jul-els Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 No, but I realised that some things I did that I thought at the time was me standing my ground were perhaps, on reflection, too far. That's the purpose of relationships that fail. To learn how we operate within them and be able to do it in a more healthy, functional and compassionate manner in the future. You did nothing wrong. You were just being you. Now you've learned how to be a better you, whether you reconcile or not. Link to comment
Creative Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 How bout, when was the first time you've used drinking alcohol as a way to release stress, and when was your first exposure to alcohol? Link to comment
ElChup Posted February 13, 2010 Author Share Posted February 13, 2010 If she moves on with another guy and be happy, will you be happy for her or secretly wish her relationship ends? Good question. Intially the latter, eventually the former once I have moved on. Link to comment
ElChup Posted February 13, 2010 Author Share Posted February 13, 2010 How bout, when was the first time you've used drinking alcohol as a way to release stress, and when was your first exposure to alcohol? This break up was the first time I've used alcohol to relieve stress. I was first exposed to it nearly 20 years ago. Link to comment
BriarRose Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 Good question. Intially the latter, eventually the former once I have moved on. I think that would be a totally normal reaction. How did she leave things? Was there another guy in the picture, or you guys were just having some problemw? Link to comment
ElChup Posted February 13, 2010 Author Share Posted February 13, 2010 I think that would be a totally normal reaction. How did she leave things? Was there another guy in the picture, or you guys were just having some problemw? We were having problems. Link to comment
BriarRose Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 We were having problems. Since you were not left for another person, I would say chances of reconciliation would be greater... I would never advise a couple to get back together if someone was left for someone else, but that wasn't the case here.. I hope you can work things out...I know you really miss her... Link to comment
ElChup Posted February 13, 2010 Author Share Posted February 13, 2010 Since you were not left for another person, I would say chances of reconciliation would be greater... I would never advise a couple to get back together if someone was left for someone else, but that wasn't the case here.. I hope you can work things out...I know you really miss her... Well its up to her at the moment. She is meant to come back to me in the next couple of days with what she wants to do. Link to comment
quirky Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 Why would a guy break NC, cry, say you are amazing, whenever he looks deep into himself he sees you, that you're irreplacable, the strongest and prettiest girl he's ever met, sex was awesome but backs off when things get difficult? Link to comment
ElChup Posted February 13, 2010 Author Share Posted February 13, 2010 Why would a guy break NC, cry, say you are amazing, whenever he looks deep into himself he sees you, that you're irreplacable, the strongest and prettiest girl he's ever met, sex was awesome but backs off when things get difficult? He wants all the good points without the bad points. He's afraid of the fact that in real relationships you have to make sacrifices and put up with the good and bad. Link to comment
learning2relax Posted February 14, 2010 Share Posted February 14, 2010 He wants all the good points without the bad points. He's afraid of the fact that in real relationships you have to make sacrifices and put up with the good and bad. So true. Well stated. Link to comment
thejigsup Posted February 14, 2010 Share Posted February 14, 2010 This is my take on men, women, and love. Women fall in love much easier and way more often than men do. Men fall in love much deeper than women do, though they hate showing it. It does make for some problems. Link to comment
jul-els Posted February 14, 2010 Share Posted February 14, 2010 This is my take on men, women, and love. Women fall in love much easier and way more often than men do. Men fall in love much deeper than women do, though they hate showing it. It does make for some problems. Hm, never thought about that, you might be onto something there. Although, I have been told by more than one woman that she thought she loved me more. I never considered it. Once I'm involved I don't think about stuff like that. Link to comment
tastytoothpaste Posted February 14, 2010 Share Posted February 14, 2010 This is my take on men, women, and love. Women fall in love much easier and way more often than men do. Men fall in love much deeper than women do, though they hate showing it. It does make for some problems. SEXIST!!! How dare you go and generalize?!! ......kidding. I think there's a lot of truth to this. Link to comment
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