Non-exclusive dating relationship

[Vince99]

Say you are dating a girl non-exclusively and she is going on dates with other people but you are not.

 

Once she knows that you want to be exclusive, what can you do to show her that being with you exclusively would be great?

[Clarity]

Nothing - she either wants to be exclusive or not. In all likelihood, the more you try to get her to be exclusive, the more smothered she will feel and the less likely she will want to be exclusive.

 

If she doesn't want to be exclusive yet, I suggest you date others, or move on. The less available you are or the more competition she has, the faster she will have to come to a decision.

[Vince99]

Guess I'll just have to hope that that's not the arrangement she wants to begin with. I just dont have the stomach to date more than one person. Especially when I already know I only want to be with her.

[Clarity]

You can always just keep dating her and keep putting your best foot forward, just don't bring up the exclusivity much or make her feel pressured. Let her make the decision.

 

Look at it this way, as long as she is seeing you, it means you are likely in the running. Just be vigilant, you don't want to be used, and a few girls out there might do that. That's why I think it'd be best for you to date or show interest in others as well, it'll keep your mind off of her.

[Sty1es]

How did you find out she's dating other people also?

[Vince99]

It's hypothetical. I just want to know how to handle it if it happens.

 

I know not to put any pressure on her or try to rush her. I just thought that if they are dating more than one person, there might be something they are looking for in order to decide just to choose one of them.

[pinkrobot]

I just thought that if they are dating more than one person, there might be something they are looking for in order to decide just to choose one of them.

 

Sometimes that's the case. It has been with me. When I met my boyfriend I had gone on several dates with someone else...in the end I stopped seeing that guy because I didn't feel I could trust him; from conversations and observing his behavior, I didn't think he was the type who could be loyal in a relationship. My boyfriend, on the other hand, I absolutely trusted and when I thought about it I was happy seeing myself in a relationship with him.

 

So, if you're looking for a specific quality that a woman might be looking for while she's dating (if, that is, she's wanting a relationship), that might be one to consider--make it clear she can trust you, and that you're not going to be a waste of her time.

[Vince99]

Oh, ok, good. The girl I'm thinking of already knows she can. I've known her for more years than I haven't.

[L.Lou]

Nothing - she either wants to be exclusive or not. In all likelihood, the more you try to get her to be exclusive, the more smothered she will feel and the less likely she will want to be exclusive.

 

If she doesn't want to be exclusive yet, I suggest you date others, or move on. The less available you are or the more competition she has, the faster she will have to come to a decision.

 

Dude..couldn't have said it better myself.

 

That's usually how it works. You will find the ones who USE, and when I mean USE..I mean USE..the guys. Say "she doesn't date" yet you KNOW she does. Now..lying is in the equation. Those are usually the majority of the non-exclusive daters..not saying ALL of course. Those you gotta weed out, they're NO GOOD. They're beautiful package comes along with drama, exes, excuses, lies, games, word twisting, hypocritical comments, extreme pride and confidence...yet, SUPER beautiful. Only less than half of a good human being.

 

From the way you're (OP) sounding. You (OP) sound like you may have a good one. Who is just trying out the certain foods/flavors..to see which suits her taste buds. Lets just hope this doesn't mean SEX with those flavors. Cause Lord do I know some non-exclusive daters who seem to think that's okay in that process.

 

I'm JUST like you though, OP. SO I know this feeling ALL TOO WELL. Going through something very similar now. But I BELIEVE with the type I was referring to first..you're in a much better position my friend.

[annie24]

i agree with dating others yourself. the other girl might realize she might lose you and step it up. or you could meet someone you like even better!!!!

[Vince99]

All I'm saying is, if I get into this situation, I'm sure at some point she will want to be with just one person, and how can I increase the chances that it's me.

[anggrace]

How many dates have you been on?