When did you stop thinking of your ex sexually?

[quirky]

As the title indicates. Considering you had a pretty good sex life, you were his/her type and you were planning to discover lots more together.

 

Maybe this is geared for those further down the line of healing

 

I'm 8 months out of the brekup, 2 months of absolute NC. I stopped thinking of him sexually as much as I used to but I still do..more so (oddly enough) when I feel more confident O_O

 

What about you?

[Keyman]

Sometimes you don't until you have someone else that satisfies you sexually. And even then, you may still have memories of it. I still have occasional memories of my first girlfriend and that was nearly 20 years ago now...

[jul-els]

Yeah, it's not really the person you were with that you're remembering, but the experience you had. They just happened to be there at the time experiencing it with you. Like if you took a vacation together, you might still have some great memories of it without thinking of the ex in particular. Every time something jogs your memory you go back to it on some level. I would imagine even that fades away after a time though. Or you just get to the point that you're comfortable with it and no longer notice it.

[EQIQ]

Do you mean though.. for example.. not wanting the person back, but desiring them sexually? Because I can totally see how that would happen...

[MakestheBest]

I'll letcha know when i stop.

[Blackey]

the second she got genital herpes after sleeping with the guy who she dumped me for.

well at least in my mind she has genital herpes, so just thinking about her having it is a pretty big turn off...i am never going to touch her...

[WomanWriter]

I think of my ex sexually when my current boyfriend uses certain poses or expressions that my ex would use, such as the way he looks into my eyes. I know it's wrong, but it just happens.

[His Annamchara]

i hope soon... I'm going crazy and it hasnt even been a month out of the break-up.

[AutumnBorn]

Um, last night, right after I...never mind.

[greywolf]

I still think of my ex sexually sometimes. Doesn't mean I want to have sex with her though.

[1guygirl]

well i havent stopped thinkin bout my ex sexually - i dont deliberately do it, it jus is there. but i am sure in time that will go. this is made easier by the fact of NC and him living miles away so i dont have to see him at all....and so the memory will fade

[quirky]

Good to get some perspective from others. I sometimes think desiring the ex will just slowly go away when we have another partner.

[bish0p2004]

Good to get some perspective from others. I sometimes think desiring the ex will just slowly go away when we have another partner.

 

That's funny because I never thought about my ex sexually until I started dating again. Now I think about it all the time.

[guynextdoor]

I still do, because the experience was that good..

[quirky]

gnd, how long has it been?

 

For me it has really improved the last 3 weeks, I used to ALWAYS think of him up until that point.

[quirky]

That's funny because I never thought about my ex sexually until I started dating again. Now I think about it all the time.

 

I think it's the same thing as when I said "when I feel more confident". Because when we are more confident we flirt more and then maybe we subconsciously compare. Or it reminds us of the last person we were sexual with..

[guynextdoor]

Well I'm single so its on my mind more often than I want it to be. I'm sure once I find a new mate it would change.

[mfmiami]

ex husband of 13 years - a few months after he left..... but that was only because I was sleeping with someone new.

 

Ex boyfriend? last time we were together was Oct 31st. Urge isn't as strong but it would still be hard to say no (BUT I WOULD!)....because quite frankly I haven't been celibate for this long since i started having sex 24 years ago!

[Hobbes]

Last night, strangely.

[hexaemeron]

About a year and a half before we broke up.

[regular joe]

When I reach that point, I'll give you the answer.

[ComeClarity]

I can't think about sex right now because when I do I think of some other guy being that close with a woman i'm in love with. I can't think about anything it's mental insanity

[fLuiD]

I can't think about sex right now because when I do I think of some other guy being that close with a woman i'm in love with. I can't think about anything it's mental insanity

 

 

Agreed. I still have very intense images of my ex and I easily remember the thoughts and feelings I was experiencing at that exact moment. But knowing that she is dating someone else, the thought of her in such an intimate moment with someone else sends me into a bad mood quickly!

[Agrajag]

Agreed. I still have very intense images of my ex and I easily remember the thoughts and feelings I was experiencing at that exact moment. But knowing that she is dating someone else, the thought of her in such an intimate moment with someone else sends me into a bad mood quickly!

 

I can't really explain how it feels.

 

I think it's more the fact she's opening up herself to someone in an intimate way. Her choice is what hurts me the most. I feel like he does no deserve the pleasure.

 

Such a terrible feeling!

[learning2relax]

It can be brutal. I try not to go there. When I do, I try and think of something else. It was good but not good enough to put myself through hell to try and keep that aspect of it.