Bubbles_159 Posted March 1, 2010 Share Posted March 1, 2010 Well, I have a more general question here: How long did you date your partner before saying that you love eachother? I'm asking because I've been in a relationship with a guy for almost 8 months now and neither of us have said we love eachother, i know, or at least I'm sure I feel I love him, but I think the longer we go, and he doesn't express any such emotion, I begin to worry that perhaps he's just not that into me. Link to comment
greywolf Posted March 1, 2010 Share Posted March 1, 2010 I think 8 months is kind of long, however, I tend to get into relationships with people that fall in love fast. Have you thought about telling him how you feel? Link to comment
Bubbles_159 Posted March 1, 2010 Author Share Posted March 1, 2010 Ya, I have told him i think it is unusual that we haven't expressed that part of our relationship, he said he thought it was completely normal Link to comment
freedom_writer Posted March 1, 2010 Share Posted March 1, 2010 it was about 9 months for me and my bf. I had never said i love you to anyone before, so that was holding me back. For him, i think it just takes him longer - he had been stung in the past i think and hadn't said it to any girl in over 7 years even tho he dated. I did start to wonder tho, when it should be said by. I'd say if you haven't heard anything like that from him in a few months tell him you love him. Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted March 1, 2010 Share Posted March 1, 2010 My bf told me he loved me within a month of dating. We were friends prior to that though. Link to comment
mattj Posted March 1, 2010 Share Posted March 1, 2010 I was drunk and told my girlfriend i loved her the day after our first date. Weirdly enough, she seemed to think that you're meant to tell someone you love them as soon as you're going out so... 2 years together now, so weird culture clashes can sometimes result in success! Link to comment
Sunny1607307996 Posted March 1, 2010 Share Posted March 1, 2010 We said it to each other at about 2 months. If I was an outsider looking in I would have said "Too Soon!" but for us, it was the right time. Still together 2 years later so I don't regret it at all. 8 months seems on the longer side, but in my opinion is still within the "normal range". Plus, there are some people who express their love in actions not words. Many guys, I find, tend to do this. They say "I love you" every time they get you an oil change (when they know you need one and you forgot), every time they come up behind you and give you a hug for no reason, every time they pay for dinner on a special night out. Some guys just express it through actions and it never occurs to them that it's necessary to say the actual words. I think that, after 8 months, you can be assured that he is into you. He may just be the type of guy that doesn't verbally express emotions. Link to comment
girlfriday Posted March 1, 2010 Share Posted March 1, 2010 I depends how close you guys are. It was 8 or 9 months for me. Persoanlly, I was fairly guarded for a lot of the relationship and I think he takes his time deciding on things. Link to comment
abitbroken Posted March 1, 2010 Share Posted March 1, 2010 I said it a week before we hit the one year mark. And he expressed that he was worried about saying at the right time too. And afterwards in the weeks after it brought forth a lot of open conversations - its like a safe was unlocked and its wonderful. We were both hurt before and at the same time weren't too experienced with having a ton of relationships before. But it doesn't matter. I don't think there is a "timeline." Link to comment
perth_man87 Posted March 2, 2010 Share Posted March 2, 2010 My girlfriend of 6 months and I haven't said it yet. I know I love my girlfriend, but I don't know when or how to say it! Lots of times it just hasn't felt like the time to do something so special but by now it just feels like something I have to get off my chest. I'll just say it when it feels right I suppose. I'm more of a romantic type than she is anyway. Link to comment
KH26 Posted March 2, 2010 Share Posted March 2, 2010 I think it was about... 4 months with my boyfriend. I'd been to meet his parents for the first time, he'd had a few drinks so I drove him home then we were drawing pictures for something (can't even remember what now) and he wrote it on a piece of paper. He was quite drunk so didn't think he'd remember in the morning but when I spoke to him the next day when he was sober he said it again. I think you'll just know when the time's right to say it. How about saying it to him first (of course, only if you truly mean it though) see what his reaction is. Link to comment
Kyoot_Panda Posted March 3, 2010 Share Posted March 3, 2010 My boyfriend and I said it a little under 2 months in. We'd known each other/been friends off-and-on 7 years prior to dating though. We both fall fast in relationships and the emotions we had we very intense, intoxicating. Link to comment
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