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Last summer I found porn magazines in my fiance's bedroom with girls who were supposed to be 18 (legal age) but they physically looked about 12 years old..

 

I understand that some men like to look at girls who are wearing school girl outfits.. but this was a whole different thing.. some girls barely had their baby teeth in

 

he claimed he didn't think of them as young but it was impossible not to

 

with titles like "daddy's not home yet" and images of little girls

 

It has been a few months and I have tried to get over this. I honestly have.. but I think about it on average 10 times a day and on average we've fought about it once a week.

 

I haven't found anything else since he promised not to look at anything of that nature

 

but I can't get the images of those young, young children (or 18 year olds who looked 12) out of my head

 

I am afraid

 

I really do not want to leave him but I feel like I have tried my hardest to get over this but I can't

 

 

what should I do?

 

I yell and scream at him .. am stressing myself out because we now have the internet and i am afraid he is looking at it on there

 

I will come home from work and the history is deleted (he claims this happens "on it's own" but it has never happened to me!)

 

I have looked through cookies and caches.. i can't find anything

 

 

I hate being this stressed out and constantly worrying and nagging and yelling and spending an hour each night trying to find traces of pre-teens on our computer

 

 

should I get over it or should i leave him?

 

also, if i should get over this.. how can i do it?

how can I live knowing he ever looked at those kids?

 

he is 27 years old this april, just so you know

 

 

 

thanks

 

any help is appreciated

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Uhhh, I would seriously get out now. This is really bad. What would happen if you ever had kids together!?

 

...and internet history does not delete itself like that. Did you check temporary internet files too?

 

This.

 

That is disturbing.

 

You can set your internet browser to delete the history every time you close the browser, check and see what the settings are, and if it's set on that, switch it.

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well, some girls are 18 and look like they are 12 or 13. and some 18 year olds look 25! i would find it disturbing to find those images.

 

let me ask you a question - say you had a 12 or 14 year old niece or cousin. would you feel weird having her stay with you guys for a weekend?

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I've tried everything! cookies, cache, history.. I've tried to find something to download to monitor things but they are all upwards of $150

 

I'm debating in my head on whether or not to tell you to get something like that. Not only for your own piece of mind, but mainly because child pornography is a serious crime, and law enforcement takes it very seriously. You don't want to get caught with something like that on your computer, even if it wasn't you looking at it, you may still get in trouble. That's not something to mess around with. Not only is it horrible and disgusting, but very illegal.

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I will come home from work and the history is deleted (he claims this happens "on it's own" but it has never happened to me!)

 

That's a lie. History doesn't get deleted on it's own, unless it's been configured that way (in which case he specifically set it up that way).

 

You paint a creepy picture indeed, and personally I find the idea very disturbing.

 

But I ask, how long have you been going out? What is he like besides this?

You know him better than we do - could it be a fairly harmless fetish?

 

That sort of thing is common on the internet, so it must be working for somebody

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Getting upset takes alot out of you and i am sorry that you are going through his. Have you checked to see if he is a registerd sex offender? have you done a back ground check. If this is anything this is a Huge Red Flag that you are going to have to think about. No one can really tell you what to do. Trust your gut. Things arent looking good rght now. Maybe a break is needed. Dnt forget your gut.

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RE: scorpion fury .. I'm debating in my head on whether or not to tell you to get something like that.

 

 

it would be disturbing to see the pictures again

i know they have software that will only track what you type

or just keep the website urls to see what words they have in them

 

if anyone knows how to save history to a separate file, please let me know

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That's a lie. History doesn't get deleted on it's own, unless it's been configured that way (in which case he specifically set it up that way).

 

You paint a creepy picture indeed, and personally I find the idea very disturbing.

 

But I ask, how long have you been going out? What is he like besides this?

You know him better than we do - could it be a fairly harmless fetish?

 

That sort of thing is common on the internet, so it must be working for somebody

 

I don't think liking young girls is a "fairly harmless fetish".... It's way disturbing and I could never be with someone who was into that.

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RE: scorpion fury .. I'm debating in my head on whether or not to tell you to get something like that.

 

 

it would be disturbing to see the pictures again

i know they have software that will only track what you type

or just keep the website urls to see what words they have in them

 

if anyone knows how to save history to a separate file, please let me know

 

is this your computer, his, or do the two of you share it?

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Were they full grown women (with curves and all) dressed as young girls?

 

Or did they look like young girls (thin, no breasts, really young face)?

 

There is a huge difference between the two and I want to make sure that this is clear.

 

they were still getting visits from the tooth fairy.

 

and if that's the case, i don't believe for a second they are 18. my last baby tooth fell out while i was in elementary school.

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they were still getting visits from the tooth fairy.

 

and if that's the case, i don't believe for a second they are 18. my last baby tooth fell out while i was in elementary school.

 

That could be easily fake though.

 

And just because the magazine he owned had that in it does not mean that he liked that part.

 

I'm just saying that if this is a magazine filled with busty women dressed like school girls and cheerleaders, that this is way different than a magazine filled with people who really look like they are undeveloped.

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thanks for responding.. i am having a really hard time still

 

wow. I'm sorry hon. that is very disturbing, and i couldn't get past it personally. if he had a magazine like that, he has a fetish for young girls. i don't think those girls were over 18. articles on how to lure little girls with candy? oh wow.

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