My parents calls me fat. Am I?

[vertigoxo]

Hey lovelies.

 

Okay, so I'm gonna be honest, lately I've been eating a lot recently for no reason at all. Maybe I'm so bored with my life that eating is the only thing that comforts me.

 

I've always had this "gut" problem since forever. My stomach sticks out a little. It really isn't that bad, but my parents think different. Last night they called me fat, and today my dad is all, "What's up, fattie?"

 

Yeah. *rolls eyes* Their emotional/mental intelligence is as short as a gnat on coke.

 

I am 5'4 and a half, and weigh 130-135+ pounds. So you be the judge... Am I fat or not?

 

Go ahead and be honest.

[Seraphim]

You are in no way fat. Women carry a little more fat in some regions for child bearing. I would walk by with my fingers in my ears going lalalalalalalala....seriously you are NOT fat.

[vertigoxo]

You are in no way fat. Women carry a little more fat in some regions for child bearing. I would walk by with my fingers in my ears going lalalalalalalala....seriously you are NOT fat.

 

Lmao this made me laugh, thank you.

 

Even way before this happened, my mom would always be like, "Omg if you ate much less than you do now, you could have the body of a model..."

 

What, you mean those clothing hangers that walks around with their bones sticking out?

[annie24]

you're not fat. your parents are idiots however. i would move out ASAP!

 

if you find yourself eating out of boredom, i would take steps to correct that. eat foods that keep you full longer (full of fiber like apples and spinach and oatmeal). and find something else to distract you like a book or knitting.

[shikashika]

Who knows if you *look* fat?

 

You might be, you might not.

 

What you weigh doesn't matter...maybe you do look fat, you can't tell just from saying weight and height.

 

For me, if I reach 125 pounds (I'm 5'1) I look fat. On another 5'1 person, it may not.

 

How much exercise do you do? What do you eat?

[vertigoxo]

you're not fat. your parents are idiots however. i would move out ASAP!

 

if you find yourself eating out of boredom, i would take steps to correct that. eat foods that keep you full longer (full of fiber like apples and spinach and oatmeal). and find something else to distract you like a book or knitting.

 

Hey honey, thank you so much for this. BELIEVE ME, if I had the money, I'd move out so fast, their heads would spin! I mean I don't hate my parents but when you hang around with such close-minded people for such a long time, it really irritates the crap outta you naturally, you know?

 

I gotta be honest, I don't know why I'm overeating. I raid the fridge late at night, eating hot dogs or sodas, or chips, just junk. I don't know what's wrong with me... Maybe it's my self-injury issues; Since I don't cut anymore, I'm finding my "fix" in food now. Ugh...

 

I'll try the healthier approach, though! Starting tonight, I will eat just fruits whenever I get cravings, and drink water when I'm thirsty.

[vertigoxo]

Who knows if you *look* fat?

 

You might be, you might not.

 

What you weigh doesn't matter...maybe you do look fat, you can't tell just from saying weight and height.

 

For me, if I reach 125 pounds (I'm 5'1) I look fat. On another 5'1 person, it may not.

 

How much exercise do you do? What do you eat?

 

I don't excercise. But I will start walking/jogging/running in two weeks since the weather is getting warmer where I live.

 

I eat a variety of stuff. Healthy, non-healthy... It varies.

[Seraphim]

If you have a medium build you are not fat. Maybe someone with a smaller build it might look like more. What I have seen of your pics you are not fat.

[annie24]

i'm an emotional eater as well. i know. i think part of what we have to do is stop and say 'am i really hungry? or am i upset/angry/bored?' learn to listen to your body's inner cues. and you have to find a new outlet for your stress besides cutting or eating. sigh. i know everything i am saying is not easy. maybe journal or call a friend? go for a walk? watch a funny movie?

[itsallgrand]

Their emotional/mental intelligence is as short as a gnat on coke.

 

 

Yeah, no kidding!

 

Well I guess if your mom is one of those moms who had eating/weight/weird body image stuff going on her whole life, she is gonna go ahead and transfer that on to you. It sucks, but how many of us women have gotten the displeasure of growing up around that legacy?! Too friggin' many!

