We met up

[dumped]

I think she is playing with you. Being rather sarcastic and knows you will be there when she needs or wants you. Not a good sign imo

[michaelhopes]

Don't worry, we'll make it work when the time is right

 

That's a huge load of krap.......

Why do you want to be with a girl that has dumped you and is now obviously stringing you along?

[i miss her 2]

Ha yeah, well I wrote her back and said I can't be having you go from guy to guy. Thats why you should be single for a while before we get back together. And she asks me if I am playing her. I know it seems like she is stringing me along but I think really she thinks I'm gonna do taht to her. She tells me she is confused and say's, "Are you dating someone else and you just dont wanna see me for a while? What benefits are you gonna get out of me being single for a while?"

[i miss her 2]

She messaged me again Friday night to tell me that things are pretty much over with her and the new guy. I asked her why and she said, "Too many drunken crazy things going on."

 

Well, this just makes me "second best" I guess, right??

[Mobyt]

She sounds like a waste of time friendo, probably not even the girl you knew anymore, I think you'd be way better off passing on her offer

[jmr19114425]

sorry bro, agree with rest of the crowd...let her go at least for now - she does sound like she is playing with you...

[i miss her 2]

She sounds like a waste of time friendo, probably not even the girl you knew anymore, I think you'd be way better off passing on her offer

 

 

How come? Tonight I said, "So how much do you miss me?" ANd she goes off to tell me all these little th ings we use to do and it sounds pretty genuine. I think what is going on is she just NOW having to deal with her feelings for me where as I had to do this for her 7 months ago because I didn't jump into something new with someone else.

[i miss her 2]

So why does it sound like she is playing me?

[bish0p2004]

She's a player...swinging from one branch to another (her need to be in a relationship). When one relationship doesn't work out, she gets into another.

 

It seems to be a pretty common occurrence for an ex to dump her LTR, get into a new relationship (rebound), miss her previous relationship once the honeymoon phase is over with the rebound, then dump the rebound and go back to the ex, but keep in contact with the rebound on some level, then dump the ex again for whatever reason, and then go back to the rebound, then meet another guy and fall in love with the other guy...and you get the picture.

 

Walk away....

[bish0p2004]

I would also like to add that from the way you described her, she has a lot sexual attraction for this guy (bad boy type, wild and crazy), while you would play more of a provider type role (safe, and provide her with financial security) in her life.

 

So, you two might possibly balance each other out. You can give her what he can't by being an emotional safety net, and he can give her what you can't...those fun and wild times.

[i miss her 2]

I would also like to add that from the way you described her, she has a lot sexual attraction for this guy (bad boy type, wild and crazy), while you would play more of a provider type role (safe, and provide her with financial security) in her life.

 

So, you two might possibly balance each other out. You can give her what he can't by being an emotional safety net, and he can give her what you can't...those fun and wild times.

 

 

I wanna be more crazy though. Dump her though right???

 

She actually called me out of the blue tonight to make plans for this Tuesday...I'm thinking maybe I should cancel.

[i miss her 2]

Also, why would she have a strong sexual attraction for that type yet at the same time think that he is "not going anywhere"? Are all women like this???

[Lastchallenge]

Dude u gotta bail... This is just pointless I'm gonna start taking my own advice from now on

[bish0p2004]

I wanna be more crazy though. Dump her though right???

 

She actually called me out of the blue tonight to make plans for this Tuesday...I'm thinking maybe I should cancel.

 

I would say let this one go just because she is a branch swinger.

 

Also, why would she have a strong sexual attraction for that type yet at the same time think that he is "not going anywhere"? Are all women like this???

 

I'm pretty sure you've heard of this game where you ask a woman who she would marry, sleep with, or kill...well, a woman will typically marry the safe, provider type guy, but sleep with the bad boy type...as for the kill, I don't know about that one....

 

Anyways, I'm not going to say whether it's gender specific or not, but yes, as far as the bad boy type is concerned, it's just a temporary attraction type deal that will not go anywhere. Most women know that bad boys will give them too much drama (cheating, lying, dead-beat dad, etc..), so he is just good for a fling. But, I think a lot of women confuse that strong sexual attraction (lust) with love until she is repeatedly disappointed by him.

[i miss her 2]

What, so no woman is gonna sleep with me because I'm the safe, provider type?

[i miss her 2]

How do you think I should go about telling her that we are not gonna hang out Tues after all?

