dumped Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 Well just when I start to heal. Who shows up? The Ex! She looked a mess. Which I did not comment on. She showed up.... looked at me...I said....F-You. She said why would you say that? I said you betrayed me how would you like me to great you? She only stay a little while. She went right into talking about our home that is for sale. She asked if I would like to lower the price. Nope I said. She said I know you are unhappy with the way I ended things. I said You lied and betrayed me. How would you like me to feel. She said it has been a long rough week for her. Like I said she looked awful, like she got hit with a bag of nickles. I told her if she waned to talk about anything I would listen. She said she couldn't talk now as her father was in the car waiting for you. But wanted to talk sometime this week. She asked that I call her later to let her know my new phone #...Make sure you call she said. Then she left. I don't know whether I should call or not. I don't know if she is still with the rebound. She said that she in "not" in a relationship right now. Not sure whether I believe it or not. I know if I do call and she doesn't answer it may set me back. But I could also she she is going through a very rough time. I feel bad for her. I think it may be her fathers health? If she is still with the rebound I would say thats not my job to be there for her. But I don't know if I should call or not? Link to comment
Lifes4Living Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 I think do best by you. if that means calling and listening (without malice) then do that. if you cant do that just yet, then dont. As much as we want to yell and rant at our exs, I think its best to not let the emotionally anger get the better of us. Because youll probably regret it in the future. Link to comment
Distant Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 Call her and listen to what she has to say. It doesnt hurt to just listen. You never know what could come out of it. Link to comment
shessofly Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 the way you responded to her during the surprise visit, i'm not sure why you would want to call and listen to her talk about her problems. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 Why does she want you to call her? Why can't she ask for your info and call you? Something about that rubs me he wrong way. She should be reaching out to you. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 You took her back a month ago, and she ran back to the other guy. What has changed where you would want to put yourself through that again? Link to comment
Lifes4Living Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 Nothing worse then seeing or thinking about your ex with someone else. when they have moved on and possibly you havent. Thats where I like to exercise and vent my anger that way. Link to comment
Lastchallenge Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 That is strong... I'm proud of u brother! I'm gonna be taking the same route soon... Stay strong and do what u know is right... Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 You took her back a month ago, and she ran back to the other guy. What has changed where you would want to put yourself through that again? Oh ... yeah, she's trouble. Link to comment
dumped Posted March 8, 2010 Author Share Posted March 8, 2010 Why does she want you to call her? Why can't she ask for your info and call you? Something about that rubs me he wrong way. She should be reaching out to you. I just got my phone # and did not know it off hand. Link to comment
dumped Posted March 8, 2010 Author Share Posted March 8, 2010 Anyway I met up with her we went for ice cream. I didnt say much neither did she just casual talk and some joking around. We were out about an hour. When I dropped her off she said "I guess I can text you?" I said if you want. I didnt give her my house phone # as she requested. She didn't bring it up so I didn't either. Link to comment
dumped Posted March 8, 2010 Author Share Posted March 8, 2010 She just text me "thanks again for the ice cream. I didn't expect that after how angry you were today. I guess I can understand why you are angry with me." Link to comment
Lastchallenge Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 Cool cool... Looks like u kept it cool.. Link to comment
Lifes4Living Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 I did the exact same thing. Week after we broke up she txt me each day, and we met up a couple times. Each time she txt after saying "thanks for meeting with me, was really nice". But really, it made me more confused and angry really, we werent together... what the $#$% was happening ill never know. I took the step to stop the torture on myself and instigate the no contact thing. I didnt want to see her once every 2 weeks, then one day finding she was dating some other guy and thought we were hanging out just friends and her thinking I was ok with it. Link to comment
AutumnBorn Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 Lifes4Liing, what you described happened to me, exactly. One Saturday last summer he jumped on my lap and told me how much he missed me. On Sunday he was out with his new (non-existent) girlfriend, whom he's now been dating (but she's not his girlfriend) for 9 months. I had to stop the torture and go basically NC. It sucks, but I've got to save myself, as should anyone else in the same situation. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 Anyway I met up with her we went for ice cream. I didnt say much neither did she just casual talk and some joking around. We were out about an hour. When I dropped her off she said "I guess I can text you?" I said if you want. I didnt give her my house phone # as she requested. She didn't bring it up so I didn't either. How can you be so sure that she's not with the other guy? I think you're making this a little too easy for her, and you have to remember that she snowballed you the last time when you took her back. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 How can you be so sure that she's not with the other guy? I think you're making this a little too easy for her, and you have to remember that she snowballed you the last time when you took her back. Here here. Snowballs a'comith. Link to comment
Lifes4Living Posted March 8, 2010 Share Posted March 8, 2010 Lifes4Liing, what you described happened to me, exactly. One Saturday last summer he jumped on my lap and told me how much he missed me. On Sunday he was out with his new (non-existent) girlfriend, whom he's now been dating (but she's not his girlfriend) for 9 months. I had to stop the torture and go basically NC. It sucks, but I've got to save myself, as should anyone else in the same situation. Its just a situation that weve both endured, but we arent the first to, nor will we be the last... and thats the sad part. Link to comment
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