 

You seem to have a good sense about your bod. I don't think you are fat - you are in a healthy range - but you also realize you are prone to eating out of boredom so you can deal with that in a healthy way before it becomes a real problem. Easier to do it starting young before having watched weight creep on seemingly overnight. lol.

[vertigoxo]

If you have a medium build you are not fat. Maybe someone with a smaller build it might look like more. What I have seen of your pics you are not fat.

 

Not sure which build size I am, but yeah, I think I'm on the medium size. And thank you, I'm glad I'm not morbidly obese. XD

 

i'm an emotional eater as well. i know. i think part of what we have to do is stop and say 'am i really hungry? or am i upset/angry/bored?' learn to listen to your body's inner cues. and you have to find a new outlet for your stress besides cutting or eating. sigh. i know everything i am saying is not easy. maybe journal or call a friend? go for a walk? watch a funny movie?

 

If it's not cutting, it's eating. If it's not eating, I bite my nails off. No matter what, I get super anxious and just HAVE to find a self-destructive outlet to relieve myself.

 

I could try taking walks more often. I love breathing in the clean air where I live. It relaxes me.

 

Yeah, no kidding!

 

Well I guess if your mom is one of those moms who had eating/weight/weird body image stuff going on her whole life, she is gonna go ahead and transfer that on to you. It sucks, but how many of us women have gotten the displeasure of growing up around that legacy?! Too friggin' many!

 

You seem to have a good sense about your bod. I don't think you are fat - you are in a healthy range - but you also realize you are prone to eating out of boredom so you can deal with that in a healthy way before it becomes a real problem. Easier to do it starting young before having watched weight creep on seemingly overnight. lol.

 

My mom was thin her whole life and then around college, she was over 100 pounds overweight. She got really big. It took her many years and now she isn't big anymore. She used to suffer a lot of emotional problems with her weight. But now, her weight range is normal.

 

I guess she just doesn't want me to suffer as much as she did.

[In the Dark]

HA HA HA! you clown......

 

Okay if you believe that then remember fat people have big boobies.

[vertigoxo]

HA HA HA! you clown......

 

Okay if you believe that then remember fat people have big boobies.

 

 

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Lmaoooo!

[Firiel]

 

If it's not cutting, it's eating. If it's not eating, I bite my nails off. No matter what, I get super anxious and just HAVE to find a self-destructive outlet to relieve myself.

 

I could try taking walks more often. I love breathing in the clean air where I live. It relaxes me.

 

I think that's a good idea. I struggle with anxiety a lot, and working out is something that really helps me keep it in check. Many times, I will deal with anxiety or will frustration at myself or others with a brisk jog or swim.

[Jd1983]

You are not fat, just ignore them.

 

My family is the same way with me. I'm 5'5 and about 130 lbs. Prior to that I was 145 lbs, no one noticed my weight loss #1, alongside of that the rest of my family had the nerves to ask me if I gained weight.

 

Compared to my siblings, I am the "fat" one. Whatever. I don't want to be stick thin, and it's always good to have some meat in your body.

 

Based on your weight and height, your BMI is right on track. It also depends on how much muscle/water weight you have, but either or no you are not fat whatsoever. You can't please everyone. If you want to lose weight, then do it for you. Otherwise, you really don't need to.

[FathomFear]

Women in particular have to deal with an incredible amount of BS when it comes to body image and weight control. It's very unfortunate that your parents are contributing to the problem. Just do your best to ignore them, assuming you can't educate them to see past this.

[In the Dark]

Women obsess over weight because they want the hottest guy with the flashest gear.

If you have an ugly mug....you gotta have something which gives you potential of getting the guy who gets the ladies just by standing there.

[Alezia]

My dad does the same thing to me on random occasions. His excuse is that he can't tell my mom when she gains a bit of weight (she's skinnier than me), so that it's ok to tell me.

 

Geez, thanks dad.

 

I don't honestly care about the fat. He has more to lose than I do.

