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Problems with all areas of my life, don't know where to start!

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I'm just posting this in here because I literally have problems in every area of my life so I guess mind, body and spirit is the closest thing I can find.


I'll just list all my problems and if anyone needs to know more, just ask me to elaborate!


I have been unemployed for a year and can't get hired anywhere.

I have no health insurance and I have a few health problems.

I have a really strained relationship with my dad, and he makes me feel like * * * * .

I am running out of money and afraid I'm going to end up having to move back in with mom (which would make me even more miserable).

I don't have reliable transportation and can't afford to fix any of the problems with it.

I have personality disorders/social issues, that make it hard for me to make new friends and do things well.

I am extremely confused on what I want to do for a career, none of my interests are easily attainable.

I have been single for 7 years and I'm very lonely but I never have any interest in most guys I meet (which isn't many).

I have very little in common with the few friends I have, so I feel lonely and bored even when i'm with them.

I have a deep need to belong to a group of like-minded people all working towards a common goal, and I have no way of getting this.


Is there a way out of this hole I'm in? I feel like if my dad wasn't so controlling, judgemental and emotionally abusive and if I had a good paying job that I would be able to live how I want but I can't change my dad and I can't make someone hire me, so I feel like I'm at the mercy of my destiny which is to be an incompetent child-like loser who will never have another boyfriend or a decent paying job or accomplish anything important in life or belong to a close knit group of friends. I just don't even know where to begin with all the things wrong in my life!

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Well, firstly, know that you are not alone. I am in your same boat, more or less and it is scary and depressing.


Can you go on meetup and find some interests in common to get out and meet people? I hear that temp agencies are now hiring. Have you tried signing up with one of them? Can you go on Medicaid? I know the requirements are such that you might qualify. Well, these are just a few of my thoughts.

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I don't know if any of these suggestions would work for you, but here are my thoughts:


1) I don't know how old you are, or where you're from, but you can get medicaid if you are a full time student, until you are 25.

2) If you're not working, or even just make little money, you can apply for FAFSA, federal funding for school. I go to school full time and FAFSA pays for all my classes, books, and I usually get $500-$1,000 back per semester. Even if you don't know what you want to do for a career, you could start getting your general education courses done.

3) Have you ever used craigslist? Depending on where you live it may or may not be helpful to you. If you lived in a small town I'm not sure how helpful it would be. I live in a moderately large city, nothing like NYC or LA, but fairly big, so I can find a ton of things on craigslist. Job postings, odd jobs for side money like babysitting or cleaning, and they also have a section for finding friends, group things, etc.


Again, all those things depend on other things in your life that I don't know about, but maybe it'll give you some ideas!

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I kinda understand what you feel, because Ive felt that way for the last year or two,

One way to view things is that you have a blank slate to start from. You can move your life in whichever direction you want at the moment, you hold the power.

I always say to myself whenever I feel stuck, nothing is set in stone, nothing in my life will move until I move, I am the master of my own destiny.,


Sometimes its easier to stay in "Limbo" than to move, we become accustomed to our problems, so the real issue may be that you are afraid of life without these problems. What are these issues masking from you? What are you not facing up to? We all have changes to make, maybe its life's way of telling you that you are not using your abilities to their full potential and you need to start doing things different.

You could just start doing small things, focus on what you can change right now, maybe waking up early and going for a jog, it helps clear your head or joining a social group of some sort, so you socialise with people, they dont have to be close friends,. just so you are not alone all the time.

Sad to hear about your relationship with your parents, have you tried sitting down and talking heart to heart?

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