brokenheart41 Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 Late at night I find myself getting all meloncholy out of nowhere. Suddenly I think back to all the great moments we shared together and it's very overwhelming. It takes control of my mind and it makes me miss her very,very much. Those moments are so difficult and I'm sure you all know the feeling. How do you control these overpowering thoughts? I've never been in so much pain before. A break up is the worst thing in the world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Enfin libre Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 It depends on what time it is. If it's during the day when I'm at work I get so busy I'll forget. If it's close enough to bedtime I pop a couple of tylenol pm and sleep it off. Otherwise, I'll think about it all night. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uncomfynumb Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 xanax.... Just kidding! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bungalo Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 Right there with you. One thing you might seek solace in is the fact that you can feel so much sorrow...which says you have a beautiful, working heart. If you were numb..it wouldn't matter, right? I go through excruciating pain over my ex...because I still love her 100%..but she obviously doesn't feel the same...but your sweet heart is so precious and an asset. I won't hand you the .."you gotta love yourself" line..I know this is essential..but I also believe that we are designed to pair up and heal each other. There is no replacement for a sweet connection with someone you love...and I wish I could send out my radiant love to all the broken hearted people around the world...to make them feel better...and in fact I have just decided to do..just that..we are all connected...and we are all broken..but there is love...and it is beautiful and healing... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cornpuffs Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 Go running until your heart is beating out of your chest and your lungs are fighting for air. The endorphin rush helps. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Live-N-Learn Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 I am glad to see that I am not the only one that has a bottle of tylenol PM! The nights are very hard and I have been journaling, posting on this site and reading the 3rd book in the Twilight series. Still miss her but it is much better since going NC. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
em_ski Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 What I usually do when the sadness is overwhelming is to get on my blog (or here - but my blog for when I want to ramble in privacy and in those moments when there is nothing anyone could say that would console me) and just type away. Everything that comes to mind, I type it out. Even if it doesn't make any sense. This is a way to allow yourself or give yourself permission to fully feel the pain. And then let yourself cry. Cry and cry and cry. It's one of the best ways to release pent up emotion and also a stress reliever. It's a little bit humbling, and ironic, to realize that we're not strong enough to rise above and move on from one day to the next. Recovering takes time, but the only way out is to push yourself straight through the unpleasantness, the sorrow and the pain. You'll come out the other side, in time. Be kind to yourself right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelley. Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 What I usually do when the sadness is overwhelming is to get on my blog (or here - but my blog for when I want to ramble in privacy and in those moments when there is nothing anyone could say that would console me) and just type away. Just wondering how and where I set up a blog? Never really had any interest or need to make one before, but at the moment I really find that writing it down and getting it out my system really helps and it gives me something to do and time to think about things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
em_ski Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 Just wondering how and where I set up a blog? Never really had any interest or need to make one before, but at the moment I really find that writing it down and getting it out my system really helps and it gives me something to do and time to think about things. It's really easy and free. I use blogger.com. You can eventually learn how to personalize it and make it all fancy if you want, or they have free templates that are nice enough. I find that typing is better than writing... the paper doesn't take too well to tears. I try to blog a few times a week regardless of how I am feeling. It helps to look back at the good, the bad and the ugly to see how far you've come. It's also completely judgment free so you can be as honest as you want, spill your guts without worrying what people think. Here's a tutorial video: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelley. Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 Thank you for the help, I'm going to try set one up now Need a good rant! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brokenheart41 Posted March 12, 2010 Author Share Posted March 12, 2010 Thanks for the comments guys: good to see that I'm not the only one going through this pain. It helps a lot knowing that we are in this together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CAgirl Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 Thanks for the comments guys: good to see that I'm not the only one going through this pain. It helps a lot knowing that we are in this together. What happened with your relationship if you don't mind me asking? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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