im_the_undead Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 when you're already so incredibly alone? i can't fathom the idea of being able to stand complete lonlieness... would you continue to be in a relationship because you know you will only have yourself and God [if even] to be with..? Or, would you rather be alone than in bad company? jw (: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simply Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 unless it's abusive, hold onto it till you find someone else...lol...thats what I did, sounds bad, but it worked. nah, but if your unhappy with somebody in your life, alone or not, you have to cut them off, it will only make things worse if you keep them around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
im_the_undead Posted March 12, 2010 Author Share Posted March 12, 2010 lol @ thought one. i've had the same thought cross my mind.. but even then i can't Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simply Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 lol @ thought one. i've had the same thought cross my mind.. but even then i can't if you don't mind me asking, whats the problem in the relationship, that your willing to go lonely over? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jetta Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 Well some people believe you won't meet the right person if you're hanging with the wrong one. So it's really up to you if you want to stick in a bad relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
im_the_undead Posted March 12, 2010 Author Share Posted March 12, 2010 it's really hard to describe.. i just know there's a lot of girl like behavior from the both of us. it's weird but sometimes the cattyness goes to an extreme the guy is sensetive, as am i.. i know in order for us to work, one of us needs to be more relaxed and not take things to the head.. but it's not easy. it's also not easy letting go of someone you've spent years with by your side.. like a trustee.... a friend you confide in i can't bring myself to just let go, although he tells me it's the best for me.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simply Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 it's really hard to describe.. i just know there's a lot of girl like behavior from the both of us. it's weird but sometimes the cattyness goes to an extreme the guy is sensetive, as am i.. i know in order for us to work, one of us needs to be more relaxed and not take things to the head.. but it's not easy. it's also not easy letting go of someone you've spent years with by your side.. like a trustee.... a friend you confide in i can't bring myself to just let go, although he tells me it's the best for me.. So you've actually talked to him about this already? wow, seems like you've already put things in motion. Isn't there any way to work this out? I guess it sounds like you've already made your choice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessBOT Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 unless it's abusive, hold onto it till you find someone else...lol...thats what I did, sounds bad, but it worked. I am going to be completely honest about this....after going through so much heart break I now stay alone just out of the comfort of knowing my heart wont' get broken ( new realization for me). I used to look down on staying with someone until you find someone else, but after so much heart break I think that after awhile I've become hardened, damaged even. However, the hardening occurred more when a relationship ended and I did not have at least an love interest lined up so it took so much longer to recover. So I don't profess that it is right, but I do think that lining up the next love interest may be the key to staying open to love and not becoming jaded, which in the end can keep a person in a emotionally better condition for the person that they eventually will be with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simply Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 I am going to be completely honest about this....after going through so much heart break I now stay alone just out of the comfort of knowing my heart wont' get broken ( new realization for me). I used to look down on staying with someone until you find someone else, but after so much heart break I think that after awhile I've become hardened, damaged even. However, the hardening occurred more when a relationship ended and I did not have at least an love interest lined up so it took so much longer to recover. So I don't profess that it is right, but I do think that lining up the next love interest may be the key to staying open to love and not becoming jaded, which in the end can keep a person in a emotionally better condition for the person that they eventually will be with. Agreed, I thought I was gonna get reemed out for that comment, but it's quite common, one of my ex's did it to me, i've also done it, it seems selfish, but your just looking out for your best interests. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
im_the_undead Posted March 12, 2010 Author Share Posted March 12, 2010 yeah, maaan we've had MANY talks. i've diagnosed us a million times.. we know the problem, and have tried to change but it hasn't been able to last D: he's going to the navy in a year and wants to get married when he comes back.. everything he does is for me..he's a very dependant person [only of me though] which is NOT good for him..but beneficial to me i suppose. he has amazing qualities..........only problem is that we FUSS every day, no joke. & i'm afraid our lives will be mere nagging. he's okay with that, but i.. idk if i should sacrifice peace along with other things i have already sacrificed. it's complicated! & princess, i totally understand. if only i had someone lined up.. i haven't even looked at another guy i find no interest.. and i feel i'm just not made for anyone [heh so childish but man the mind is crazy o.O] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simply Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 What would scare me about this situation, is that knowing your life is pretty much planned out. Like if a girl says to me, ok, when I get back from the mall, we're gettin married....lol.... So you really don't see a future with this guy? then the sooner you move on the better. I get that it's hard to just go out n find a love interest thats suitable, not like their around the corner, but it doesn't hurt to browse as often as you can in any way. You know your made for anyone you wanna be with, that person just has to be crazy to... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
im_the_undead Posted March 15, 2010 Author Share Posted March 15, 2010 haha, nice. ughhhhhhhhhh.. i wish i could just find JOY in studying or something productive .. other than focusing on what the heck to do with this heart of mine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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