finace like pre-teens?

[needyourhelp21]

i know.. but should I believe him that he won't do it again and that he didn't "understand" that it was wrong?

 

he said he just bought them because they were in the store.. but he once asked me to suck on a lollipop (which I later found out was the main theme of one of the mags)

 

ARGH, I don't know what to believe

[Scorpion Fury]

i know.. but should I believe him that he won't do it again and that he didn't "understand" that it was wrong?

 

he said he just bought them because they were in the store.. but he once asked me to suck on a lollipop (which I later found out was the main theme of one of the mags)

 

ARGH, I don't know what to believe

 

where did he buy it? toys r us? im sure the store had other magazines.

[Scorpion Fury]

if you're going to try to work past this, he's really going to need to be honest with you to start. even if he is into young girls, i doubt he would admit it because of how you reacted when you saw the magazine. not that there was anything wrong with your reaction. but when you freaked out, of course hes not gonna admit having a fetish like that.

[jengh]

i know.. but should I believe him that he won't do it again and that he didn't "understand" that it was wrong?

 

he said he just bought them because they were in the store.. but he once asked me to suck on a lollipop (which I later found out was the main theme of one of the mags)

 

ARGH, I don't know what to believe

 

No, I wouldn't believe him... He needs to get some serious therapy.

[winchester3]

they were still getting visits from the tooth fairy.

 

and if that's the case, i don't believe for a second they are 18. my last baby tooth fell out while i was in elementary school.

 

My baby teeth fell out after the dentist pulled the last ones out (19).

 

You said it was in a magazine? Do you remember the name of the magazine? Give the company a call. Child porn is a big no no. However some porn companies go far out of their way to photo shop images to make them look much younger then they actual are. I'm sure it wasn't a magazine of child pornography. Have a straight up talk and ask him if it was child porn (talk like froward thinking adults, not arguing). Then make your decision based on that. Can you let yourself trust him still? And if not then do what has to be done. No guy likes being called out on porn knowing that his gf/wife doesn't like him looking at it. It very well could have been a one time deal. I've let curiosity get the best of me and looked at things i would have rather not seen. It doesn't mean I'm addicted to it or like it.

 

My 2 cents.

 

EDIT: Lets say young (looking) girls, it was a one time deal. After he got that thru his system, he wants to look at normal everyday pornography. Knowing how big of a deal it was the first time getting busted, yeah i'd definitely go out of my way to make sure i didn't get caught looking at porn again.

[needyourhelp21]

where did he buy it? toys r us? im sure the store had other magazines.

 

That actually made me smile for the first time all day

 

I know it is such a lame excuse

[Pinnsvini]

they were still getting visits from the tooth fairy.

 

and if that's the case, i don't believe for a second they are 18. my last baby tooth fell out while i was in elementary school.

 

This sums it up. Body shape isn't a good indicator of age as some adult females will still have little to no breasts or hips (though not a huge amount), but tooth growth is.

All my teeth were out by the time I was about 11, and were fully grown at about 15. If girls are missing adult teeth and have that slightly 'bunny' front tooth look you get as your adult front 4 teeth dominate your mouth, than that is a SEVERE problem as they are massively underage.

[needyourhelp21]

M Have a straight up talk and ask him if it was child porn (talk like froward thinking adults, not arguing). Then make your decision based on that.

 

We have talked about it but how can you believe anyone?

 

When I hear him say his piece I almost believe it.. but then a day or two will go by and it nags at me again.. and the stress builds and builds

[Pinnsvini]

We have talked about it but how can you believe anyone?

 

When I hear him say his piece I almost believe it.. but then a day or two will go by and it nags at me again.. and the stress builds and builds

 

What does he say when you talk about it?

[needyourhelp21]

His argument, just to tell both sides :

 

"Didn't ever think of it that way.... just bought what was in the store.... admitted to using them but also just keeps saying he didn't realize they looked so young until I pointed it out..

He has only ever slept with one other person, she was 25"

[needyourhelp21]

he says he will never do it again.. swears up and down that he does not think of kids that way and that it really hurts him that i think so

 

 

but actions do speak louder than words sadly for me

[Pinnsvini]

The whole 'really hurts him' thing is an attempt to make you feel bad for questioning him, and therefore detracting from what he's done; don't fall for it. HE is the one who is at fault here.

Any normal man would baulk at the sight of young girls like that, they would definitely 'realise' something was wrong if the girl they were wacking one out to looked young enough to be his daughter.

And actions definitely do speak volumes. The deleting the history thing is extremely suspicious- nobody does that unless they have something to hide from someone.

[Slagar]

The whole 'really hurts him' thing is an attempt to make you feel bad for questioning him, and therefore detracting from what he's done; don't fall for it.

 

Is it? So, what was he supposed to say?

 

The deleting the history thing is extremely suspicious- nobody does that unless they have something to hide from someone.

 

This I agree with. However, he could just be very scared after how she's reacted and scared of the consequences of being caught with any kind of porn.

 

he says he will never do it again.. swears up and down that he does not think of kids that way and that it really hurts him that i think so but actions do speak louder than words sadly for me

 

Do you think he was being genuine? If I was him, I'd realise how stressed you are about this, and come completely clean, fast.

 

I guess that if he's still being secretive then something is up. And the fact he asked you to have a lollipop once shows he's got some kind of fetish there. Either way, it's causing way too much stress for you, so it sounds like it's time for a little no-contact.

[winchester3]

We have talked about it but how can you believe anyone?

 

When I hear him say his piece I almost believe it.. but then a day or two will go by and it nags at me again.. and the stress builds and builds

 

Well then if you REALLY cant get over it then try taking a break from your relationship. Give it some time. No need to end things over what seems to be blown out of proportion. I don't often browse porn mags in the store before i buy them either.