming to where I go to be around me or something. I finally approached him i didnt ask for him name silly of me right? My bad, all he pretty much did was blush.. and forced me out of the room. I thought that was pretty rude lol? When someone compliments you, why would you do that? anywhoo.. still kept coming around.. yet he wouldn't approach me. we are aware of one another and he wont come to me.

He thinks him trying to walk around constantly will do something, except i dont know what TO DO? I dont wanna read into it too much.. so what do you think.

 

and now he sees me and like runs. Not literally but you know what i mean.

It's upsetting... he seems cool with everyone else but wow? what did I do wrong? If you like someone you avoid them thats what I am told.. but he doesn't avoid me completely, just sees me and like avoids. I hope this makes sense, my mind is full of this situation and its very hard. I dont know what to do.

 

Please I am begging you please help me.

Should I talk to him or just move on to someone else?

 

 

Is he shy? Or just immature?

[DN]

Ask him out for a coffee or for lunch.

[aurevoir]

I don't know him well enough to do that.

[sidehop]

He sounds very shy!

 

Do you know any of his friends that you can actually talk and get through his head you're interested? If he keeps running away and you try to approach him, it could be that his shyness is becoming unbearable for him to even make a simple eye contact with you.

[DN]

I don't know him well enough to do that.

Well, do you want him to ask you out?

[aurevoir]

He sounds very shy!

 

Do you know any of his friends that you can actually talk and get through his head you're interested? If he keeps running away and you try to approach him, it could be that his shyness is becoming unbearable for him to even make a simple eye contact with you.

 

Um I don't actually. But recently, this never happened before it started happening like this week.

God it even happened today, I was sitting on the bench, i was already inside using a computer and i guess he got up and then I noticed someone looking at me, so i look over he looks away and sits back down.

 

so i left, and then lol i was waiting for a friend at the bench and then i turn around i seen him, i think he was looking for something? and when he seen me he just ducked and went back inside....

 

 

its like I did something wrong.

 

How can i politely nicely approach him? where he won't blush and try to rush me out of the room LOL

[aurevoir]

Well, do you want him to ask you out?

 

I would love that, seeing how I do not like or enjoy chasing guys.

But I DOUBT highly doubt after a couple of months of this he will.

[Keyman]

I don't know him well enough to do that.

 

I'm with DN and Sidehop. It would appear that you will need to be making the first move and ask him to spend some time with you. Because it doesn't sound like he is going to do it.

 

Surely you don't need to be his best friend to ask him... And he could bee saying the same thing about you..."I don't know her well enough to ask her out."

[sidehop]

You didn't do anything wrong, severely shy guys simply cannot respond to even positive response that the girl is giving.

 

You really need to be patient, it may take some time before he can feel comfortable around you. I wouldn't bombard him with any big questions, find out his name, his interest and just show him that you don't bite and he can be comfortable around you.

 

It really is a frightening experience for them depending on the level of their shyness.

[Jayauntae F.]

problem isen't you don't know what to do, problem is mustering up the courage to ask him do you like me or not........then ask him out just for the hell of it if he says yes i like you and go forward

[aurevoir]

You didn't do anything wrong, severely shy guys simply cannot respond to even positive response that the girl is giving.

 

You really need to be patient, it may take some time before he can feel comfortable around you. I wouldn't bombard him with any big questions, find out his name, his interest and just show him that you don't bite and he can be comfortable around you.

 

It really is a frightening experience for them depending on the level of their shyness.

 

 

You make a very good point. I am probably hearing this now and probably by tomorrow i'll forget, get annoyed and won't even bother. Yes finding out his name is a must..

 

so you think he's interested?

[sidehop]

Of course he's interested Or he wouldn't be looking at you, look away and acting a bit stalkish in a way.

 

I was shy but not severely shy and I can tell you it was scary when girls approached me, whether as friends or more. I'm not surprised he pushed you out of the room as bad and rude as it sounds.

 

I'm sure he'll open up to you eventually.

[aurevoir]

Of course he's interested Or he wouldn't be looking at you, look away and acting a bit stalkish in a way.

 

I was shy but not severely shy and I can tell you it was scary when girls approached me, whether as friends or more. I'm not surprised he pushed you out of the room as bad and rude as it sounds.

 

I'm sure he'll open up to you eventually.

 

Hahah that sound so mean though. Like "haahaha blush blush ok bye now!"

that seems mean and at first i took it as "oh wow, someone really doesn't like me i guess." then he showed up the next day.

 

I always rule it as "hes just here to do work" but it doesn't seem that way.

 

I want to try to do something, before it is too late.

[sidehop]

I wouldn't worry...he'll stick around I'm sure. How about Facebook...email...I'm sure there's a way for him to open up more than just your face all over his LOL

[aurevoir]

Should I ask him for his email?

I wanted to, but i always thought that was weird

ahaha im strange!

[sidehop]

If you want him to get talking I don't see why it wouldn't hurt!

[aurevoir]

He intimidates me

LOL.

 

Its much better though because those "omg butterflies... eeek" feelings have died down a bit. I feel much more comfortable now around him when he's near.

[sidehop]

You two are basically intimidating each other...I'm sure once the ice is broken he won't stop talking!

[aurevoir]

How does one break the ice. I am so bad at this, forgive me.

Usually he's alone or hes around people studying.. i wouldnt know how to approach

[sidehop]

Ask him a question that he's already interested or knowledgeable about, or an interest you two share in common, something not so direct as "hey what's your email!" but a welcoming/harmless question that he won't be so afraid to reply back and feel that you're not a threat.

[aurevoir]

Hmm sounds complicated HA especially right off the bat..

[sidehop]

I'm sure you will do just fine

[aurevoir]

Hm what are other things shy guys do?

[OntheWire]

Honestly, anything where you come accross assertive and flirty would be fine. Ask him to teach you Dungeons and Dragons... if he's shy and bad with women, then he probably knows how to play. If he tries to dodge it, just lean forward kind of flirty like, touch his arm, smile, and say, "C'mon, stud..."

 

If you continue to be forward, he'll eventually let down the walls.

[aurevoir]

Thanks but thats pretty.... too much for me.

Hahah dungeons and dragons?

LOL!