I'm trying to tone down my emotional eating though.. which is what is the cause of all the fat. I'm really bad at that, and it's quite unhealthy and very recurrent right now... I always reach for junk food - even if I eat something healthy, I don't feel satisfied.

[xShannyx]

You know when I was younger my mom called me fat also, which is ironic because at that time she was morbidly obese o.o I've seen your pics before and you look so pretty so forget what your parents say =)

[Miss Firecracker]

No, that isn't fat by any means. No way!

[vertigoxo]

I think that's a good idea. I struggle with anxiety a lot, and working out is something that really helps me keep it in check. Many times, I will deal with anxiety or will frustration at myself or others with a brisk jog or swim.

 

I have a lot of anxiety inside of me, it's ridiculous. If you ever saw me offline, you'd see me walking around, bitting my nails off, and having this "I hope the world doesn't end" expression on my face.

 

I wish I could get help for this but it's incredibly hard. It's hereditary because a lot of my aunts have moderate to severe anxiety.

 

You are not fat, just ignore them.

 

My family is the same way with me. I'm 5'5 and about 130 lbs. Prior to that I was 145 lbs, no one noticed my weight loss #1, alongside of that the rest of my family had the nerves to ask me if I gained weight.

 

Compared to my siblings, I am the "fat" one. Whatever. I don't want to be stick thin, and it's always good to have some meat in your body.

 

Based on your weight and height, your BMI is right on track. It also depends on how much muscle/water weight you have, but either or no you are not fat whatsoever. You can't please everyone. If you want to lose weight, then do it for you. Otherwise, you really don't need to.

 

You don't sound fat what so ever! Your family is dumb.

 

I have no muscle, lmao, I'm such a weakling. Water weight, MAYBE. Whenever I get my period, I gain a lot of water weight, like 5+ pounds more. The whole "Omg my tight jeans don't fit me today!" problem occurs from time to time for me as well whenever my period comes.

 

Sometimes, I'd see thin women on TV, and I'm like, "Wow, they're so pretty..." and then I hear from my dad, my brother, and some other guys in my past always telling me, "Guys hate skinny girls, I mean seriously, we love a little meat. It's feminine to have breasts and hips, you know!"

 

Sigh. You can never win, lol!

 

 

Women in particular have to deal with an incredible amount of BS when it comes to body image and weight control. It's very unfortunate that your parents are contributing to the problem. Just do your best to ignore them, assuming you can't educate them to see past this.

 

The funny thing is that while my mom is in "the normal range" now, she still thinks she's fat. She has some loose skin she needs to tighten. My dad is now considered overweight, yet doesn't do crap about it. His belly is HUUUUGE!

 

And I'm the fat one?

 

Women obsess over weight because they want the hottest guy with the flashest gear.

If you have an ugly mug....you gotta have something which gives you potential of getting the guy who gets the ladies just by standing there.

 

I'd never go for the superficial guys. I happen to like my wide hips and round butt. Honestly, the only thing I want is to tone my body all over and lose my gut. A flat stomach may be impossible to do without a crapload of work, but at least losing a little of it would make me happy.

 

I'd like to enhance my hourglass figure.

 

My dad does the same thing to me on random occasions. His excuse is that he can't tell my mom when she gains a bit of weight (she's skinnier than me), so that it's ok to tell me.

 

Geez, thanks dad.

 

I don't honestly care about the fat. He has more to lose than I do.

I'm trying to tone down my emotional eating though.. which is what is the cause of all the fat. I'm really bad at that, and it's quite unhealthy and very recurrent right now... I always reach for junk food - even if I eat something healthy, I don't feel satisfied.

 

Yeah, I hear you. Healthy food for some reason never satisfies me either. It depends, though. If there's meat in it, like for example, in a salad, then I'll feel satisfied!

 

You know when I was younger my mom called me fat also, which is ironic because at that time she was morbidly obese o.o I've seen your pics before and you look so pretty so forget what your parents say =)

 

Thank you! =]

 

No, that isn't fat by any means. No way!

 

Thank you, I just wish my parents would see it the same way as you do!