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I've checked my boyfriend's net history a few times in the 2 years we've been together. Once he'd clicked a link to a video 'three young school girls'. I asked him in an unrelated conversation how old he would describe a 'young school girl' as and he said around 13. I then confronted him about the video and he said he knew they were over 18, it was a legit site. And it was a legit video, but the link photo made it look amateur. In the same session he clicked links to 'mum and dad and the babysitter' and 'slumber party'. Most of the porn i've found in his history has been teen. I understand teen porn is popular, and his friend made a comment about young girls once so I know he has at least one friend into it. But I have spent a lot of time thinking about this particular link and whether it implies that I should drop my boyfriend pronto. Weeks later he became moody for a week, not telling me what was wrong because he didn't want to remind me. When I got it out of him, he said if I'm still even wondering if he gets off on under-age, I can get out and we'd be finished.

He truly only watches porn when we are apart for long periods of time because that is what I asked of him, but I worry about the subjects and whether they cross a line. Needless to say I love him, he is a good man, the first I've met, and I don't think that he'd ever cheat on me. I don't want to let him go without definite reason, so what do you think??

Sorry that was longer than I wanted, please please help, I'm sure you understand I'm making myself crazy about it............

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if he's going through legit porn sites there's nothing wrong with it, as he's got to believe them when they're saying all women are 18+ at the time of filming. Making them look like they're not 18+ should be criminal imo, that's just causing problems.

 

Did you actually look at the link though? Throw away your ideas of moral objection etc, how young were these girls being portrayed as? That's the major worry factor for you. If you haven't watched it, don't comment on it cos there's every chance he'd lie through his teeth.

 

even then it's hard to be angry with him because you'll never know exactly what happened. i might click 20 links before i find something i like, and sometimes i click a link and something comes up that I REALLY did not want to see, but the web browser history is not going to log that I spent 3 seconds on that page is it?

 

Lastly, men like teens because they're young, supple and attractive - nothing wrong with a mammal being attracted to youth and the fertility/energy that is associated with that. It's only a problem when they're portraying them as younger than 18.

 

personal tastes though - i'm not into teen porn at all. i prefer the curvier woman and i'd imagine it's extremely rare to find those qualities in a teen

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There is a certain thrill to watching something that implies the subjects are part of a taboo, whether that be 'young' girls or whatever. If he's using legit sites that clearly use over 18's then it's as harmless as any other sort of porn - it's just another thrill. If he was actively seeking out actual underage porn then you'd have a problem, but loads of porn sites are full of 'barely legal!' tags.

 

Like d24 said, men like younger girls because they are supple, smooth and also supposed to be tighter I think a lot of these videos tend to be big rugged men 'breaking in' a younger girl and a lot of guys get off on the idea of being a masculine hulk of testosterone with some slim young thing quivering beneath them.

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thanks so much for replying.

The video only showed their mouths. And It did look amateur- I only know it's a clip from a longer video with three twenty somethings from doing a bit of research. I would say that the 'young school girls' looked like they could have been very young yes, though obviously they weren't even teens in real life. This isn't my worry though, cos as you said he may not even have watched it for more than a second, I'm worried that about the fact he clicked on a link with that title, that looked amateur. does he get off on 13 year-olds?? or because he was watching porn, did he click on it knowing the 'actresses' were 18 but also seeing the 'characters' as 18?? can I relate my asking him how old a 'young school girl' is out-of context, to his watching 'young school girls' in porn?

We're also both 20 so I wouldn't expect him to stop finding teen porn sexy yet, but obv. that has nothing to do with the problem...

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well the thing with a lot of porn sites is that they have multiple titles pointing to the same video, often from the same feeder site - one clip had a very busty mid 20s girl with red hair which i loved and added to my favourites (!).

 

One site referred it out as "Busty Mature" and another referred it as "Redhead Teen Gets Slammed". The name "Big Red" was added in my history/shortcut/favourite file name. Go figure!

 

Well i'm sorry, none of those titles reflected what i was watching - and there's a site I frequent which EVERY SINGLE TITLE has something like "this is a girl i boned" "mmm she's my favourite babysitter" and "i'd so let her ride me" and really stupid immature titles like that.

 

the problem is if he's not using a reputable site, he could get tricked into thinking they're younger than he'd presume. If i were to click on a reputable site on a link that said 13, i'd presume they were 18s, but i'd never click it because young girls is not something i'm interested in.

 

maybe its a slight cause for concern..... where is he linking to them from?

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can I relate my asking him how old a 'young school girl' is out-of context, to his watching 'young school girls' in porn?

 

Well, no. Because if you asked me or most people how old a young school girl was, they would probably make a similar reply.

