jonny15 Posted March 11, 2010 Share Posted March 11, 2010 Sex is easy for those just looking for sex. No it's not, unless someone goes to a hooker. Otherwise it is not easy at all. Link to comment
Organs Posted March 11, 2010 Share Posted March 11, 2010 You know, it's one thing to not want to lose your virginity to a prostitute. Okay, fine. But it's another to describe the experience like it's the worst thing you can do with your life. If someone chose to lose it in this manner, that's his business, and it doesn't make him any less of a human being. I would only seriously look down on someone who forced himself on an unwilling partner. Link to comment
iwishiknew Posted March 11, 2010 Share Posted March 11, 2010 No it's not, unless someone goes to a hooker. Otherwise it is not easy at all. I also agree! Link to comment
Theblueman123 Posted March 11, 2010 Share Posted March 11, 2010 I dunno some people just can't get sex I guess. I used to believe in waiting, but why wait when the other person didn't wait for you? Kinda two-sided if someone whose been done said that they wanted to wait for like marriage, because why didnt they do that before then? You can be a virgin by choice, but good luck finding an attractive girl who hasn't let some creep hit. Just go out and get your count up so it's even, lol. Link to comment
greywolf Posted March 11, 2010 Share Posted March 11, 2010 Virginity is overrated. When I had sex with a girl, I still felt the same. I didn't feel like I have 'lost' something or experienced something really special. Everyone said it was because I hadn't had sex with a guy yet. Then I had sex with a guy, and I don't feel any different either. I don't feel like a lost something or I gave someone a part of me. Link to comment
In the Dark Posted March 11, 2010 Share Posted March 11, 2010 The majority of the time it is not by choice.......especially when it comes to males. The chances are females can get it way more than a man. It's usually down to other issues. Being unattractive. Wanting to lose their virginity to someone they are in a relationship with. Having ridiculously high standards. Wanting to lose their virginity to someone hot. I feel it's not the sex in losing your virginity (which was not "magical" for me) but knowing the person you are losing your virginity to truly loves you and wants to have sex with you as much as you do. Knowing they cherish the moment just the same, not to do the deed then bugger off. Link to comment
greywolf Posted March 11, 2010 Share Posted March 11, 2010 It's usually down to other issues. Being unattractive. Wanting to lose their virginity to someone they are in a relationship with. Having ridiculously high standards. Wanting to lose their virginity to someone hot. I think the point that the OP was trying to make is that those things are choices. They've chosen not to lose their virginity to some random girl because their standards are higher than that. Link to comment
In the Dark Posted March 11, 2010 Share Posted March 11, 2010 I think the point that the OP was trying to make is that those things are choices. They've chosen not to lose their virginity to some random girl because their standards are higher than that. If losing your virginity without morals and a connection of any sort besides physical is the plan then there will be no problems with losing virginity. Even for a man. Just go find a prostitute. If your virginity is seen as something which is to be remembered then people will not lose it. Depends on the view of sex as to losing your virginity. Some people value their virginity and first time as if it was nothing to be remembered with fond memories with emotions attached to the person and vice versa. More often than not people do regardless of how wonderful or awkward their first time may have been. To be honest most the females I know have lost their virginity to someone ot very close to them and in dingy places. Link to comment
DreamerGirl27 Posted March 11, 2010 Share Posted March 11, 2010 If you have standards, it's not easy. If you have standards like me, it's damn near impossible. If you're a girl and have never been in a situation with a guy who tried to have sex with you, then it's not by choice, it's by chance. Not everyone has had as much experience as another person has. You have to put yourself in situations to be pursued like that (talking from a girls perspective) and I won't even go out with guys I'm not interested in. I HAVE gone out with guys I'm not interested in, but only once or MAYBE twice. So, it has never even gotten far enough for them to TRY anything with me. I'm 25 and still a virgin and it's not entirely by choice. I have never been in a situation with a guy who tried to have sex with me. That, however, is by choice. The fact that I've never been in a situation for a guy to try. I haven't found the right person who I want to allow myself to be in that vulnerable of a state. So, you decide. I say, no, it's not always by choice. It's by circumstance. But that's me. Again, you decide for yourself. I can't change other people's views. I just say, no. It's not by choice. Link to comment
MD Geist Posted March 11, 2010 Share Posted March 11, 2010 If I can find a girl who's as much of a virgin as me I wouldn't worry so much because I wouldn't be compared to her prevous partners. But thats very rare to find, at least if a woman wanted to she could find a male who's still a virgin well into his 20's and sometimes 30's and 40's. Link to comment
