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Online relationships are too hard and complicated


Chantal87

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(sorry for the length...) About 3 weeks ago I decided to go into a relationship with a guy I met online. We have not met yet. We started talking before I broke up with my ex (its been about a month now since we ended it) So I recently told this online guy that I need time because im still thinking about my ex and I dont think im ready for a relationship and that we rushed into it too quickly so I want a break. He then got annoyed with me saying why I didnt tell him before because everything was good until now and that I will never be over my ex, that I will always care about him. I said I wanted him to still be in my life but I just need more time.

 

He used to date another girl online a few years ago, and last night explained to me that "she is the only girl id run away with. But she lives half a world away and has a boyfriend". How am I supposed to take that? I was a little offended considering he said he loves me, but apparently Im not supposed to care because we broke up and are just friends. This made me a little mad as he said that I wanted a break but still want him to care about me like we are in a relationship. he said I have tonight to figure out what I want. Ok wth?

 

On another note I dont know if im ready for a relationship, starting with an online guy I have never met. I just started talking to a guy(lets call him Sam) in person that lives close to my city who is freinds with my cousin and he seems cool. We decided to meet up friday with a bunch of people...I guess my question is, what the hell do I do with this online guy and should I just be freinds and see what happens with the guy who lives close to me? Ugh...utter confusion. Story of my life lol.

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I don't think you're ready nor does this guy sound a bit stable in his feelings and what he said to you was in fact rude. That would upset anyone.

 

I would just let it go and let the time tell. If he really does love and care about you, he'll stick around but keep your options open.

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Honestly, after doing the long distance thing a couple of times, I'd never start a "relationship" unless the person was local, and I'd use online to do no more than basic screening, as a spring board to a real first date in person. You just don't learn all that much about a person without spending a lot of time with them face to face.

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To be honest it was an extremely insensitive thing to say but I just wonder if he's just being childish. He feels you'll always be hung up on your ex and he may well be dealing with it in a 'see how you like it' sort of way.

 

Another possibility is he may have been drinking or was tired and not exactly in the mood to mince his words.

 

I am inclined to sympathise with him to a certain extent. It's unfortunate that you hadn't resolved issues with your former relationship before you allowed someone else to get so involved.

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