Second chance riding out wifes depression.

[top bloke]

It was about 3 years ago my wife was hit by depression. Always a perfectionist before that ..the years leading up to that point I noticed her reduced loving side and obsessive nature. I was lost..then it became clearer to me.. She was a mentally unwell woman. I had weathered much negativity and nasty behaviour but to hold my tongue still ..to just love her more. They put her on avanza and the jealous behaviour,snappiness and hurtful comments kept coming. I took all of the blows to watch my darling become somebody who I could almost hardly recognise. I again just kept quiet..kept my patience and kept the faith. We have 2 great kids and lovely home. As time went on she seemed better but still that alienation. Why? I always took care of them..never even flirted with another woman all those years.

In the past year..the most hurtful things said ..my heart endured for the love of this woman and my family..I started feeling empty...like a shell. But I kept my resolve..I kept my promise..till death do us part. It was killing me every day..a little at a time. Was this illness or was I not special in her eyes after 18years?

More recently she switched to a new medication and the difference these past few weeks has been nothing short of a miracle. The vibrant happy wonderful woman I had married is back. Giving up and walking away was never really an option for me . We talked..I told her what she had put me through with the wrong medication driving the abusive behaviour.

Finally after so long...I am loved again.

All I can say to people is dont give up on your loved ones with depression..love them and there is a blessing waiting at the end...

I am a lucky man.

[Sanesoul]

I'm so happy to hear this! I had a horrible time with my medication (I suffer from clinical depression, anxiety and PTSD), and I almost lost my husband. The medication fueled terrible decisions.

 

I am off the meds now and happier than I ever have been. I'm so glad that you stuck it out and it's paying off.

[penelope13]

Oh TB, so glad to hear that things are working out for you!

[Seraphim]

I am glad that something works!! Medications sometimes do SUCH nasty things to people. One of my son's medications made him depressed and violent. Individual chemistry is very powerful. I am so happy you have your wife back!

[top bloke]

I'm so happy to hear this! I had a horrible time with my medication (I suffer from clinical depression, anxiety and PTSD), and I almost lost my husband. The medication fueled terrible decisions.

 

I am off the meds now and happier than I ever have been. I'm so glad that you stuck it out and it's paying off.

I am glad for your recovery. Its not an easy illness to understand and youve hit the nail on the head..it fuelled bad decisions. Its sad when people break up over this but I can understand why. Still I feel that being married is too important to not fight for. Thanks for sharing..you and my wife are worth the fight.

[top bloke]

Oh TB, so glad to hear that things are working out for you!

 

Thank you. It unusual...but good. It is like I have a new more loving and passionate woman in my life. Its what a man needs from his lady.

[top bloke]

I am glad that something works!! Medications sometimes do SUCH nasty things to people. One of my son's medications made him depressed and violent. Individual chemistry is very powerful. I am so happy you have your wife back!

Thank you. Individual chemistry is powerful..how much they affect a person is staggering. Her face used to be puffy..eyes glassy many times. Since coming off avanza her face is not puffy.. Her eyes are clear and her weight has dropped..all from getting off the drug.