QuestionHeart Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 So spoke with him today and found out that he basically has the day off and is gonna do errands and go to his mom's to do laundry and have dinner , etc. Is this not good? He sees me once a week for like a few hours, he has a busy schedule...but then...he had today off...but then he said he is getting stuff done...??? And while we're on the subject when does a guy introduce you to his mom and friends? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little Blue Ant Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 If the guy is THAT busy, then maybe he just wants to have a day off to himself. That's not incredibly weird at all. I was in a 5 year relationship and I LOVED my alone time when I got it. How long have you been going out? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyBrandon Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 I had an ex-bf who was like that. It took me years before I wised up and stopped all contact with him. It was over a year before I met his parents. Never did get to meet his friends. If this guy really loved you he would find a way to do everything he needed to do and still spend time with you. Lose him and find a new guy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sanesoul Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 Sometimes people have to take care of their lives. If he's a really busy man then I could see using a day off to get things done. If it were a repeated occurrence, I might get worried. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovelace Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 Eh, you're already only seeing him once a week. In my experience, no one's really that busy. I'd dump him. But then, I require a little more involvement than a once-a-week thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 How long have you been dating him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuestionHeart Posted March 18, 2010 Author Share Posted March 18, 2010 How long have you been dating him? Dated last may-June then stopped, started dating again January-present. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abitbroken Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 Maybe he really needs to catch up on stuff. If he is running errands the entire day, then that is probably the case. If you guys dated for a month or two, stopped, and now have been dating two months - you are not really far enough along to assume all days off are spent together. Some people are inseparable from the beginning and some are not. I wouldn't be upset. Maybe he wants to get this done so he can not have to deal with it so he can see you on the weekend. If you see him once a week - that is not too bad for seeing him a month or two. BTW, do you ever suggest to see eachother at other times = offer to meet him near his work to grab a cup of coffee or lunch because you are in the neighborhood? If you want to see him more, make a move. But if you have only seen him 6 weeks this go-round let's say - I think its a bit premature to be upset about day's off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 When else is he supposed to get his stuff done? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyBrandon Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 Dated last may-June then stopped, started dating again January-present. You need to find someone who will be more into you. Lose him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 Some people are just busy.....If he works then he probably has to balance work and family and errands. I'm super busy and thankfully my boyfriend works a lot of hours and doesn't require a lot of time with me. We do enjoy our time together when we have it but I can honestly say that our schedules consume us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuestionHeart Posted March 18, 2010 Author Share Posted March 18, 2010 You need to find someone who will be more into you. Lose him. Yeah...Now Im just wondering if I should just play along or cut it all off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
faithful14 Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 Have you told him that you would like to see him more often (when he has free time) even if it's for a cup of coffee or lunch? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuestionHeart Posted March 18, 2010 Author Share Posted March 18, 2010 Have you told him that you would like to see him more often (when he has free time) even if it's for a cup of coffee or lunch? yes....we could see each other a lot more if he woke up earlier but he wont. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bebeblondie Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 yes....we could see each other a lot more if he woke up earlier but he wont. What time would be "waking up earlier"? Does he work nights? If you're seeing him consistently once a week for about 2 months that's not too bad, but less than that I would not tolerate. I am sure if things progress you will see him more often. BTW What was the reason you guys stopped seeing each other back in June? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuestionHeart Posted March 18, 2010 Author Share Posted March 18, 2010 What time would be "waking up earlier"? Does he work nights? If you're seeing him consistently once a week for about 2 months that's not too bad, but less than that I would not tolerate. I am sure if things progress you will see him more often. BTW What was the reason you guys stopped seeing each other back in June? I have no idea why the June thing happened.... We got into an argument last night about the whole situation, he cried (he's a cryer), and just said he was so busy and didnt have any time and reminded me that we do see each other once a week and was just kinda mad at me for causing an ugly argument to happen . He said he loves me blah blah. The more I think about it, the more I think seeing me once a week is kinda ridiculous, how can you build a relationship on that let alone a serious lifetime partnership together? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rikka Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 When else is he supposed to get his stuff done? Exactly. As someone who is dating (or at least trying to) with a very busy schedule, I have things that need to get done on my days off. As others have pointed out, you are seeing each other once a week, in my opinion that is not too bad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
orchidrose Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 We got into an argument last night about the whole situation, he cried (he's a cryer), and just said he was so busy and didnt have any time and reminded me that we do see each other once a week and was just kinda mad at me for causing an ugly argument to happen . He said he loves me blah blah. The more I think about it, the more I think seeing me once a week is kinda ridiculous, how can you build a relationship on that let alone a serious lifetime partnership together? It really seems like he does care about you, but unfortunately he's just so busy that he is completely unable to see you more than that one day a week. It doesn't seem like he's ignoring you at all; he seems very stressed and is doing his best to maintain a relationship with his busy schedule. Unless things drastically change for him, this is how it's going to be. It's very hard to date someone with a very busy schedule. Some people can handle it, and others can't. If you're not okay with just seeing him once a week, maybe it's best to step away fom the relationship. Continuing to get angry and frustrated and tell him that you need to see him more will only cause more distance between the two of you and make the relationship die quickly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hexaemeron Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 You need to find someone who will be more into you. Lose him. No, he needs to date someone who can see past her own nose. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hexaemeron Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 OP, I'm a very busy guy. I work almost all the time. I travel internationally often for my job and there's never enough time in the day for me to get what I need to get done, much less worry about things at home like laundry or dishes or vacuuming, MUCH LESS spending huge amounts of time with friends or my partner. I think you need to open your eyes a bit and look at the situation logically. He's not avoiding you. He's BUSY. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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