Lastchallenge Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 Help me! Today is her b day what can I do that is special to her... Any ideas that can help me! Please! I know she can reject me and I'm willing to risk that because she thinks I'm gonna do the usuall thing something predictable but I need some help... Please help Me I was thinking of dressing up as a clown with a wig and get her a small cake just to show her something different.. Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 I don't know about the clown idea, might not work out too well. In any case, what have you done for her in the past. I can't give you any suggestions unless you further elaborate. Link to comment
1guygirl Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 nah id pass on the clown thing...lol if youre split grand gestures never come accross they way they were intended so something simple, yet poignoint(sp?) seems to be the best bet even jus a card, with a simple message "thinkin of you on your birthday, hope it makes you smile that smile of yours.... love-" Link to comment
Lastchallenge Posted February 12, 2010 Author Share Posted February 12, 2010 Usally I give get her some expensive gift... Or something diff like a huge bear that was over 6 feet tall ha ha Well I was thinking clown because I'm willing to embarras myself for her Link to comment
Lastchallenge Posted February 12, 2010 Author Share Posted February 12, 2010 I just can't fight the nc idea damn damn damn!! I miss her so and knowing it her b day eats me inside!! Link to comment
iBroken Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 Just send her a simple Happy Bday text then. I wouldnt spend time trying to plan something for someone who doesnt want to be with me. And whats worse, what if you show up somewhere with a cute gesture and she is out with another guy? Or all her friends? or not home? A simple text should be sufficient....lets her know you are thinking of her. Link to comment
No1 Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 If she is your X, just call her and say Happy Birthday. You dont owe her a thing. If she is your x would she think its strange if you bought her something? Or you two getting back together? What is the deal between you two? Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 It doesn't necessarily have to be an expensive gift, to be meaningful. Are there things that she likes? Certain cds that she would want. Even simply going by her house - flowers and chocolate on hand and telling her that if she's available - you have the day planned for her. Take her to do something you've never done before. Not sure if you have, but just off the top of my head - bowling, shoot pool, ice skating, watching some scenary, museum and the works along with a nice dinner would be a great gesture. You have to mix it up a bit, and show her that you can be spontaneous if need be. Link to comment
JBaker Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 Yes, keep it to either a call or a text - or nothing at all. A grand gesture would almost certainly not have the intended consequences. Do not, I repeat... Do Not dress up like a clown. That is not a cute gesture even if you are together... Link to comment
Lastchallenge Posted February 12, 2010 Author Share Posted February 12, 2010 Talked to her sis yesterday and she didn't want to do anything for her b day so I'm assuming she's gonna be home her sis said so ... A cd I guess is a good idea and I could get a card and some candy... She said she's done but I don't want to walk away knowing we can give it a chance and make it work we are married and I do love her Link to comment
JBaker Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 It doesn't necessarily have to be an expensive gift, to be meaningful. Are there things that she likes? Certain cds that she would want. Even simply going by her house - flowers and chocolate on hand and telling her that if she's available - you have the day planned for her. Take her to do something you've never done before. Not sure if you have, but just off the top of my head - bowling, shoot pool, ice skating, watching some scenary, museum and the works along with a nice dinner would be a great gesture. You have to mix it up a bit, and show her that you can be spontaneous if need be. Cook her a meal? This would be a small gesture that does not go too far, but does show some initiative. How long have you been broken up? Was it a bad or amicable split? Is there still a chance in her mind that you will get back together? How often are you in contact now? Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 If you're married, then you should try to salvage your marriage - granted she still has feelings for you. Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 Cook her a meal? This would be a small gesture that does not go too far, but does show some initiative. How long have you been broken up? Was it a bad or amicable split? Is there still a chance in her mind that you will get back together? How often are you in contact now? I actually thought of cooking her a meal too, but not sure if he has a whole lot of time to plan that out, as her birthday is today. However, if you're a good cook, then do so. It's thoughtful. Link to comment
