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I have been with my fiance for seven years and engaged for 5. We have two children together 4 and 1. I recently found out he was hiding a severe drug habbit for two years now. He has been hooked on pain pills. But throught out our relationship he has done numerous things to damage our relationship. He has cheated on me several times i found out about them all at the same time one night when he was mad and he wanted to hurt me.He is addicted to porn and talking to girls on the internet. We very rarely ever have sex. I feel he has cheated on me more than he cares to admitt. He lies to me all of the time even if its better to tell the truth sometimes. Every time i would find out he would straighten up for a while then he would do something else. It never fails. This time i found out he started changing things, like the music he listens to he switch from rock to country and he talks about god all the time. He has deleted his myspace and facebook. And says he is done and is really going to change but he has said this so many times before. I have been a stay at home mom for 4 years. So it is hard to leave i do have family though.

I am at my breaking point i cant stop digging for more dirt and move on he still has so many secrets. I am never relaxed i am always waiting for the storm... I cant live like this anymore. Waiting to be hurt But how do i leave, or better yet should i leave? Please be nice i have already been through enough if you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all.

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Is your fiance still abusing pain killers? I'd document as much about his drug habit as possible. Do you live in the U.S.? Does your family live in the same state? I'd contact them and let them know what's going on with you and see if you can arrange to stay with them. Let your fiance know that you're at your breaking point and are tired of trying to figure out if he's cheating, lying, etc. Then, get the heck out. I hope your family will come through for you...

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No he has been clean for 6 weeks now but it is just too late at this point i just cant trust him

 

I certainly don't fault you for that, lost. I'd probably feel the same. Plus, who's to say how long he'll stay clean?

 

I hope you look into family for a place to stay. If not, is there an emergency women's shelter in your area? My city has a place where women and their kids can stay until they get back on their feet...we even have a program that trains moms for decent jobs and covers child-care in the interim. Do all the research you can, and find out what your options are. I wish you the best...

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