WomanWriter Posted March 10, 2010 Author Share Posted March 10, 2010 Update: I tried the shower together approach. It worked. He thought the face scrub felt good and I told him I thought he should keep it up to remove his blackheads (made kind of a joke), then I said "You better use it mister!" He laughed. We went shopping together the next day and as we were in the hygiene isle, I asked his opinion on what scent he liked on me, etc. and I offered to buy him a few things for buying me dinner. I got him a few hygiene products which he thought were cool. So I was basically honest yet matter of factual and not insulting about it. It was nice to see him cleaned up...at least the hygiene. I cut his hair, he liked it, and all is good. We had a good weekend, very open conversation (in fact, he is becoming more analytical than I am...he says it's so cool to discuss stuff this openly that he wants to do it all the time..lol). Anyway, thanks guys. Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 WomanWriter, glad to see that your relationship is working out and that your bf is taking you up on the hygiene issues, Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 It completely depends on how you go about it. I pluck my boyfriends eyebrows. I simply explain to him that my girliness just can't let him pass. I'm the girl, I'm SUPPOSED to be all about the latest products and spa days. Of course that is complete BS. But, as long as I show him that this is just me sharing my girlie side and it's not about him lacking anything, it's a better way to approach it. I introduced my boyfriend to exfoliating scrub. He loved it. I don't think that many guys dabble in things like that out of social norms. I just "introduced' him to a new option. Link to comment
Resolute Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 Well call me out on this, but I honestly don't see the problem in showering every other day. That's what I do, and granted I follow it adamantly, whats the problem? When you shower every day your washing away the natural oils from your hair causing your hair to become weak and thin. On top of that, if your anything like me, you don't begin to stink from missing a day's shower. I could be wrong though. If so, please correct me. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 Well call me out on this, but I honestly don't see the problem in showering every other day. That's what I do, and granted I follow it adamantly, whats the problem? When you shower every day your washing away the natural oils from your hair causing your hair to become weak and thin. On top of that, if your anything like me, you don't begin to stink from missing a day's shower. I could be wrong though. If so, please correct me. If you're going to be cuddling with someone, I think it's best to shower every day or close to it. It really depends on your skin type and how much oil you produce. My boyfriend and I have to shower everyday. Every once in a while I'll just tie my hair back, wash my face, and skip a shower. But, if I'm going to be hanging on my boyfriend, I shower. Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted March 18, 2010 Share Posted March 18, 2010 I shower every day otherwise I would feel dirty and unclean. Link to comment
Resolute Posted March 19, 2010 Share Posted March 19, 2010 If you're going to be cuddling with someone, I think it's best to shower every day or close to it. It really depends on your skin type and how much oil you produce. My boyfriend and I have to shower everyday. Every once in a while I'll just tie my hair back, wash my face, and skip a shower. But, if I'm going to be hanging on my boyfriend, I shower. Oh absolutely, as a rule I shower before I ever meet up with my girlfriend. The point I was trying to make was: for general hygiene, I don't see the problem in showering every other day. Granted, I do have a low amount of oil production in my skin. Link to comment
MakestheBest Posted March 19, 2010 Share Posted March 19, 2010 i think that if you have a problem with his hygenie you should just bite the bullet and talk to him about it. If he sees you hinting around to it, not only will it become an irritant when he realizes, but he will feel henpecked and "controlled". Just tell him what the problem is, and if he sees your point of view and its an open convo maybe down the line you can suggest something. Why the hell is he only bathing every other day. Lets start there. Link to comment
Resolute Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Why the hell is he only bathing every other day. Lets start there. Why is this such an issue? Is it considering his way of life or does the thought of washing every other day sound that horrible? Link to comment
Perfect Dark Posted March 21, 2010 Share Posted March 21, 2010 I could not put up with that, ew. You're a better person than I. Subtle hints wont work, just be honest. You can't really change him. It would be a good thing to tell him so he actually knows. Link to comment
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