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My 32 year old boyfriend is addicted to porn...TEEN PORN!!!!


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OK...me and this guy have been together for over two years now. He told me up front that he watched porn. Ok...no problem. We started out as friends. After about 3 months of "just friends" we decided to date exclusively and shortly there after we became intimate. One problem...he never came when we had sex. He would always have to masturbate in order to cum. I thought something was wrong with me. I asked him was I not pleasing him and he said no it's him. One day he suggested that we watch a "movie" while having sex. So I say...ok and we did. Then it got out of hand. Almost everytime we had sex, he would turn on a "movie". I told him that I don't mind that but most times I would rather we focus on each other. Well, I woke up one night I caught him watching porn. I pretended to be asleep but I could see what he was looking at. The next day while he was at work, I checked his browsing history and sure enough he had been surfing teen porn sites. He even had them saved in favorites. There were too many to go through them all. I was thoroughly disgusted. I can deal with him watching porn, but teen porn?? Seriously...these girls don't look a day over 12 or 13, but they claim to be 18. I disagree. Not only that...he has hundreds of pictures saved on his computer. I don't get it. What is so appealing about a girl that looks like she's 12. I mean hair in pigtails and all. And he masturbates to this?? Somebody help....I'm seriously thinking about dumping this dude. He says he watches porn to curb his sexual appetite so that he won't cheat but to look at kids...that's just sick and perverse to me!!!

 

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Honestly... when I was 18 I looked 12 years old. Especially when I wore pigtails.

 

Just to play the devil's advocate here, can you actually prove the porn stars are 12 instead of 18? Either way, if you don't approve of it you should leave. But it's not worth calling the local authorties over if you can't prove they're of legal age.

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The fact that he's into pre-pubescent girls is one problem (though a common fantasy), the bolded to me is a bigger issue. He's got some issues with intimacy at best. I'd be a little worried about that first, school girl fantasy stuff second - though probably interconnected to a large degree.

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But seriously...they're flat chested and shapeless...what's sexy about that?? So it's ok as long as he doesn't sleep with a teenager??

People have different preferences. Some 18 year olds are flat chested. By the way, can you please explain how is he sleeping with a teenager?

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Not saying he is sleeping with a teenager. I was asking the question...is it ok for him to be so turned on by teen porn as long as he doesn't sleep with an actual teenager?? He does however have this little 16 year old friend that he calls his little sister. I'm not comfortable with it because he's told me how wild she is. Everytime she gets kicked out of her parents house, she stays at his. Everytime she needs a ride, she calls him. Everytime she needs money, she calls him. It's a little disturbing along with the fact that he loves teen porn and has hundreds of teen porn pictures on his computer. He's the only man over 30 that I know who has a 16 year old female friend.

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i think a lot of men have teen fantasies. even if the women are legally 18, the fact that they are trying to look 12 is very creepy to me.

 

has he ever asked you to dress up like a school girl? could be fun if you want to invest in the relationship.

 

but the fact that he can't get off with just sex with you (but he can to the porn) would be a serious issue for me at least.

 

how is your relationship otherwise?

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The relationship is perfect aside from that. He hasn't had this problem everytime we had sex but most of the time. He claims it's because he has a subconcious fear of getting someone pregnant so he never ejaculates in a woman. I think his porn addiction is the reason why he can't. He masturbates so much that maybe that's what it takes to get him there.

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I'm nice and tight. I'm 5'1, 118 lbs, toned, flat stomach, smooth skin, everything still where it's supposed to be. I just don't get it....

 

I'm going to try the school girl look. However, I'm still quite disturbed by this.

 

I don't think trying to look like a school girl is going to solve whats really bothering you. Isn't it YOU that you want him to want so badly? I know it makes you feel hurt that he HAS to look at other women(or girls) to get off. No matter what their age is. Trying to be that girl is a temporary fix. Unless of coarse you think you can bring yourself to not care that you don't do it for him. Finding someone who finds YOU beautiful the way you are is, imo, the best way to resolve this.

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Its not going to change. He is who he is. The choice is yours. You can accept it and stay or decide you cant accept it and leave him. Dont be afraid to "hurt" him and leave. You need to do what is best for you mentally.

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Anggrace and No1...thank you. You are both absolutely right. Making myself look like what he's addicted to isn't going to help the problem. I am beautiful and attractive. The truth is that I'm so in love with him and that's what's hard to let go of. But no point in staying if that is driving me insane.

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Not saying he is sleeping with a teenager. I was asking the question...is it ok for him to be so turned on by teen porn as long as he doesn't sleep with an actual teenager?? He does however have this little 16 year old friend that he calls his little sister. I'm not comfortable with it because he's told me how wild she is. Everytime she gets kicked out of her parents house, she stays at his. Everytime she needs a ride, she calls him. Everytime she needs money, she calls him. It's a little disturbing along with the fact that he loves teen porn and has hundreds of teen porn pictures on his computer. He's the only man over 30 that I know who has a 16 year old female friend.

 

Ok-This disturbs me WAY more than the porn. I used to work at a video store, and we had plenty of movies that featured young looking girls, but we made sure that they were all over 18.

 

But letting a 16 year old sleep over at his house? Giving her money? Combined with a love of "teen" porn? Creepy! Is he related to her? I would have some serious questions about his "friendship" with this girl!

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