End of 10 month No Contact

[browns20]

Hello friends,

 

I have posted on other forums on this site and have received great replies. The other nite, I woke up and saw that I had a text from my ex-girlfriend. The text had nothing to do about "us" as a couple (past). It read "My former roommate's dad passed away, just keep their family in your prayers." I replied that I would do so. Now I really didn't hang out with her former roommate and her roommate screwed her over on rent which caused an eviction. I was wondering why my ex-girlfriend who told me "Nice knowing you" 10 months ago decided to send a text to which was kinda immaterial. Any thoughts?

 

Thanks!

[sage_1]

Hmm, that is strange. My first thought is that she is just using this incident as an excuse to contact you. Especially if you didn't really know her roommate.

 

If you have healed I would just continue moving forward.

[Rotxsen]

Or taste the water's I like experimenting

[adommin]

It sounds to me like she may have never deleted your number from her phone and just sent a mass text to every number in it. Just a thought.

[kvb10]

It could be that she sent that text message out to multiple people in her phone and thought to include you.

 

or maybe the death caused her to think of her loneliness and what she wants in life and caused her to think about you.

[browns20]

the thing with her roommate. Her roommate never hung out with us and ex's core of friends and kinda kept her life to herself. Not so sure if she sent a mass text...but..who knows. Thanks for the replies...keep em coming.

[peanutbutterandjelly]

maybe the death made her realize what she lost and she felt the need to contact you. Or she just used it as an excuse to contact you.

Or she is being completely truthful and she wants as many people as possible to think about her roommate and her family.

who knows. it is a little odd, but it may not mean anything more

[nomad0792]

The only way to know is thru time. I'd say it's a 50/50 proposition at this point. But, not knowing your sitch it's difficult to really say.

[browns20]

thanks friends! I really appreciate feedback. The more the better

[browns20]

If she did text me just to kinda see if i am around...when do you think the next text may come...if ever? New thing for me.

[dre760]

The sooner you stop caring and thinking about her. The sooner she will come around.

[Lavender25]

That's really strange. Before I got my new phone I still had my ex's number in it and whenever I sent out a mass text I would always be sure to avoid sending it to him AT ALL COSTS. We've been broken up since June and talked 3 or 4 times between then and now, complete NC for 5 months now.

 

It sounds like she might be testing the waters, but I'd ignore it.

 

I don't have my ex's number in my new phone... but it doesn't help because I have his number memorized.

[Saudade]

yeh i think she is trying to get in touch with you again.

 

I wouldnt txt an ex unless I wanted to hear from him.

[browns20]

thanks Saudade, so u think she may text again in weeks to come? As a girl I would like to hear more perspective amd any similar experiences you may have had regarding this.

[vertigoxo]

Wow, after 10 months? She definantly misses you. I'm a strong believer that when a dumper, ESPECIALLY a stubbon female one, contacts their ex, something is still there.

[browns20]

part of me likes the fact that she at least sent a text...part of me is ...not sure

[nomad0792]

I'm right there with you browns'. I've gotten some suspect reaches myself. I've been NC for about 4 months and in that time I've gotten:

- 2 butt-dials (within 5 min of each other)

- 2 Facebook Friend Request REMINDERS - these can be sent by the person, but it might've been sent automatically, so the jury's out. But one was on my b-day.

- Several "Blocked" call hang-ups, which I've never gotten so frequently any other time.

 

So, what have I done about all these types of reaches? Absolutely nothing. Why? Cos, if they were on accident or she really had no hand in them, then I'd only end up hurting myself further. But, if they were on purpose, then the act of being subversive about it tells me all I need to know about her mind-set. She will have to do more than that to get me to respond. Otherwise, we move on with our lives, right?

 

Don't put too much stock in it, but if she did it on purpose, then it's likely she will reach again after a month or so. No way of knowing, but mine have never been further apart than a month.

 

I want my girl to reach, but with that comes the potential to fall back deep into the rabbit hole. So it's a catch 22.

[Ms Darcy]

part of me likes the fact that she at least sent a text...part of me is ...not sure

 

If you want to get back with her, why don't you text her and ask her how she is doing?

 

Open up a conversation.

[Saudade]

I hate those games but here we go....

 

ok...I agree with Ms Darcy...txt her back and ask what 's up...and see what happens...if she replies back then you go from there but dont show too much interest. Let her come along first.You dont wanna have too much expectations then get disappointed. First let her show what is her intentions, if she is willing to make it work again, its up to you to go for it.

 

Hope I could help

[browns20]

thanks friends. all have given good insight so far

[browns20]

thanks...any more girls out there with perspective? I appreciate all yer feedback tho.