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Hey guys. I think I'm a fairly good looking guy, 5'8", but good looking(-ish). Since I was 12 I've had the chance to go out with 4 really really pretty people. Two of them absolute stunners. However, for some reason, I've never asked out any of them! I am shy, but not very shy. I think most shy people would actually call me relatively confident.


At the moment, there is another girl I like. I think she likes me, due to obvious signs. I've talked to her once, when I sat next to her in class, and the only other time I've got near to her is when speaking in a group of friends. My problem is that I have the confidence to talk to girls, when in the right situation, but out of that, I find it difficult to speak to them. So much so that I'll actually avoid them.


In fact, one of the girls I like (before the girl above) was standing at the bus stop the other day and for some reason I turned and walked away, delaying the time for me to get on the bus. It's because I'm scared I think. I like her, she likes me, she wants me to ask her out, but I never do...so then I feel even more awkward and if I did ask her out, I'd feel like a because I ignored all that other time before!!


I don't know what I expect from this. I'm just being completely honest to you guys. Quite honestly, I just want comments! However ridiculing



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Sounds a lot like me till I met my girlfriend. Girls would like me and me them but then when it came to actually asking them out I would suddenly be super shy. I would just write a note so I would not have to actually say anything and sound like an idiot when I did. I will be honest it didn't help me get all of the girls but I only used it on say 4 and it worked on the one I have now. The other 3, 2 said no lets just be friends and the 3rd was asked out by one of our other friends first so I missed it by a day.


I would say just go for it and don't worry about it. If it is just saying it out loud then ask her online or text her or use a note. Trust me they will not care if you are a little late unless they are taken. Which by the way has to be one of the worst feelings ever is to know you could of had the girl you wanted but waited to long.

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I think it's just a matter of not allowing yourself too much time to think about it. Just walk up to her, and at the end of your conversation, say something like, "We should grab coffee on . Let me get your number." Don't think about, just throw it into your conversation like you two are best buds.


The longer you wait, the more nervous you will get. Be yourself.

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