Lastchallenge Posted February 12, 2010 Author Share Posted February 12, 2010 Can't cook the split was her saying in not the one.. But based on her actionsi know of her I know in my heart I can get her back and we can be a better couple Please keep ideas coming If I get her the CDs should I deliver them myself Link to comment
Tired Tiger Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 Maybe a simple and thoughtful card would be ok, but honestly - after reading your previous posts, any symbolism relating to an event like a birthday isn't going to be a deciding factor or turning point in the grand scheme of things. Just be realistic about your intentions here (and expectations). I could say the same for everyone stressing about this Valentine's business. Besides... some people find clowns to be really creepy in the first place. Link to comment
JBaker Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 If you cannot cook then cooking for her would be a Great gesture. If you can't cook, that suggests to me that you never cooked for her. That also suggests that she did all the cooking. Cooking for her now would be a nice gesture that she would appreciate (since you never did before) that is not too overboard. Right now quickly find some recipe of something that you can do that you know she will like. A lot of recipes are easy because you just have to follow the directions. Link to comment
Lastchallenge Posted February 12, 2010 Author Share Posted February 12, 2010 Ok scratch the clown idea... So a card and what else should I get? And should I drop it off myself? And if I do I won't stay for the food or the party Link to comment
Lastchallenge Posted February 12, 2010 Author Share Posted February 12, 2010 Fter talking to the sister it seems she is hurt and not dating someone else..she said today she will have a serious talk with her Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 If she is an ex then definitely NO to the clown idea...I am reminded of the song by Smokey Robinson...Tears of a Clown Oh yeah yeah yeah Now if there's a smile on my face It's only there trying to fool the public But when it comes down to fooling you Now honey that's quite a different subject But don't let my glad expression Give you the wrong impression Really I'm sad, oh I'm sadder than sad You're gone and I'm hurtin' so bad Like a clown I pretend to be glad Now there's some sad things known to man But ain't too much sadder than The tears of a clown, when there's no one around Uh hum, oh yeah baby Now if I appear to be carefree It's only to camouflage my sadness And honey to shield my pride I try To cover this hurt with a show of gladness But don't let my show convince you That I've been happy since you Decided to go, oh I need you so I'm hurt and I want you to know But for others I put on a show, ooh yeah {repeat CHORUS} Just like Pagliacci did I try to keep my surface hid Smiling in the public eye But in my lonely room I cry The tears of a clown When there's no one around, oh yeah, baby baby Now if there's a smile on my face Don't let my glad expression Give you the wrong impression Don't let this smile I wear Make you think that I don't care When really I'm sad Im hurting so bad A simple happy birthday message should suffice. Link to comment
Tired Tiger Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 If she is an ex then definitely NO to the clown idea...I am reminded of the song by Smokey Robinson... Heh... well, I was more concerned it would come off like... link removed Link to comment
Hobbes Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 I was thinking of dressing up as a clown with a wig and get her a small cake just to show her something different.. The problem with doing this when broken up is that to the other person you will become this: image removed Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 ^ Oh man, IT. He scared the s**t out of me as a kid. Link to comment
matt_t586 Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 That defiantly wouldn't help me win my girl back! She is scared of clowns!!! Link to comment
jimmajam Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 LoL @ Hobbes Me too. That is the ONLY scary movie that ever actually scared me as a kid. To be completely honest the clown idea is ridiculous. Imagine if she rejects you and you're standing there dressed up like a clown, perhaps floppy shoes, big red nose, holding a rubber chicken ... ouch. "Is this what my life has come to?" Seriously, she broke up with you, so don't go overboard. If you really want to do something give a card or just a text saying happy birthday. It sucks, but it's not your place to do that kind of stuff for her anymore. Link to comment
Lastchallenge Posted February 12, 2010 Author Share Posted February 12, 2010 Ok so I'll et her 2 CDs a card and il split... Everyone agree with this idea? Link to comment
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