Everyone Who Is A Virgin is A Virgin By Choice?

[pinkelephant]

I disagree with the statement. Women can easily get sex, but for a lot of men it's almost impossible without resorting to prostitution.

 

who do you think are having sex with these women? lol

[Iakasot]

who do you think are having sex with these men? lol

 

Their own hand is, usually.

[pinkelephant]

Oopps! I meant, women. Lolll.

 

If men aren't getting sex, but women are... who are these women having sex with?

[Cognitive_Canine]

Oopps! I meant, women. Lolll.

 

If men aren't getting sex, but women are... who are these women having sex with?

 

Just one guy. We all share.

[Casperlady]

Im 23 going on 24 and Im still a virgin and yes it is by choice, I have had a few opportunities with guys to lose my virginity but I chose not to because I want to wait till I know that it means as much to that person as me, I will lose it to the guy I feel most comfortable with and who loves me back. I am so glad I have waited because the hell I went through last year would have been a whole lot worse for me if I had lost my virginity to my ex.

[Panther_Dude]

Not many women have flirted or hit on me that I remember....that wasn't a waitress. I do remember a nice gay man(waiter) who winked at me though one time.

[MD Geist]

Im 23 going on 24 and Im still a virgin and yes it is by choice, I have had a few opportunities with guys to lose my virginity but I chose not to because I want to wait till I know that it means as much to that person as me, I will lose it to the guy I feel most comfortable with and who loves me back. I am so glad I have waited because the hell I went through last year would have been a whole lot worse for me if I had lost my virginity to my ex.

 

 

I wish there were more women like you out there.

[jonny15]

Getting sex is easy.

 

Its having sex with someone who you want to have sex with is the hard part.

 

Like I'm sure if you hit up craigslist, the bar or club oh you'll find someone who's looking for a one night stand but I can't guarentee good qaulitly.

 

Unfortunately I've never had a girlfriend or a relationship so shooting straight to sex is not an option for me at all. I want to complete step one before I move on to step two. I think thats where a lot of people fail at, they wanna get to step two sooooooooooooo bad they totally forget what they gotta do to get there.

 

How is it so easy?

 

I just don't buy that.

[Panther_Dude]

How is it so easy?

 

I just don't buy that.

 

 

Yeah...sex isn't easy. Walking is easy. Breathing is easier. Packing a pack of smokes is easy. Getting sex..not easy for us virgins, esp ones that are shy and ones that have been thrown under 'nice guy'.

[jonny15]

Yeah...sex isn't easy. Walking is easy. Breathing is easier. Packing a pack of smokes is easy. Getting sex..not easy for us virgins, esp ones that are shy and ones that have been thrown under 'nice guy'.

 

For some of us, it really isn't the nice thing, as much as it's the disgustingly ugly thing.

[MD Geist]

How is it so easy?

 

I just don't buy that.

 

 

 

Yeah...sex isn't easy. Walking is easy. Breathing is easier. Packing a pack of smokes is easy. Getting sex..not easy for us virgins, esp ones that are shy and ones that have been thrown under 'nice guy'.

 

And that is why both of you are still virgins not by choice. You think sex is hard to get and realitliy is it isn't hard to get. If all you wanna do is hit and quit it go and log on to a free dating website like POF and find someone who's looking for an "Intimate Encounter" or "Other relationship" Like I said I cannot gurentee the qaulitly of the woman but you'll get laid.

 

Also bars and Clubs heck anywhere at that, Find someone who you think is unattractive and doesn't get much attention, its pretty simple instead of looking for all the hot girls go and find the women who aren't so attractive.

 

If sex is all your looking for its pretty simple. I'm dead serious if I wanted to I could lose my virginity as early as this week if I was dead serious about losing it but in the end I would be disgusted with who i've slept with.

 

Now finding a girl in which you adore and fancy and you like her not only because she's sexy but she's just an amazing person now thats a very hard thing to capture because finding a girl that you just absolutely fancy overall is very hard to find. Let alone trying to get them to go out with you and later on sleep with them. Thats just hard because you have more invested in her interest, however a girl who you really don't care about who gets less attention than most others its very possible.

 

 

If all fails just sign up for adult friend finder. its as easy as buying a pack of smokes. All you have do is pay the $30 dollars and go shop for a one night stand and set something up.

[jonny15]

LOL @ the POF.

 

Chicks looking to get laid aren't gonna look for someone as ugly and inexperienced as I am.

 

That's just not realisitc.

[Panther_Dude]

I am on POF now. And with Intimate Encounter listed as what I want. Problem is only one woman with in 5 or 8 miles of me that want the same thing...and she hasn't responded to my message or even read it yet. What does Other relationship mean? Booty call?

[FoxMulder]

Who here agrees with this statement, that the only people who are virgins are people who choose that lifestyle.

 

Considering how easy it is to get sex, especially on any college campus, or just by visiting Graigslist, can one make the argument that anyone who is a virgin is that way for reasons other than choosing that lifestyle?

 

That might be the case for women. If they are even half decent looking they can get sex easily.

 

For men however it is not as easy. For men it doesn't really matter how good looking you are, it is still very very hard to lose your virginity and thats because of one reason. Women don't like sex as much as men do.

[jonny15]

Women do like sex as much as men do, it's just that they are the keyholders of sex, and can pick and choose for the most part who they want.

[Panther_Dude]

Men can choose who they have sex with...mostly hookers though I think.

[jonny15]

Men can choose who they have sex with...mostly hookers though I think.

 

And hookers is about it, unless they are good looking.

[Organs]

Okay, I call BS on this whole post.

 

I've been on PlentyOfFish, and it's a miracle to even get a girl to respond to your ad or e-mail, let alone agree to meet you in person, let alone talk your way into her panties.

