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[Juxtapoz]

I'm 28. I know what I like and prefer (which is about 95% of all things sexual, except being degraded, like cum on my face or shat on). My mind is open and I truly, truly enjoy sex.

 

But...

 

I've never had an orgasm through intercourse.

 

I've come close a few times, and it was such an amazing, incredible....letdown when it went away. The problem is not him, but my mind. I have the same issue with meditation. It's nearly impossible for me to calm my head and focus on my senses.

 

Anyone else have the same issue? Any tips?

[Cognitive_Canine]

Most women cannot orgasm through penetration alone. Like 70% last time I saw the number. You are not alone at all.

[Lecturer]

Most women cannot orgasm through penetration alone. Like 70% last time I saw the number. You are not alone at all.

 

Bolded for truth.

[OptomisticGirl]

Yeah, you aren't alone. I have never had one through just intercorse, always had to be stimulation as well.

[Lucid]

Yup I havent had one through intercourse either.

 

I do find him playing with me or myself while we are having intercourse can bring on a really great orgasm but with just intercourse alone it doesnt seem to be happening for me either.

[OptomisticGirl]

Yup I havent had one through intercourse either.

 

I do find him playing with me or myself while we are having intercourse can bring on a really great orgasm but with just intercourse alone it doesnt seem to be happening for me either.

 

Yeah, that's how it has to work with me. And honestly the only way I have ever been able to remotely have an orgasm while having intercourse too was to be on top with him stimulating.

[Cardinal]

Have you tried stimulating your A-spot?

 

Similarly, are you able to have A-spot orgasms?

 

I am referring to your anterior fornix erogenous zone if you are unfamiliar.

[Puddincup]

I would say stretch your legs out far to the side (like an open pair of scissors) and tighten your kegels and hold em' tight while he's thrusting. It works for me and it took years before I figured out how to get myself to climax just from sex. Also, of course, on top works...usually....but that's a whole different technique.

[Puddincup]

Also, nothing is degrading unless you or your partner think so. The more freedom you allow yourself, the easier it is to cum (IMO).

[oldenoughtoknow]

I've been with more than a few women who just couldn't have a vaginal orgasm. And (not blowing my own horn here) I've given a couple women their first vaginal orgasm. Some of the commonalities have been that they have always been during slow, sensual sessions, rather than fast, pounding sessions. Slow, deliberate strokes. Think of any Fiona Apple song - real slow. Then, don't change the rhythm. Relax, feel everything, absorb the emotions. It may not work the first session, but if you go two or three rounds - the longer you go, the more your body gets relaxed and turned on. Pretty soon, you could be in for a slow-building surprise. And, once you have your first, they seem to come easier and easier (sorry, couldn't help it).

[Puddincup]

I've been with more than a few women who just couldn't have a vaginal orgasm. And (not blowing my own horn here) I've given a couple women their first vaginal orgasm. Some of the commonalities have been that they have always been during slow, sensual sessions, rather than fast, pounding sessions. Slow, deliberate strokes. Think of any Fiona Apple song - real slow. Then, don't change the rhythm. Relax, feel everything, absorb the emotions. It may not work the first session, but if you go two or three rounds - the longer you go, the more your body gets relaxed and turned on. Pretty soon, you could be in for a slow-building surprise. And, once you have your first, they seem to come easier and easier (sorry, couldn't help it).

 

Huh. I guess different women like different things. I have a much easier time when things are going faster.

[ibu]

During penetration I can only orgasm when doing the missionary position for some reason. All the other positions....nope.

[Juxtapoz]

Hmm, the open legs scissor reference sounds like a good idea. And the times i've come close were when things were not fast, just kind of at a medium pace, but consistent.

 

i'm determined to beat the odds that say i'm one of the ones who physically can't have one during intercourse. I WILL HAVE AN ORGASM, I WILL HAVE AN ORGASM...

 

it's my new mantra.

[Juxtapoz]

Also, nothing is degrading unless you or your partner think so. The more freedom you allow yourself, the easier it is to cum (IMO).

 

I agree with this 100%. But cum on my face doesn't turn me on at all and it reminds me of some girls in pornos with these whimpering expressions on their faces while they try to pretend they enjoy this dude's throbbing penis spitting on her. Others may enjoy it and that's fine, but it's not for me. Other than that (and skat), i'm fair game.