 

He is not out there searching for actual kiddy porn sites. I have watched a LOT of porn, some of it stuff you would not believe people get off to, and I can tell you right now that tags on a video like 'barely legal!', 'young girls!' and 'jailbait!' are entirely common for any video with a girl who could possibly pass for under 18. It's a fiction - the same as most videos that are tagged 'brother and sister!' or 'mum and daughter!' - they've just found two people who have the same colour hair. The point is, although we all know it's not real, they're all over 18 and almost certainly not related (most of the time), having the title and the video creates the fantasy of something taboo, and that's what creates the little extra thrill you get from watching something 'naughty'.

 

Honestly, he clicked that link knowing that the girls they use are over 18 - it's just a pretend to give it some spice. There is a big difference between having an actual sexual interest in children, and watching porn that makes girls out to be younger than they are - half of the time the girls in these videos have fully developed bodies but babydoll faces and their hair in braids. It's a world away from watching actual children being forced to make porn.

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It was your average porn site, I imagine he typed porn into google or went via one of the movie, tv, porn streaming sites like ov guide. That was the actual name as well, I saw it on the site.

House kitten, I see what your saying, but still, if your partner watched mother-son porn, knowing that they weren't actually related, would you still not be concerned that incest is what they wanted to wank to?

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House kitten, I see what your saying, but still, if your partner watched mother-son porn, knowing that they weren't actually related, would you still not be concerned that incest is what they wanted to wank to?

 

Nope my boyfriend watches a variety of porn, with and without me, and none of it worries me. He's not looking to go out and do those things, he just finds it a turn on to watch something filthy while he gets off.

 

However, I understand that whilst I am fairly open-minded about porn and have my own interests and preferences, not everyone will feel the same. If it bothers you to this extent then perhaps you should look at whether you can be with him, knowing he enjoys looking at this stuff. Bearing in mind, it is not illegal and he is likely completely aware nothing bad is going on. If you have a problem with it though then maybe you two are not going to be compatible in this regard.

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Nope my boyfriend watches a variety of porn, with and without me, and none of it worries me. He's not looking to go out and do those things, he just finds it a turn on to watch something filthy while he gets off.

 

However, I understand that whilst I am fairly open-minded about porn and have my own interests and preferences, not everyone will feel the same. If it bothers you to this extent then perhaps you should look at whether you can be with him, knowing he enjoys looking at this stuff. Bearing in mind, it is not illegal and he is likely completely aware nothing bad is going on. If you have a problem with it though then maybe you two are not going to be compatible in this regard.

 

I second this. You need to have a talk with him and either he needs to reduce his habits or you need to open your mind more. As a guy - I would say it's much easier (and much more attractive) to have an easy going girlfriend.

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momake, as a woman, I would say it's much easier having a boyfriend you dont have to discuss in forums.

 

Nice response just remember, from his point of view he hasn't done anything wrong. If you do discuss this with him to try and reach a compromise, try not to focus on 'you're disgusting' but more 'it makes me feel uncomfortable'. If you go in there telling him he's dirty and needs to stop looking at this sort of stuff right now, he'll get defensive and from his earlier words, probably make a split second decision on whether to stay with you. But if you talk to him calmly and tell him you understand there's nothing illegal about it but it makes you feel uncomfortable to know he's looking at it, then he might be more open to looking at other things to make you feel better.

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It seems you do not like him looking at porn and this is being used to get him to stop. If you do not like him looking at these sites tell him. Wouldn't it be silly to breakup with him without telling him these things upset you? I don't think you are accusing him a being a Pedophile are you? If your not and you simply do not like it then tell him. If he then chooses to continue then you have good cause to be concerned that he doesn't respect your feelings on this matter.

BTW. Many men and women discuss their SO's here whether good or bad just like you. Momake was just giving his opinion on what he thinks works for him.

It wasn't child pornagraphy. It wasn't illegal and to your bf's knowledge you do not have a problem with him looking at porn. Perhaps he should just delete his history so this won't be a problem in the future. For the record searches and links for these sites are designed to get you to click on them because that is how they earn money from their advertisers. Each click is reported to the sponsors on the site and the link that brought them there gets like a third of a penney or something. It adds up.

 

Talk to him

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It's not harmless though. It has ruined countless relationships.

 

Whether porn causes strife in relationships is a whole other issue - I mean harmless as in there are no minors being exploited sexually or otherwise. It's all consenting adults etc etc. The OP sounded like she was more concerned by what he was watching than that he was watching porn at all, so that's what I was talking about.

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I'm just thinking out loud here - most porn sites show clips of the video before you click on it, so you can see what sort of thing you're getting before you load the entire video.

 

So perhaps he clicked on it because he liked what he saw - some young women giving head to a guy - rather than being motivated by the title attached to the video. I've seen videos that have tags that don't even relate to them simply because they want to show up in popular searches.

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