Panther_Dude Posted March 11, 2010 Share Posted March 11, 2010 Well, I'm still a virgin BUT...I am on plenty of fish now. Only could find one woman my age who wants the same thing 'intimate encounter'. Problem is she lives in next town over, not far, but with no car she might not go for it with me. I did message her though. Didn't mention I'm a virgin though haha...but she probably figure it out with the pics or if we ever do hook up. I'm only a virgin at 22 because I am shy because of speech problem...maybe short...not good at all with women. I do like men, but mostly prefer women. Few other reasons too...like most women my age aren't available, etc. Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 I'm not a virgin. I gave it up at 17. Virginity is just a piece of skin that's ripped for women. I guess that's what gets to me the most... The knowing I don't have that anymore and that I'm just like everyone else in the world. I wish I could be a virgin again... But then again, I like sex. I only had 2 guys in my life, by the way. I hope my third one will be my last but just in case it's not, I won't sweat it. Link to comment
jonny15 Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 If losing your virginity without morals and a connection of any sort besides physical is the plan then there will be no problems with losing virginity. Even for a man. Just go find a prostitute. A hooker is out of the questions. I would never do that. For me, besides the act of having sex, is the feeling of being wanted by a woman. That would be an amazing feeling. She doens't have to be in love with me, but i'd like to have that feeling of her wanting me. Not having her want money from me. Link to comment
Organs Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 I'm not a virgin. I gave it up at 17. Virginity is just a piece of skin that's ripped for women. I guess that's what gets to me the most... The knowing I don't have that anymore and that I'm just like everyone else in the world. I wish I could be a virgin again... But then again, I like sex. I only had 2 guys in my life, by the way. I hope my third one will be my last but just in case it's not, I won't sweat it. When I said "you", I meant the objective "you". As in, "When you go on a road trip, it's a good idea to check your spare tire and make sure your jack works properly." Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 I'm not a virgin. I gave it up at 17. Virginity is just a piece of skin that's ripped for women. I guess that's what gets to me the most... The knowing I don't have that anymore and that I'm just like everyone else in the world. I wish I could be a virgin again... But then again, I like sex. I only had 2 guys in my life, by the way. I hope my third one will be my last but just in case it's not, I won't sweat it. No ripping for me. Running destroyed my hymen a long time ago. I was literally the same before sex as I was after. Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted March 12, 2010 Share Posted March 12, 2010 No ripping for me. Running destroyed my hymen a long time ago. I was literally the same before sex as I was after. I didn't bleed when I first have sex, so I probably destroyed my hymen by accident as well long before my first time. Link to comment
Iakasot Posted March 13, 2010 Share Posted March 13, 2010 I disagree with the statement. Women can easily get sex, but for a lot of men it's almost impossible without resorting to prostitution. Link to comment
Shudder Posted March 13, 2010 Share Posted March 13, 2010 all a woman really has to do is open her legs and she can have sex. doesn't work with guys Link to comment
Iakasot Posted March 13, 2010 Share Posted March 13, 2010 It's easier for a guy to get sex with a gay male than with a female. Link to comment
Shudder Posted March 13, 2010 Share Posted March 13, 2010 It's easier for a guy to get sex with a gay male than with a female. is this from experience?? Link to comment
MD Geist Posted March 13, 2010 Share Posted March 13, 2010 Getting sex is easy. Its having sex with someone who you want to have sex with is the hard part. Like I'm sure if you hit up craigslist, the bar or club oh you'll find someone who's looking for a one night stand but I can't guarentee good qaulitly. Unfortunately I've never had a girlfriend or a relationship so shooting straight to sex is not an option for me at all. I want to complete step one before I move on to step two. I think thats where a lot of people fail at, they wanna get to step two sooooooooooooo bad they totally forget what they gotta do to get there. Link to comment
Iakasot Posted March 13, 2010 Share Posted March 13, 2010 is this from experience?? No, research, statistics, other people's accounts. It's very easy for certain men to get sex, those men are generally confident. Think about it though, prostitution, pornography, and pick-up websites wouldn't exist if it were equally easy for men. There's no such thing as pick-up for women, and when is the last time you heard of a woman paying for sex? It's not like men like paying for sex, it's hard earned money, we like sex as free as possible. Heck, I'd be thrilled for a girl taking me out for a meal in exchange for sex, but men end up being the ones who pay 99.999% of the time. Link to comment
Organs Posted March 13, 2010 Share Posted March 13, 2010 is this from experience?? I'll say this: I was hit on by more gay men than women, ugly or otherwise. Link to comment
Iakasot Posted March 13, 2010 Share Posted March 13, 2010 I'll say this: I was hit on by more gay men than women, ugly or otherwise. Another statistic, thanks for backing me up on this, man! Link to comment
Shudder Posted March 13, 2010 Share Posted March 13, 2010 I'll say this: I was hit on by more gay men than women, ugly or otherwise. i've been hit on by gay men too come to think about it. never by a woman. and even if she did like what she saw, i probably wouldn't have known Link to comment
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