 

Also, I logged into my brothers facebook account today and I looked at her page. It depressed me because I saw all of the pictures of them together and I saw how she just has "IN a relationship" up now but it doesn't say it's with him. This is what she did to me before...

and he is writing all over her wall saying, "baby I wuuuuv you" What a tool...

[bish0p2004]

What, so no woman is gonna sleep with me because I'm the safe, provider type?

 

lol...well, obviously that's not what I meant What I'm saying is that your ex seems very immature. The guy she is currently seeing just provides here with a type of excitement (read: Drama) that you do not.

 

How do you think I should go about telling her that we are not gonna hang out Tues after all?

 

First off, it's an unfortunate thing, but if you continue with her, there will be a lot of game playing involved and because you are more emotionally invested than her, you will most likely lose.

 

So, you could just ignore her from here on out, or you can just tell her that you're not really comfortable hanging out while she is with someone else.

[i miss her 2]

lol...well, obviously that's not what I meant What I'm saying is that your ex seems very immature. The guy she is currently seeing just provides here with a type of excitement (read: Drama) that you do not.

 

 

 

First off, it's an unfortunate thing, but if you continue with her, there will be a lot of game playing involved and because you are more emotionally invested than her, you will most likely lose.

 

So, you could just ignore her from here on out, or you can just tell her that you're not really comfortable hanging out while she is with someone else.

 

 

Well, we're suppose to meet Tuesday. If I just ignore her, I'm gonna look like the bad guy because we already made plans. Why do you think there will be alot of game playing? I think I'm more over her than she is over me at this point because she never dealt with the loss and just jumped into somet hing new where as I have learned to be happy on my own.

[Real]

How old are you? reason I ask, is because from your writing, you sound young and unable to make your own decision even after all the advice you've been given... The girl is playing a game that even she probably doesn't fully realize she is playing and you are playing right along with it. Leave her alone.. Call her & cancel the date. So what if you look like a bad guy, you need to protect yourself from the pain of being played.. The girl needs some time away from any kind of relationship, as she does not really know what she wants by the things she's written to you..

 

all we can do is offer advice and it's up to you to take them or do what you feel is best for you.

 

cheers

[i miss her 2]

How old are you? reason I ask, is because from your writing, you sound young and unable to make your own decision even after all the advice you've been given... The girl is playing a game that even she probably doesn't fully realize she is playing and you are playing right along with it. Leave her alone.. Call her & cancel the date. So what if you look like a bad guy, you need to protect yourself from the pain of being played.. The girl needs some time away from any kind of relationship, as she does not really know what she wants by the things she's written to you..

 

all we can do is offer advice and it's up to you to take them or do what you feel is best for you.

 

cheers

 

I'm 26 but a late bloomer. She is my first love actually, so thats why im kinda messed up about the whole thing. What makes you think she is playing a game and doesn't even realize she is playing it? And what makes you think I'm being played? She also wants to see me next tuesday so we can spend the day together and then watch a movie.

[shessofly]

I'm 26 but a late bloomer. She is my first love actually, so thats why im kinda messed up about the whole thing. What makes you think she is playing a game and doesn't even realize she is playing it? And what makes you think I'm being played? She also wants to see me next tuesday so we can spend the day together and then watch a movie.

 

because she's still with the other guy.

[i miss her 2]

Well, I wrote to her and said, "Hey, it's me. I'm gonna go ahead and cancel our little date for Tuesday. As long as you are still with Mr. Z I don't think we should hang out. I don't feel like getting played because I am too happy right now and don't want to screw that up. I'm sure you will understand. Cheers"

 

I am assuming here that she is still with him.....We will see how she responds here in a bit.

[Ms Darcy]

Well, I wrote to her and said, "Hey, it's me. I'm gonna go ahead and cancel our little date for Tuesday. As long as you are still with Mr. Z I don't think we should hang out. I don't feel like getting played because I am too happy right now and don't want to screw that up. I'm sure you will understand. Cheers"

 

I am assuming here that she is still with him.....We will see how she responds here in a bit.

 

What do you want in a gf? What would you really want in your ideal relationship?

[i miss her 2]

What do you want in a gf? What would you really want in your ideal relationship?

 

 

Well, someone who is fun and down to Earth. Not judgemental or uptight. Someone with a similar sense of humor and someone who supports my music (I'm a mu sician). Someone who thinks outside of the box, too.

 

Why do you ask?

[i miss her 2]

Yeah so she responded to me cancelling our date with, "I figured you might change your mind. Sounds fair I guess. Well, I'm gonna be down there reguardless so give me a call if you want to meet up afterall."