 

I've lived in Chicago for a good while, and I've gone to bars all over the city, talking to girls here and there. I've had some nice conversations, but the moment I show interest, they chuckle, roll their eyes, and lay it on the line that they have no interest whatsoever.

 

Finally, if you're still a virgin, you have no basis to claim that getting laid is that simple. Just look at the number of virgins who post on this forum; not all of them want to "save it for someone special". I've been on a myriad of web sites looking for dates. I've been on Adult Friend Finder. I've been on link removed, part of the same network. I've met no one through either web site. I've even spoken to girls who claim they're horny nymphomaniacs and they feed me some line about why they would never have sex with me. Do you know how depressing it is to be turned down by someone who claims she "needs" sex as often as she can get it?

 

If you're a guy and you think it's that easy to get laid, then you've never been shy.

[DreamerGirl27]

I totally want to hit on my guy friend, but he told me he doesn't like me like that. If he did, I wouldn't be a virgin anymore. He could totally have me if he'd get off the "really stupid" train. I want to wait til I find someone I like as much as this guy who supposedly doesn't like me, and that's really hard to do. I am beyond picky. I haven't liked a guy like this since I was 22 and I'm 25 now.

[MD Geist]

I've met up with roughly 3 women on those sites, Living in the middle of the springs there's not many good women out here in fact there isn't many of them out here at all. If I can met women from these sites then you guys shouldn't have an issue.

 

You had a much bigger market in Chicago than I do in Colorado Springs. The problem is this is a military town and thats what all the women want out here are army and airforce guys so its hard to compete in that market especially when your not wealthy or good looking.

 

Perhaps its not the sites then, its the posters.

[Organs]

I've met up with roughly 3 women on those sites, Living in the middle of the springs there's not many good women out here in fact there isn't many of them out here at all. If I can met women from these sites then you guys shouldn't have an issue.

 

You had a much bigger market in Chicago than I do in Colorado Springs. The problem is this is a military town and thats what all the women want out here are army and airforce guys so its hard to compete in that market especially when your not wealthy or good looking.

 

Perhaps its not the sites then, its the posters.

 

So you're telling me I'm undatable?

 

I hope you intended that as a joke. Yes, there is a huge market in Chicago, but it's sort of a survival-of-the-fittest environment here. And I'm pretty sure I'm not a bad catch: I cook, I can massage shoulders and feet, I love cats, I play guitar, I like indie and foreign movies, I listen, and I have a sense of humor (no, really, I do; just look at my avatar pic).

 

The point is, women don't just line up at your door just like that. It might be because you're in a small town that you're able to meet women. It's sort of the same logic that you're more likely to get help in the countryside when your car breaks down than in a city.

 

But I'm telling you. I'm in a relationship. It's not my first relationship. And I've had a few small flings in the past so many years. And I'm telling you, unless you're tall or you neatly fit into a really well-defined clique, getting laid is not that easy.

[sns256]

OK guys there is no sense in bickering with each other about opinions, and nothing factual. There's no sense making bold claims on things we have no clue about. As far as I have read this thread has run its course.

 

It comes down to all of you guys who are virgins, let that word define you and BE who you are. Let me tell you, being a virgin is NOT who you are, unless you let it be. Being a virgin is only a small fraction of yourself. You are a complex individual and sleeping with someone should only be a concern to you after you have met that right person. Only then should you worry about it, and hopefully you two are mature and caring enough to work through it.

 

It's not as big of deal as you put on it. Be yourself. Be the happiest you, you can be. You need to be happy with who you are. Labeling yourself as damaged because you are a virgin at an older age doesn't do you any good. In fact it does quite the opposite.

 

Don't let the label define who you are. You'll be much better off. Don't worry about it so much!

[Iakasot]

I totally want to hit on my guy friend, but he told me he doesn't like me like that. If he did, I wouldn't be a virgin anymore. He could totally have me if he'd get off the "really stupid" train. I want to wait til I find someone I like as much as this guy who supposedly doesn't like me, and that's really hard to do. I am beyond picky. I haven't liked a guy like this since I was 22 and I'm 25 now.

 

He's not dumb, you know. Why should he care about someone who gets turned off by men easily, and doesn't care "in that way" about the guys that care for her, and only cares for the guy that doesn't? Look at it from his point of view, it's not like it's difficult. If he cared about you, chances are you'd stop caring about him. Think about if he started acting like the guys that turn you off, maybe coming off as needy or something, or not confident anymore, that'd be it for him. He would never "have" you, because you'd change your mind too easily if he exhibited any of the turn-off triggers, there's too many triggers for you that turn you off, so logically speaking a guy can't win or even avoid losing, even if you like him currently. There's no point to get into a relationship that's guaranteed to lose, but guys do...all the time...to be admired, and for sex, because sex isn't that available for men, as MANY posters here have pointed out. You don't want the guys who are willing to get into a losing relationship, you want the guy who isn't willing.

[MD Geist]

No I'm not saying your undatable i'm saying I think the way how you market yourself is the problem. Women aren't going to line up outside your door just waiting for your response thats just a no brainer. I'm saying if you don't care that much on your preferences you can get sex anytime you want however I cannot gurentee the qualitly of the woman.

 

Out here its not even a small town is its a city with a small town attudite. Everybody is apart of a clicke out here and if you aren't in one your pretty much out there with all the emotional wrecks. I really wish I could be out in the chicago dating scene, at least I wouldn't expect a nice looking woman to have kids or a husband/boyfriend.

 

If your looking for qualitly then that is going to be hard to find. But if you don't care then getting sex is kind of easy.

[Cognitive_Canine]

So, there is no such thing as a healthy relationship?