ElChup Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 Had a couple glasses of wine tonight. Not been drinking much lately as don't think it's in my interest but was fretting over the ex's debating about getting back together. But now feeling a bit tipsy. So, here it is. Ask me anything about your break up or mine if you want brutal frankness. Link to comment
EQIQ Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 Why would a girl that said that she wishes we can be friends again, be 3 feet away from me, talking to mutual friends, and not even look at my face or say hi? Like.. I am not even that mad at that... It's just damn it... its been 2 months... this is retarded.. I am crying again like a stupid sissy... Link to comment
ElChup Posted February 13, 2010 Author Share Posted February 13, 2010 Why would a girl that said that she wishes we can be friends again' date=' be 3 feet away from me, talking to mutual friends, and not even look at my face or say hi? Like.. I am not even that mad at that... It's just damn it... its been 2 months... this is retarded.. I am crying again like a stupid sissy...[/quote'] Did she say she wanted to be friends just after the break up? Chances are that she was just saying that at the time to deal with her guilty and soften the blow to you. Time to move on. Link to comment
EQIQ Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 Did she say she wanted to be friends just after the break up? Chances are that she was just saying that at the time to deal with her guilty and soften the blow to you. Time to move on. She said it about 3 weeks ago, which is over a month after the break-up.. and I hadn't even brought the subject up. I had to e-mail her about something different.. and she brought it up. Her mother once (who I happen to be decent friends with), told me that she told her that she misses our friendship... etc.. I didn't even ask... God man.. Like.. I don't even care.... I am just pissed right now that I am actually crying over this crap. I hate seeing her.. I really freaking do.. A few minutes ago I was really damn tempted on just e-mailing her.. and saying whatever sort of crap came to mind.. for no purpose whatsoever. ........ I am just frustrated. I had a very GOOD day today.. I was in a perfect mood. Meeting went by very well. I actually enjoy the meetings a lot. But it's that damned period at the end where I have to wait for my family to go home.. and seeing her close to me.. (we share mutual friends),.. and like.. feeling .. this weird feeling that makes me unable to talk to her normally.. best I can do.. is say hi.. how are you.. etc.. and walk away. But today there wasn't even a hi... ....... and now I am actually crying over this crap... damn it.. I hate feeling like this. I am a strong, smart, good looking dude. If you saw me in real life.. you would never think I am this weak.. I would never be scared to risk my life for someone.. to play rough sports.. to fight some guy and break his face.. .. I am really freaking brave and tough.. stupid relationship failures always bring out the weakest side of me... Link to comment
ElChup Posted February 13, 2010 Author Share Posted February 13, 2010 She said it about 3 weeks ago, which is over a month after the break-up.. and I hadn't even brought the subject up. I had to e-mail her about something different.. and she brought it up. Her mother once (who I happen to be decent friends with), told me that she told her that she misses our friendship... etc.. I didn't even ask... God man.. Like.. I don't even care.... I am just pissed right now that I am actually crying over this crap. I hate seeing her.. I really freaking do.. Perhaps you need to cut off contact? Link to comment
EQIQ Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 Perhaps you need to cut off contact? I really wish I didn't even have to see her anymore. At least for a few months, I wish I didn't even look at her face. But we both attend the same religious meetings, and it is not something I am willing to give up because of this... Link to comment
em_ski Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 How does love turn so cruel? Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 What is the square root of 90? Link to comment
EQIQ Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 What is the square root of 90? lol.. thank you for tat question.. it actually got me thinking a while.. should be around 9.4 or so... yeah did it by head.. Link to comment
em_ski Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 I just feel like I'm stuck in a time warp. I don't miss him like I used to, but I still feel like I am in a prison. I'm afraid I am jaded. Does that really happen to people? I'd hate to think it's a real possibility... Link to comment
BriarRose Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 Elchup, do you want to get back with her? Link to comment
EQIQ Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 Damn.. sorry i just got my composure back.. .. ashamed of myself.. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 lol.. thank you for tat question.. it actually got me thinking a while.. should be around 9.4 or so... yeah did it by head.. close....9.49 Sorry, didn't mean to hijack this thread. Link to comment
ElChup Posted February 13, 2010 Author Share Posted February 13, 2010 How does love turn so cruel? Because we give up our hearts to an extent we would never do for friends, for business, for money or anything else. Our partners often represent our life dreams. Link to comment
ElChup Posted February 13, 2010 Author Share Posted February 13, 2010 Elchup, do you want to get back with her? All I want in the world right now. I've done what I can. Waiting on her decision. Link to comment
Sparkly Eyes Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 I like this thread... I feel like most guys tolerate being with women only to be able to get sex, and I heard it from many different guys, that's sex is all they need from a woman. How true is that? Link to comment
tastytoothpaste Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 For what reasons would you break up with a girl? Or rather, describe the perfect woman who you'd never break up with. Link to comment
ElChup Posted February 13, 2010 Author Share Posted February 13, 2010 I like this thread... I feel like most guys tolerate being with women only to be able to get sex, and I heard it from many different guys, that's sex is all they need from a woman. How true is that? Not true at all. As much as I want to have sex with my ex right now, it was no way a priority during our relationship. As much as I liked the sex, do you know what I looked forward to the most? When we went to bed together and I could wrap my hands around her, that meant more to me in the world than anything else. I had my baby, my friend, my soulmate next to me. It was what made the day worth living. Link to comment
ElChup Posted February 13, 2010 Author Share Posted February 13, 2010 For what reasons would you break up with a girl? Or rather, describe the perfect woman who you'd never break up with. There's no such thing as a perfect woman. I just want someone who is loyal, honest and respectable...and who gives me a littel affection now and again. Obviously I would also have to be attracted to said lady. Link to comment
Sparkly Eyes Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 Not true at all. As much as I want to have sex with my ex right now, it was no way a priority during our relationship. As much as I liked the sex, do you know what I looked forward to the most? When we went to bed together and I could wrap my hands around her, that meant more to me in the world than anything else. I had my baby, my friend, my soulmate next to me. It was what made the day worth living. hmmm, what about other guys that you know tho? so they really think the same? I'm just asking this because even an ex boyfriend told me something like that(before he becomes my boyfriend). Link to comment
ElChup Posted February 13, 2010 Author Share Posted February 13, 2010 hmmm, what about other guys that you know tho? so they really think the same? I'm just asking this because even an ex boyfriend told me something like that(before he becomes my boyfriend). If I were honest, I would say that a lot of guys out there are as you say....but at the same time guys with my attitudes are not one of a kind and are out there. Link to comment
Sparkly Eyes Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 Did you ever treat her bad on purpose and get some kind of satisfaction from it? Link to comment
MakestheBest Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 Because we give up our hearts to an extent we would never do for friends, for business, for money or anything else. Our partners often represent our life dreams. Wow, this is deep. I like this thread too. Link to comment
ElChup Posted February 13, 2010 Author Share Posted February 13, 2010 Did you ever treat her bad on purpose and get some kind of satisfaction from it? No, but I realised that some things I did that I thought at the time was me standing my ground were perhaps, on reflection, too far. Link to comment
Sparkly Eyes Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 If she moves on with another guy and be happy, will you be happy for her or secretly wish her relationship ends? Link to comment
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